Sick Men.

GoldenPenguin · January 2014

Can we talk about this for a minute? Do any of your SOs turn into sniveling little babies at the first hint of an illness?

BF has had a slightly rattly cough for two days. Last night I said to him "I hope you don't have bronchitis - all I have to do is THINK about it, and I get it." (I get bronchitis AT LEAST once or twice a year, every year, my whole life. I have sensitive lungs.) He sighs and goes "I don't think that's it. I hope I don't have pneumonia."

Okay, drama queen, let's settle down a little bit. You've been coughing for two days, and your first thought is that you have PNEUMONIA?! I go "have you ever HAD pneumonia before?" "No." dahuigonoiuvprnaelndafjkdioapghiohgf

In other news, if he doesn't start rinsing his dishes before putting them in the sink/dishwasher, I'm legitimately going to cut him.

[Deleted User] · January 2014

same here! sometimes, if H has a headache for a few hours, he starts wondering if it could possibly maybe perhaps be a tumor or something. his mother is the same way.

buddysmom80 · January 2014

YES! I call it a man-cold. FI had it the week of Christmas and was coughing like he was dying. I'm in the bedroom watching Breaking Bad in an episode where Walter is coughing a lot, and FI is in the other room doing the same thing, I'm like "STAHP! I'M WATCHING BREAKING BAD!"

I caught the same cold, and was fine. I cooked, cleaned, did laundry, all that shit.

I HATE when he leaves empty soda cans on the coffee table. Or leaves dishes piled up in the sink. We have a dishwasher, it's okay to use it!

beanbot2002 · January 2014

lololol el Senor is sick right now, too. He was fine at 8pm, deathly ill at 10pm. In his defense, I think he might actually have caught the flu, but I could be way wrong. He just up and got a fever, chills, and sore throat out of literally nowhere. He was restless all night, kicked me all night long, and talked/moaned in his sleep. I really really really hope I'm wrong, cause if he gives me the mutant flu that's been going around, I just might cut him.

melmac86 · January 2014

I used to get bronchitis at least once per year growing up. Thankfully it's been a long time since I've had it. BF is actually the opposite. He could be half-dead before he'd let me push him out of the door to an MD. He told me once that he waited so long to be seen for a sore throat that he ended up in the ER, after everything became so inflamed that he was having issues breathing. They gave him either IV antibiotics or a shot of antibiotics, I can't remember. Ridiculous. I bet your BF's worst enemy is WebMD.

bethsmiles · January 2014

Yes, BF is such a baby when he gets sick. Part of it is legitimate, he has scar tissue in his lungs from having whooping cough as a child which makes having a cough a lot worse than it would normally be. But part of it is him just being pathetic.

BF's dad is a hypochondriac though and always thinks he is dying. One day he was in a horrible mood. The next day BF's mom asked him what was up and he said "Oh, I had a headache so I thought I had a brain tumor" WTF?! That is not logical at all!!

Hummingbird125 · January 2014

Haha, I'm going through this right now, although FI hasn't been totally helpless this time at least. He has a bad cold and sinus infection and asks me to make him tea a few times a day. He also didn't get out of bed until about 1pm today (although he was working from his laptop at least). What's annoying me now is that even though he sounds terrible, he wants to walk our dog down to the gas station to buy a redbull. It's like 7 degrees out - no one should be going for a walk, let alone someone who's been sick for the past 3 days. Idiot!

GoldenPenguin · January 2014

OH I forgot this part.

Me: Are you going to go to the doctor tomorrow?

Him: No.

Me: YOU ARE AFRAID YOU HAVE PNEUMONIA BUT YOU AREN'T GOING TO GO TO THE DOCTOR.

If the phantom pneumonia doesn't kill him, I will.

minskat30 · January 2014

Ha! This is hilarious. H is a bit of a "worry wart". The second he feels a stomach pain or something he immediately jumps to the conclusion that it "must be cancer". I try not to let him Google symptoms.

beanbot2002 · January 2014

@brisox81 el senor refuses to go to the doctor. He actually had a killer bout of bronchitis last year and waited over a week to go to the doctor. I finally yelled at him because Bean gets it bad due to his asthma. I told him that if he got Bean sick, that his life was going to be fucking hell for 3 months and then described the joys of a 10 year old on the nebulizer/with roid rage.

