I am in need advice in regards to my maid of honor. I have known her for many years and grew up with her, so when I got engaged I of course thought of no one else to my maid of honor. To get things started she fought me over her dress for three weeks! Then a few months ago she told me that she didn’t feel like my Maid of Honor and it was really upsetting her. I tried to calm her by saying that it’s fairly early into the wedding planning and the fact that she doesn’t live in the same state and it is going to be is going to present some obvious challenges but I would try to include her in on more things. Although, she has not reached out to ANY of my bridesmaids or my wedding planner to begin planning anything, bridal shower or bachelorette party, nothing.
Weeks after that, I had found a dress that I had fallen in love with online and made an appointment to go try it on the dress. The down side was that the only place that had it was three states away from me so it was going to be a crazy weekend trip, but on the upside I would be passing through the town in which my Maid of Honor lives, she said would go but at the last minute backed out saying she didn’t feel comfortable traveling to the other city. I was so disappointed and hurt. My fiancé and others in my family say that I should kindly explain to her that I really need a Maid of Honor that has my back and is going to be a sure thing and perhaps ask her to just be a bridesmaid, I feel like this would end the friendship but on the other hand I can’t be worrying about her and what she’s unhappy and not comfortable with on my wedding day. I really need some advice on what to do.
Regretting my Maid of Honor