Okay I will try and make this a short as possible. Very, very long story made short FI has a female "friend" from back in his childhood. I say "friend" because they are no longer really close and she is a bit of a trouble maker so I kind of distanced us from her and her husband. She's a little crazy. When FI and I first got together I didn't really know his other friends and we used to go to their house a lot and she is just crazy. She would scream at her husband in front of us, boss him around, etc. It was just really weird. FI also has 2 sisters who are good friends with her. A few times we were at her house she would start talking nasty about FI's sisters. She also tried to convince me that another friend of FI's sisters had a crush on my FI and that when I wasn't around she was hitting on him, etc. This is completely untrue me and this other girl are now very good friends and I love her, so basically crazy pants tried to make me hate her for no reason. She would also call/text my FI all the time and was just inappropriate like overly touchy/feely towards him and it started to really get on my nerves. A few times we went out to the bars/dancing together and she would like hit on guys and do things that def crossed a line and I just couldn't trust her really after witnessing her lack of morals especially towards her own marriage. I eventually expressed me dislike for her to FI and said I didn't feel comfortable being over there with her talking crap about his sister's behind their backs because I obviously didn't want her to run and say I was gossiping about them with her because I wasn't. Her life is kind of a hot mess (pregnant at 16, three kids, house in and out of foreclosure etc). So overtime we just stopped hanging out so much with them. Well this progressed into her endlessly FB stalking me and saying nasty things about me behind my back. Whatever, I just ignored her for the most part. Now almost 2 years ago now FI and I bought a condo and her and her husband "separated" for awhile and of course the only apartment she could find to rent was in our complex. GO FIGURE. She has since moved back out but it was just super weird.
Anyways fast forward to recently, we were at FI's parents house for a party and she was there. We barely speak anymore because I just really do not care for her and she asked to speak to me outside. So I agreed and she basically apologized for all the drama she ever started and wanted me to know how happy she was for me and FI and that she respected me as his future wife. Blah blah blah. I said oh okay great! In my head I'm thinking whatever we haven't talked in over 2 years but OK good to know crazy pants. So point of all this story is we just sent our save the dates. FI and I discussed her and her husband at length and decided not to invite them. She has caused too many problems and there is just too much history I don't want someone who tried to drive a wedge of jealously between me and the other girl and obviously start a fight over it between me and my FI there. She clearly has some sort of issue. So that was that FI agreed and all was fine. Well FI's sister was over her house the other night and apparently she is DEVASTATED and was crying that she didn't get an STD and that she couldn't believe after all the years her and FI were friends she wasn't invited to see him get married to someone else. (Odd choice of words if you ask me!!) So when FI's sister told us this FI felt bad and suggested maybe inviting her.
What would you all do? She is honestly the absolute last person I would ever want to see at my wedding. I know the past is the past but there is just some things as a woman you never really forget. If it weren't for FI's sisters/family knowing her and being close to her in a way then I wouldn't think twice but I know if she's not invited they will probably never hear the end of it. FI says he doesn't care either way but I do respect that at one point albeit we are several years out of high school now they were good friends. I am conflicted. WWYD?