Struggling with my guest list for who gets invited to the ceremony and reception and who just gets invited to the reception. Large crowds in small areas make me extremely nervous and trying to avoid this by having a small private ceremony with a large reception. FI has a huge (50+) family just including first cousins, whom all live nearby. Also our ceremony venue will only accomodate around 70 guests. How do I tactfully word invitations and what do I do when someone asks about the ceremony?