He went to the doctor.

phira · January 2014

I've got the opposite problem. My partner will constantly deny that he's really that sick, and he will continue to go to work, or go to any event he's supposed to go to (and stay THE WHOLE TIME). He's been sent home sick on more than one occasion because his coworkers can't even pretend he's just mildly sniffly.

It irritates me for several reasons. First of all, it takes him longer to get better because he doesn't rest. So he's sicker for longer, which means he's miserable for 2-3 extra days.

Second of all, I have a chronic illness and miss work a lot because of it, and it makes me feel like I have no work ethic because I'm not trying to power through. He's wonderfully sweet and supportive about it, always insisting that I NEED to stay home, that it's important for me to rest. But the fact that he won't take his own advice makes it kind of unhelpful.

Finally, I'm immunosuppressed. When I interact with people who are sick, I'm MUCH more likely to get sick now than I was when I wasn't suppressed. When I get acutely ill, I'm much sicker than other people, and I stay sick for longer. Colds tend to last 2 weeks (that's two weeks where I am home really sick almost every other day).

Obviously, when he's sick, I'm at a high risk of getting sick, but we go to great lengths to keep that from happening. Strangers on the T are not working nearly as hard to prevent immunosuppressed people from catching their bugs.

End rant.

KeptInStitches · January 2014

My BF kind of does both - like @phira's partner, he'll refuse to believe he's sick (and then I catch his colds), but heaven help you if you're near him and he gets a headache or the flu. Part of the problem is he never had headaches as a kid, so now as an adult he has no clue how to handle them.

This last bout of flu, I did have to take some things back, though - the chills were unbelievable and I had to eat crow when I finally got them.

tuarceatha · January 2014

@melmac86 My H is like your BF. And they have beards. Anyways, we went fishing with my dad and some other people and H got way sea sick. Like where he looks sorta dead and is just barely breathing because the air in his mouth makes him more sick? After hours of this discomfort he finally accepted some Dramamine and felt relief. He could've taken it hours before and been better off, but he isn't like that. For me, if I know there is medicine that will make me feel better or if puking is needed, I'm all over that. Bring. On. The. Relief.

I'm likely to cut my H over his in ability to toss wrappers and break down his cereal box. The trash is RIGHT THERE. Toss it. TOSS IT.

GoldenPenguin · January 2014

tuarceatha said:

@melmac86 My H is like your BF. And they have beards. Anyways, we went fishing with my dad and some other people and H got way sea sick. Like where he looks sorta dead and is just barely breathing because the air in his mouth makes him more sick? After hours of this discomfort he finally accepted some Dramamine and felt relief. He could've taken it hours before and been better off, but he isn't like that. For me, if I know there is medicine that will make me feel better or if puking is needed, I'm all over that. Bring. On. The. Relief.

I'm likely to cut my H over his in ability to toss wrappers and break down his cereal box. The trash is RIGHT THERE. Toss it. TOSS IT.

OMG YES. The garbage needed to be taken out two days ago. But because he's SIIIIICCCKKK, instead of taking the fucking bag out & replacing it, he just kept squishing stuff down on top. We were NOT friends last night.

melmac86 · January 2014

Phantom pneumonia! LOL!

@beanbot2002 - my younger sister used to turn into a complete monster after neb treatments. She was 4 when she was first diagnosed with asthma. I remember I went to sit by her on her bed after she had just gotten through with a treatment and she kicked me in the stomach so hard I cried. I stayed far away from her after that!

audrewuh · January 2014

H has been swearing for a couple of years now that he needs glasses. But will he go to the eye doctor? NOPE.

He went to the doctor for pink eye a few weeks ago and the doc did an eye exam. He told H that his eye sight was just on the border of needing glasses. Congratulations weirdo, go get you some glasses!

Now if he doesn't stop digging through the laundry hamper and leaving dirty clothes strewn ALL OVER the damn bedroom, immacutabitch.

[Deleted User] · January 2014

@phira- H is just like your partner. He is a teacher so he catches things from his students constantly and brings them home for me to catch too. He doesn't take care of himself though...he looks so miserable and sick but I ask him, "Have you taken anything or rested?" H, "no..." UGHHH it's super irritating. We have seriously been sick since October because he will catch something and then I will get it and then pass it back to him back and forth. I usually feel fine after a couple of days of being ill but his lasts forever!

Swazzle · January 2014

H doesn't get sick often (like maybe 4x in all the years we've been together) but you'd have thought he was dying. Each time it was a sinus thing that lasted maybe 3 days, tops. I used to get chronic sinus infections that'd last for weeks before my surgery so I am well aware of what it's like. It was always just SO. MUCH. WORSE. for him.

