why would he marry her?

Tchavon1984 · December 2013

Do you ever see a couple and wonder why a person would even marry the other person? I know there is someone in the world for everyone but I'm convinced some ppl may settle. I work at a Resort so I meet a lot of new ppl. and some of these ppl are just flat out mean! I just had a lady tell her husband to "just shut the f**k up and let me talk" her poor husband just lowered his head you could see it on his face how miserable he was. I see it so often. Wife's a sweetheart husbands a Dick. Husbands the sweetest and the wife is the worlds biggest BITCH. The way my brain works I always wonder what attracted these ppl to each other and whats making them stay together? *shrug*

PolarBearFitz · December 2013

Maybe he cheated on her with her best friend and she just found out right before they ran into you.

I mean I hate to see people act unkind to one another but sometimes people have bad days, receive bad news, or are hurt and act stupidly. Then again some people are just rude, insulting and unkind. You just never know what kind of journey people are on.

Tchavon1984 · December 2013

very true, it's just sad to see ppl can come on a week long vacation in a beautiful ocean front property and still be so miserable. but hey what can you do? other then look at them with disgust

tmclawchick · December 2013

This reminds me of when we take DS to Disney World. We've gone twice and each time inevitably you see families who have reached their limits. Parents are yelling, kids are wailing, *shakes head*... so much for the happiest place on earth lol...

PolarBearFitz · December 2013

Tchavon1984 said:

very true, it's just sad to see ppl can come on a week long vacation in a beautiful ocean front property and still be so miserable. but hey what can you do? other then look at them with disgust

Pretty much!

krizzo17 · December 2013

Some people also just seem to get some sort of kicks out of being unhappy, or having drama, or whatever. I am related to some of these people - it takes a lot to avoid getting caught up in that with extended family, so I can't imagine trying to live with someone who chooses to be unhappy or angry.

My mom and I went on a cruise a few years ago and named some of the other travelers "the doo-doos". From the first time we saw them at the airport, for 4 whole days, until they got on their plane home, these two had the most sour faces and were usually complaining to some poor airport/cruiseline employee. Buy a drink and suck it up!

Tchavon1984 · December 2013

lol at the Doo-Doo's

KatWAG · December 2013

I wouldnt judge the quality of someone's relationship based on a 30 second interaction.

Tchavon1984 · December 2013

for me it's not a 30 sec interaction. as much as I wish but I'm stuck with the miserellas for a week.

KatWAG · December 2013

Tchavon1984 said:

for me it's not a 30 sec interaction. as much as I wish but I'm stuck with the miserellas for a week.

Really? You said you work for a resort. So how much interaction could you possibly have with a couple on vacation? Its not like you are sitting down to dinner with them.

Tchavon1984 · December 2013

I work at the front desk of a resort. So when they check in I interact with them, when they have questions or problems in their room I interact with them. When they check out I interact with them and every other little moment in between. I never said I had their relationship all figured out. I said based on what I see it makes me wonder. I just used a couple here as an example but I'm speaking in General. Everyone else seemed to pick up on that. But whatevz

KatWAG · December 2013

Tchavon1984 said:

I work at the front desk of a resort. So when they check in I interact with them, when they have questions or problems in their room I interact with them. When they check out I interact with them and every other little moment in between. I never said I had their relationship all figured out. I said based on what I see it makes me wonder. I just used a couple here as an example but I'm speaking in General. Everyone else seemed to pick up on that. But whatevz

So each of those interactions is what? 2-3 minutes. And from that you think you are qualified to judge someone character and marriage? I might consider loosening up your judgy pants.

ETA: spelling fail.

tmclawchick · December 2013

KatWAG said:

Tchavon1984 said:

I work at the front desk of a resort. So when they check in I interact with them, when they have questions or problems in their room I interact with them. When they check out I interact with them and every other little moment in between. I never said I had their relationship all figured out. I said based on what I see it makes me wonder. I just used a couple here as an example but I'm speaking in General. Everyone else seemed to pick up on that. But whatevz
So each of those interactions is what? 2-3 minutes. And from that you think you are qualified to judge someone character and marriage? I might consider loosing up your judgy pants.

I get what you're saying here, but at the same time if someone is on vacation and telling their spouse to shut the f*ck up, and/or if each 2-3 minute interaction involves someone acting poorly, I'd be willing to bet they're like that the rest of the year as well...

