The Venue of My Dreams and the other bride

huskypuppy14 · December 2013

Just have your wedding on Sunday. Maybe I'm biased (6-14-14 bride) but 12-14-14 sounds cool too! I appreciate that it's your actual anniversary, but sometimes you can't have everything.

My FI and I really wanted to get married on 6-21-14, because it's the first day of summer. But it wouldn't have worked with my sister's schedule and our venue was booked. Oh well, and now I love my date!

raw1299 · December 2013

tell them your willing to go down, sign a contract and put a deposit. They should give this so called other bride 24 hours, and if she doesn't respond, you should jump on it. And thats being nice.

Edit: do both ceremony and reception on both days. If you don't, you going to have some pissed off family. I would probably decline a reception-only wedding.

Rebl90 · December 2013

I get the initial desire to want your wedding on a day that is already special to you, but if this is truly your "dream venue", then wouldn't that be worth changing it? My FI and I said all throughout our dating that it would be nice to get married on our dating anniversary, but instead, because of next year's calendar, we will be getting married about a week later. And you know what, then we will have two special days to remember every June.

(And I found my "dream venue" before we picked a date, I asked them what was available that month and we chose among those days)

Wzz · December 2013

i wonder what happened on friday, dec 20th.

VarunaTT · December 2013

In case there is any misunderstanding, "me" is in reference to this post.

Vivandiere8 · December 2013

i also came across a venue that gave you a week where it was put on hold, no contract, no money down. So it is done. OP, i know how you feel about the reception site you love. If I were you i would sacrifice the date to have it at the place I really loved, because as cool as the exact date might be that's one thing, but the entire day of the reception, the pictures, the experience of the guests, getting married and then joining your guests right away in celebration... Personally I know I would be happier with all those memories rather than the knowledge of the significant date. But it is up to you in the end.

Jena8ly · January 2014

Well, just to update this, here is what happened...

First and foremost let me clear up the fact that 12/13/14 is our ANNIVERSARY, I couldn't care less that it is an ascending date. We wanted to get married on our ANNIVERSARY.

Secondly, I went to see the venue, while I love it, it really didn't possess all the happy, shiny feelings I wanted it too. In the end, it was more important to me to get married on our anniversary rather than twist everything else around to get that venue. I ended up taking my FI to look for venues with me and we stumbled across a great place! We booked it.

Finally, I would like to thank those of you who took the time to give me advice.

Jena8ly · January 2014

No I had seen it before, it'd had been a few years since I'd last been inside. I was there for a function that had a tent. Since my wedding would have had to have been indoors, I wasn't good at the spacial relation between the tables for my guests and the room sizes. Logistically it wouldn't have worked without a tent outside, and with Kentucky weather in the winter, there was no good way to plan on having one.

SBmini · January 2014

@jena8ly you have to answer this question: what is more important to you- the date or the venue? Pick one. If it is the date, then you'll need to find another venue, if it is the venue, than change the date. But to split everything across two days so you can get both is not the ideal solution for your guests.

I was in the same boat as you. I had my ideal date and I found the perfect reception venue! The ceremony site was holding a spot for us on our day, but the reception site was on hold by a bride who hadn't committed yet. I about died of stress that week while I waited. After contacting about 50 places and actually looking at about 10 I couldn't stomach the thought of finding another place.

We had decided that if the reception place fell through we would book the ceremony site and just find another reception site that wasn't as spectacular as the one we wanted. But, the clouds parted, the sun shown down in glorious rays and we got the reception venue we wanted. So I hope the same happens for you.

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