He's also notorious for not rinsing his dishes. We don't have a dishwasher so they'll sit in the sink until I do them and then I see all the fucking GUNK and I just want to be like: Nope. Not touching this.

labro · January 2014

Ughhhhh FI is like this. He turns into a completely helpless baby whenever he's sick. Wherever he goes he leaves a trail of cups, bowls, tissues, magazines, whatever and our house ends up looking like a disaster area. I'm like...how can you do this much damage in just one day???

phira · January 2014

@southernpeach89 SOUNDS VERY FAMILIAR.

melmac86 · January 2014

tuarceatha said:

@melmac86 My H is like your BF. And they have beards. Anyways, we went fishing with my dad and some other people and H got way sea sick. Like where he looks sorta dead and is just barely breathing because the air in his mouth makes him more sick? After hours of this discomfort he finally accepted some Dramamine and felt relief. He could've taken it hours before and been better off, but he isn't like that. For me, if I know there is medicine that will make me feel better or if puking is needed, I'm all over that. Bring. On. The. Relief.

I'm likely to cut my H over his in ability to toss wrappers and break down his cereal box. The trash is RIGHT THERE. Toss it. TOSS IT.

All that facial hair must somehow block the common sense from allowing it to do its job. SO stubborn.

I have to admit, BF is the tidier one in this relationship. I'm quite ashamed of my inability to pick up after myself at times. Most times. He jokes that it looks like I live out of my car.

audrewuh · January 2014

@lmhollister H is like that on a normal basis. I just want to scream JUST PICK UP YOUR STUFF! And then he gets in these cleaning moods and he's like, we need to clean the apartment. It's an absolute mess.

NO SHIT SHERLOCK.

GoldenPenguin · January 2014

Swazzle said:

H doesn't get sick often (like maybe 4x in all the years we've been together) but you'd have thought he was dying. Each time it was a sinus thing that lasted maybe 3 days, tops. I used to get chronic sinus infections that'd last for weeks before my surgery so I am well aware of what it's like. It was always just SO. MUCH. WORSE. for him.

He's also notorious for not rinsing his dishes. We don't have a dishwasher so they'll sit in the sink until I do them and then I see all the fucking GUNK and I just want to be like: Nope. Not touching this.

Seanathan & Scottopher really are BFFs. This is probably the second time in the time we've been together that he's been sick, but it's like the world is ending.

I also made A LOT of noise & several emphatic sighs while cleaning the kitchen (AGAIN) last night. I don't think he got it.

tuarceatha · January 2014

melmac86 said:

tuarceatha said:

@melmac86 My H is like your BF. And they have beards. Anyways, we went fishing with my dad and some other people and H got way sea sick. Like where he looks sorta dead and is just barely breathing because the air in his mouth makes him more sick? After hours of this discomfort he finally accepted some Dramamine and felt relief. He could've taken it hours before and been better off, but he isn't like that. For me, if I know there is medicine that will make me feel better or if puking is needed, I'm all over that. Bring. On. The. Relief.

I'm likely to cut my H over his in ability to toss wrappers and break down his cereal box. The trash is RIGHT THERE. Toss it. TOSS IT.

All that facial hair must somehow block the common sense from allowing it to do its job. SO stubborn.

I have to admit, BF is the tidier one in this relationship. I'm quite ashamed of my inability to pick up after myself at times. Most times. He jokes that it looks like I live out of my car.

Mmmm facial hair.

Oh, no. I don't mean to misrepresent myself. I'm pretty sloppy. Piles of clothes that need to be hung, dirty glassware in my office, etc. etc. But like, if I open a bag of cheese. I throw away the piece I rip off that exposed the zip lock. And every single week when H grabs the last banana from the produce bag, he leaves it there. For days. His excuse is that he is in too much of a rush in the AM. But what about that night? Or the next day? Something about these items is blaring, I guess because it is every. single. week. And honest to god, he has about 8 empty tubes of toothpaste in the top drawer of our bathroom sink. Actually there are several items like this he collects.

I am just realizing I think I married a hoarder.