Tchavon1984 · December 2013

omg please get a life! it's like you spend your time on TK going at ppl to get a kick outta your day. if a person is in your face being a bitch to you, her husband or whoever. your not gonna sit there and say oh my she must be going thru something your gonna say she's a bitch. so loosen up your holier than thou pants if anything. like I said I made a general statement. for you to keep going and trying to prove a point over something so petty is dumb must have hit a nerve.but again whatevz

PolarBearFitz · December 2013

Ladies, ladies, ladies...

...in a world where perception is everything sometimes we question and judge.

Wondering if people suck because they act like jerks in front of you is a normal query of the mind. I don't think by any means @tchavon1984 is being extra judge-y, more so curious as to how people who seem like jerks can find anyone to tolerate them. Now this lady may not be a jerk but was perceived as one for her public interaction with her husband. Perception is a lot but as I said in my first post 'you never know what journey people are on.'

@katwag has a life of her own and what she says in response to the OP is her opinion. This is the internet and everyone has one. I have seen her posts on a number of occasions and she doesn't spend her time 'going at people.'

Can't we all just get along...?

Tchavon1984 · December 2013

tmclawchick said:

KatWAG said:

Tchavon1984 said:

I work at the front desk of a resort. So when they check in I interact with them, when they have questions or problems in their room I interact with them. When they check out I interact with them and every other little moment in between. I never said I had their relationship all figured out. I said based on what I see it makes me wonder. I just used a couple here as an example but I'm speaking in General. Everyone else seemed to pick up on that. But whatevz
So each of those interactions is what? 2-3 minutes. And from that you think you are qualified to judge someone character and marriage? I might consider loosing up your judgy pants.
I get what you're saying here, but at the same time if someone is on vacation and telling their spouse to shut the f*ck up, and/or if each 2-3 minute interaction involves someone acting poorly, I'd be willing to bet they're like that the rest of the year as well...

thank you! I know what I'm trying to say and what I meant. these ppl walk back and forth in front of me all day if I see you five times a day 5 days out of the week and you are miserable every single time I see you you are probably a miserable person. I'm placing judgement based on behavior its not like I'm looking at someone and saying oh she looks like a bitch without ever interacting with them.

tmclawchick · December 2013

aefitz29 said:

Ladies, ladies, ladies...

...in a world where perception is everything sometimes we question and judge.

Wondering if people suck because they act like jerks in front of you is a normal query of the mind. I don't think by any means @tchavon1984 is being extra judgey. As I said in my first post 'you never know what journey people are on.'

@katwag has a life of her own and what she says in response to the OP is her opinion. This is the internet and everyone has one. I have seen her posts on a number of occasions and she doesn't spend her time 'going at people.'

Can't we all just get along...?

*sprinkles glitter*

PolarBearFitz · December 2013

KatWAG · December 2013

Tchavon1984 said:

omg please get a life! it's like you spend your time on TK going at ppl to get a kick outta your day. if a person is in your face being a bitch to you, her husband or whoever. your not gonna sit there and say oh my she must be going thru something your gonna say she's a bitch. so loosen up your holier than thou pants if anything. like I said I made a general statement. for you to keep going and trying to prove a point over something so petty is dumb must have hit a nerve.but again whatevz

Woah, someone got defensive fast. You started this thread. I added my opinion. Since you are getting all worked up over this, the internet might not be for you.

tmclawchick · December 2013

Yeah...this escalated quickly...

Tchavon1984 · December 2013

I'm not basing it on this one post. I've had other post where she has done the same thing. Like get off your high horse is it really that serious as you said it's the internet. anyways over it.... but to continue on what I said earlier the same lady just threw her papers at the lady across the lobby from me. so I think my judgy pants were correct she's a bitch lol whateva she's going thru is serious

Tchavon1984 · December 2013

KatWAG said:

Tchavon1984 said:

omg please get a life! it's like you spend your time on TK going at ppl to get a kick outta your day. if a person is in your face being a bitch to you, her husband or whoever. your not gonna sit there and say oh my she must be going thru something your gonna say she's a bitch. so loosen up your holier than thou pants if anything. like I said I made a general statement. for you to keep going and trying to prove a point over something so petty is dumb must have hit a nerve.but again whatevz
Woah, someone got defensive fast. You started this thread. I added my opinion. Since you are getting all worked up over this, the internet might not be for you.

child please. I could say the same for you

climbingsingle · December 2013

IMO, how a person treats their significant other in public speaks a lot about their character. I always say the same for how a person treats waiters, waitresses, bartenders and any kind of service staff. That said, sometimes people just have bad days. Sometimes they are cranky and sometimes they snap at people. I'm definitely guilty of that.

