My fiance are getting married in Houston, Texas, where we met and where I was born and raised. We now live in Reno, NV and I am having such difficulty with how to properly word asking our guests to either ship any presents or give cash or gift certificates in order for us to avoid a huge shipping cost after the wedding, plus we are leaving for our honeymoon the day after the wedding from Houston. I have created a wedding website where I was going to list the information, but is it proper to ask them to do this? And if so, are there any ideas of how to word it?
Thanks so much!!!
Re: How to inform guests that we would like for them to ship or give cash...
[QUOTE]I went to a shower last year for a friend of mine. Both she and her FI are in the Air Force. She flew in for the weekend of her bridal shower and flew back Sunday night. Obviously she couldn't really take gifts with her. I think her Mom put something on the invitation like, "The bride and groom have registered at X. Due to the bride living out of town of the location of the shower gift cards are appreciated." Something along those lines. I remember even thinking it was a good idea to tell people that because of her unique circumstance. Something like that is ok I think.
Posted by maribeth721[/QUOTE]
You can mention gifts on the shower invitations but never on wedding invites.
As an aside, it was pretty ballsy of the hostess of the shower to ask for gift cards instead of physical gifts. It's the same as asking for cash. The brides should have paid to have everything shipped back, registered somewhere like BB&B where she could have returned everything and then repurchased it once she was home or declined any kind of gift giving shower.
OP - We shipped gifts brought to the reception in San Francisco to our home here. It wasn't nearly as expensive as we thought it would be using the USPS.
If you really prefer cash, make a small registry and people will get the hint.
Many people will ship the gifts to your home, but some might bring them to the wedding. The onus is on YOU to get them home, not pass the shipping costs off to your guests because you "don't want to deal with it."
Either ship them home after the wedding or return them to the store/re-buy when you get home.
Have your registry listed then follow that line with: Please send gifts to (address)
Then if they have further questions they can ask.
[QUOTE]maybe you could include something like.. Have your registry listed then follow that line with: Please send gifts to (address) Then if they have further questions they can ask.
Posted by Jdunk2008[/QUOTE]
This is bad advice. As PPs have said, gifts and registries should never be mentioned on the wedding invitations.