Please advise.

melmac86 · January 2014

@tuarceatha Oh no. I have no advice. I think you just described me. I've been trying to get better at it, because I drive myself crazy and I was definitely NOT raised to be such a slob.

labro · January 2014

@audrewuh I totally get that! He'll get into a cleaning mood and be like "We should be better about putting dishes in the dishwasher" or "We need to do a better job of folding laundry right after it comes out of the dryer" and I'm just like ugghhhhh I already DO all of these things because I just get to them faster than he does.

phira · January 2014

My current favorite is, "Wow, the fish tank is really dirty and the water level is dangerously low!" YEAH BECAUSE YOU HAVEN'T CHANGED THE WATER IN ABOUT 2 MONTHS.

buddysmom80 · January 2014

melmac86 said:

tuarceatha said:

@melmac86 My H is like your BF. And they have beards. Anyways, we went fishing with my dad and some other people and H got way sea sick. Like where he looks sorta dead and is just barely breathing because the air in his mouth makes him more sick? After hours of this discomfort he finally accepted some Dramamine and felt relief. He could've taken it hours before and been better off, but he isn't like that. For me, if I know there is medicine that will make me feel better or if puking is needed, I'm all over that. Bring. On. The. Relief.

I'm likely to cut my H over his in ability to toss wrappers and break down his cereal box. The trash is RIGHT THERE. Toss it. TOSS IT.
All that facial hair must somehow block the common sense from allowing it to do its job. SO stubborn.

I have to admit, BF is the tidier one in this relationship. I'm quite ashamed of my inability to pick up after myself at times. Most times. He jokes that it looks like I live out of my car.

Mmmm facial hair.

Oh, no. I don't mean to misrepresent myself. I'm pretty sloppy. Piles of clothes that need to be hung, dirty glassware in my office, etc. etc. But like, if I open a bag of cheese. I throw away the piece I rip off that exposed the zip lock. And every single week when H grabs the last banana from the produce bag, he leaves it there. For days. His excuse is that he is in too much of a rush in the AM. But what about that night? Or the next day? Something about these items is blaring, I guess because it is every. single. week. And honest to god, he has about 8 empty tubes of toothpaste in the top drawer of our bathroom sink. Actually there are several items like this he collects.

I am just realizing I think I married a hoarder.

Please advise.

Not to go O/T but I think FI's mom is a closet hoarder. Every time FI goes to see her, he comes home with some Danbury Mint collectable. I'm like "why do you have these???" he says his mom doesn't have room for them, so she gives them to us to pass down to our future children. We have a spice rack set, Betty Boop watches, some figurines, all of these things are for our future children, because I know toddlers LOVE to play with spice racks. He ends up stacking them in the storage areas in our extra bedrooms so it's not like they're still in the way but STILL. WHY DO WE NEED THIS? She bought me a Danbury Mint set of "Pandora bracelets" for every month of the year, FI's like "you have to keep those out, she'll want to know you're wearing them". I appreciate the gift, but instead of buying 12 bracelets, watches, spice racks, figurines, just buy one NICE one.

@brisox81 FI does the same thing with the trash, that drives me insane.

@tuarceatha FI does the open something up, leave the plastic top part on the counter. WHY????

tuarceatha · January 2014

lmhollister said:

@audrewuh I totally get that! He'll get into a cleaning mood and be like "We should be better about putting dishes in the dishwasher" or "We need to do a better job of folding laundry right after it comes out of the dryer" and I'm just like ugghhhhh I already DO all of these things because I just get to them faster than he does.

ohhhh I hate that. The "We should clean up today." ... I have cleaned stuff today. And yesterday. Did I announce it? Invite you to help? No. I just did it.

Swazzle · January 2014

Oh my god.

Yesterday I worked for 9 hours, commuted home, went food shopping, put away the groceries, took down all of the Christmas decorations, put the living room back in order, did the dishes, dusted and swept the kitchen, living room, and bedroom, did 2 loads of laundry, and started dinner.

H gets home after I've done ALL that and tells me that I got him the wrong kind of Vitamin Water and I should have put the washer on hot water instead of medium.

It's a miracle he is alive and walking today.

minskat30 · January 2014

Swazzle said:

Oh my god.

Yesterday I worked for 9 hours, commuted home, went food shopping, put away the groceries, took down all of the Christmas decorations, put the living room back in order, did the dishes, dusted and swept the kitchen, living room, and bedroom, did 2 loads of laundry, and started dinner.

H gets home after I've done ALL that and tells me that I got him the wrong kind of Vitamin Water and I should have put the washer on hot water instead of medium.

It's a miracle he is alive and walking today.

You, my dear, are a saint. When H does this to me I just give him the eye and ask him "Would you like to refrase that?" He usually gets the point.

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