I, however, would never tell my FI to "shut the fuck up", especially not in public.

Tchavon1984 · December 2013

ClimbingBrideNY said:

IMO, how a person treats their significant other in public speaks a lot about their character. I always say the same for how a person treats waiters, waitresses, bartenders and any kind of service staff. That said, sometimes people just have bad days. Sometimes they are cranky and sometimes they snap at people. I'm definitely guilty of that.

I, however, would never tell my FI to "shut the fuck up", especially not in public.

I'd be so embarrased to be on the recieving end. I just really felt for her husband. I agree with you 100%

smalfrie19 · December 2013

there are days where I have definitely said unkind things to FI in public. While its not right, that doesn't necessarily make me a bad person. It just makes me bad at managing my emotions.

For example, If FI insist on going grocery shopping at 4 30pm and I haven't eaten all day and then he wants to wander the aisles looking at everything in the store..he's probably going to get a snarky comment or two out of me.

Tchavon1984 · December 2013

we all have at some point but I think there is being snarky and there is being absolutly disrespectful. having moments are understandable. we snap we apologize and move on but when your attitude shows you have no respect for others let alone your SO you probably should be alone and figure out whats going on in your life thats making you so angry

Tchavon1984 · December 2013

alisonmarie658 said:

smalfrie19 said:

there are days where I have definitely said unkind things to FI in public. While its not right, that doesn't necessarily make me a bad person. It just makes me bad at managing my emotions.

For example, If FI insist on going grocery shopping at 4 30pm and I haven't eaten all day and then he wants to wander the aisles looking at everything in the store..he's probably going to get a snarky comment or two out of me.

lmao @ the Christina Gif

smalfrie19 · December 2013

Tchavon1984 said:

we all have at some point but I think there is being snarky and there is being absolutly disrespectful. having moments are understandable. we snap we apologize and move on but when your attitude shows you have no respect for others let alone your SO you probably should be alone and figure out whats going on in your life thats making you so angry

Curious (Having worked for an extension of Ritz Carlton myself) when you saw this woman was clearly on edge and in a foul mood, did you ask her if there was anything you could do to make her stay more comfortable? perhaps her trip was stressful or something went wrong at the airport?

afox007 · December 2013

smalfrie19 said:

there are days where I have definitely said unkind things to FI in public. While its not right, that doesn't necessarily make me a bad person. It just makes me bad at managing my emotions.

For example, If FI insist on going grocery shopping at 4 30pm and I haven't eaten all day and then he wants to wander the aisles looking at everything in the store..he's probably going to get a snarky comment or two out of me.

Your FI should consider himself lucky. I'm nice to FI 99% of the time but ANYTIME we are in a grocery store I turn into a miserable bitch whether I'm hungry or not...grocery stores just overwhelm me unless its 2 am and totally empty

smalfrie19 · December 2013

afox007 said:

smalfrie19 said:

there are days where I have definitely said unkind things to FI in public. While its not right, that doesn't necessarily make me a bad person. It just makes me bad at managing my emotions.

For example, If FI insist on going grocery shopping at 4 30pm and I haven't eaten all day and then he wants to wander the aisles looking at everything in the store..he's probably going to get a snarky comment or two out of me.
Your FI should consider himself lucky. I'm nice to FI 99% of the time but ANYTIME we are in a grocery store I turn into a miserable bitch whether I'm hungry or not...grocery stores just overwhelm me unless its 2 am and totally empty

Full disclosure: I FUCKING HATE GROCERY SHOPPING WITH MY FI!!! I HATE it...I prefer to go alone..I make a list and get what I need and get the fuck out...

Tchavon1984 · December 2013

smalfrie19 said:

Tchavon1984 said:

we all have at some point but I think there is being snarky and there is being absolutly disrespectful. having moments are understandable. we snap we apologize and move on but when your attitude shows you have no respect for others let alone your SO you probably should be alone and figure out whats going on in your life thats making you so angry
Curious (Having worked for an extension of Ritz Carlton myself) when you saw this woman was clearly on edge and in a foul mood, did you ask her if there was anything you could do to make her stay more comfortable? perhaps her trip was stressful or something went wrong at the airport?

she wants an ocean view (which we dont have avail) So when she started pointing out things that were wrong with her room I told her I'd be more then happy to have someone come up and fix those problems. In the middle of me speaking her Husband says "it's a nice room, its fine" she got loud with him turned to me and started to speak. He just said Hun and thats when she snapped. She said something along the lines of wanting a view and walked off.

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