No thank you notes for money?

Tulips29 · December 2013

What does one do if they receive a check in the mail along with a decline to attend the wedding? We sent early invites to some friends and relatives who live oversees so they can start planning a bit early. One family sent the response card back along with a check saying they won't be able to make it. Do I just call them and say thank you/wait until after the wedding to send them a thank you card along with everyone else's/buy a random thank you card and mail it back to them now?

Jen4948 · December 2013

Tulips29 said:

What does one do if they receive a check in the mail along with a decline to attend the wedding? We sent early invites to some friends and relatives who live oversees so they can start planning a bit early. One family sent the response card back along with a check saying they won't be able to make it. Do I just call them and say thank you/wait until after the wedding to send them a thank you card along with everyone else's/buy a random thank you card and mail it back to them now?

Send them a thank-you note expressing gratitude for the check and what you plan to spend the money on, and that you'll miss them at your wedding. Then cash the check. But don't spend the cash until after the wedding.

RebeccaB88 · December 2013

Cash the check and send a thank you note now, so they know you received it.

RebeccaB88 · December 2013

Double effing post.

Gisellerina · December 2013

@Weesh - Registering for Honeyfund is just registering for money. So, I'm not sure what they did with the money. If it comes in the form of a check, I'm going to guess it hasn't been cashed . . . And, I'm fairly certain they haven't sent anyone Thank Yous.

@RebeccaB88 - Opening gifts 5 years after the wedding? Your cousin must have set some sort of record. I'm guessing she was also in the no Thank You note category?

RebeccaB88 · December 2013

Gisellerina said:

@Weesh - Registering for Honeyfund is just registering for money. So, I'm not sure what they did with the money. If it comes in the form of a check, I'm going to guess it hasn't been cashed . . . And, I'm fairly certain they haven't sent anyone Thank Yous.
@RebeccaB88 - Opening gifts 5 years after the wedding? Your cousin must have set some sort of record. I'm guessing she was also in the no Thank You note category?

RebeccaB88 · December 2013

Gisellerina said:

@Weesh - Registering for Honeyfund is just registering for money. So, I'm not sure what they did with the money. If it comes in the form of a check, I'm going to guess it hasn't been cashed . . . And, I'm fairly certain they haven't sent anyone Thank Yous.
@RebeccaB88 - Opening gifts 5 years after the wedding? Your cousin must have set some sort of record. I'm guessing she was also in the no Thank You note category?

I don't think she sent notes, but I was in college at the time and couldn't afford a gift, so my mom put my name on their gift. I know my mom wouldn't send her a baby gift when her son was born. I think she maybe took off enough paper to see what the gifts were, but left them boxed and put away and never even used most of it. I know she had almost no idea what people had given her.

KPBM89 · December 2013

The last three weddings I've been to, I gave cash/ gift cards and received no thank you for any of them. The first of the three was my own cousin. I gave them a card with money inside, as well as a small gift from their registry. No thank you for either. The second wedding I was in. I gave them several gifts & dropped a lot of money on everything. Then at their wedding I made them a beautiful card with "his" and "hers" gift cards for stores I knew they wanted them from. No thank you there. The last was on one my best friends. I gave her a gift card to the store she registered at (we had to travel 15 hours to get there and 15 back, with two dogs, so traveling with a gift wouldn't happen). My FI and I both had to miss work for two days to do all the traveling. No thank you there.

Essentially my point is that people are rude. Thank yous are necessary no matter what the gift was.

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