Okay first, let me start off by saying, no I am not hosting my own shower, my bridesmaids and mom are, BUT my moh has asked me to put the guest list together. I do not feel comfortable having a huge number of people at the shower since I'm not the one throwing it, I feel like it's rude to invite a large number of people because I don't want to put the burden of paying for a bunch of people on my bridesmaids and mom.
I'm not exactly sure what the protocol for inviting people to a bridal shower is. I do know you do not invite them to the shower unless they are invited to the wedding, but I have a few questions about everything else.
I don't want to ask my bridesmaids to pay for a whole bunch of people, but I also don't know how to cut the guest list down without offending people.
- I've heard you're supposed to invite every female that is invited to the wedding. We are having 250 guests, so this results in 100+ females
- I've heard that it's not every female, it's just a few close friends and family. I'm closer to 99% of my friends invited to the wedding than I am to my family, so I feel like only inviting mainly family members and a few friends isn't right
- Do I have to invite his family members? (as in cousins and what not) they don't really know me, and I've been to showers where I didn't know the bride and it was super awkward.
- I've read on these boards that people think a good number for a shower is around 50, and that anything bigger is just annoying because it's too many presents to have to sit around and watch be opened.
Thanks for the advice!