People say the darndest things....

jdluvr06 · January 2014

@PDKH well she sounds pleasant *sarcasm*

thisismynickname2 · January 2014

These are doozies, ladies, yeesh.

Here are mine:
1) when FI an I first seriously talked about getting engaged, I told my sister and said at the same time I hoped to get a ring modeled after Princess Di's. The first thing she replied? "Can you live with that ring the rest of your life?"
Not, "oh, you're getting engaged!!!" Or some other sisterly response.

2) my bff's mother asked where we were having the reception and when I told her she replied, "Oooo that place is really expensive, my husband and I had a date there 20 years ago and paid $90 for our bill even then!"
Me: well they have great wedding packages. Have you tried the bean dip?

dramamonkey · January 2014

From the start I told my mom I had NO desire for flowers...real ones anyway. I made a brooch bouquet for myself, plus ribbon and fabric bouquets/bouts/corsages.

At least once a week, she would ask me what kind of flowers I wanted....you know, for one arrangement....there needs to be some greenery/flowers.

manateehugger · January 2014

pumpkinsandturkeys said:

@PDKH Wow. I don't even know what to say. I can't imagine saying to my future kids, "Hey, completely humiliate the person you love more than anything because I'm not really a fan, k? K. Oh, and I'll give you some cash to do it."

Yep. Ever since then, visits to this lady are brief and infrequent despite the fact that she lives about an hour away from where FI grew up.

Apparently, FFlL was umm...less than pleased by the offer to say the least.

KytchynWitche · January 2014

I've gotten a lot of grief over our colours (shades of green). And I had about 20 people who would never be on the guest list invite themselves to the wedding, before we had even set a date.

CLI242009 · January 2014

Wow just wow ladies. I'm really sorry you all had to go through that. The only w.t.f moment I've ever really had was a conversation with my mother on Thanksgiving. For her b-day (Sept) and christmas present, I bought her, her dress for the wedding. When it came in she said she liked it and that it was fine, only problem was it was too long, easy fix.

She then proceeds to ask me what is FI's mother wearing? Has she picked a color yet? I told my mother that FMIL was looking at either silver or a lighter blue (navy/marine, white and silver are our wedding colors). My mom blows up and is upset that SHE is able to wear blue, that I told her that you can't wear blue. I did not say this, she might of taken it that way and that is her fault for assuming. I told her that if she wore dark blue she might be mistaken as a BM and if she wanted that, okay. The other thing too is nothing blue was in her size (my mother is a larger woman).

My mom did the heavy sighing, silent treatment and I proceeded to ignore it, continuing the conversation. I told her that FMIL was leaning towards silver. My mother then says this:
"Oh gee thanks a lot. You put me in purple and make me look like a big giant fucking grape, why you make her look like a bright shining star"

I seriously froze. I literally had no idea what the hell to say to that. I recovered and basically ignored the comment and talked to her about a few more things I needed to get her answers on and then hung up as soon as I could.

Chipmunk415 · January 2014

I've posted before about this...FSMIL and FFIL said something to us about inviting FSMIL's father to the wedding in front of said father...what could we do without looking like a-holes? He's invited.

FSMIL also wanted us to invite her sister, brother, and their SOs (well, she didn't want the brother's SO, but she doesn't care about etiquette). We're stunned, as FSMIL is always talking bad about these two. Even more interesting, she doesn't bother coming to us and saying "hey, its your day, but I'd really like it/appreciate it if you would consider sharing it with my siblings as well as your dad's sibs and FI's late mom's sibs." No. She tells her husband to tell us she wants them invited. Are we in middle school?

I've never met these people. FI has. FI was ok with sister (went to school with sister's daughter years ago), but hates the brother- brother is a racist, sexist jerk. We agree we will invite the sister, despite the potential tension. Tell FSMIL we have room for the sister, and to please send address. No word. Text FSMIL, request sister's address. Receive in return sisters and brothers addresses. FI asks his dad his thoughts on best way to tell FSMIL that brother is not invited. No response. Receive text from FSMIL saying for her side its her sister, sister's so, brother and daddy. FI is now pissed. Sends message to his dad that as a result of this BS, neither sib is invited now (had not yet sent invite). Father's feeling- its your day, do what you want.

FSMIL continues to be kinda chilly, PA, as she has been in the past. Stay tuned for follow up!

PolarBearFitz · January 2014

These are awesome and make me feel so much better about what I've had to listen to:

FSIL suggested we have a PPD because I told her one day I couldn't wait to marry my FI and September seemed far away. She thought we should just go to the Court House now and then have a 'real wedding' later. I had to educate in laws family about what PPDs are and how they are tacky. Turns out someone in their family was planning/wanting to have one...
Friends of friends inviting themselves to the wedding before we had even picked a date. People demanding invitations and if they don't get one they are just coming as someone's plus one.
Continuous suggestions on bridesmaids dresses from people who aren't bridesmaids. Why would you even care? I'll let my bridesmaids give opinions on that thanks!
If I have to hear the words 'Well back when I got married...' one more time I might vomit.

Senecaf · January 2014

FIs mom has acted like I am completely stupid for not doing a B list. Because it is not rude and is totally common sense and I appearently don't possess common sense. That among many other things. I don't have the resources to do all the things she thinks we need to have. Every cost cutting option I've mentioned she is appauled by.

pumpkinsandturkeys · January 2014

Just had another one...

Old friend of FI's was out with him and some of their friends one night (I wasn't able to go), and felt as though she wasn't the center of attention and should have been. She proceeded to text nasty stuff to FI at 1am, including saying that they all clearly don't give a crap about her because they have FIs/GFs/etc and went as far as to blame it all on us getting married. Uh, we've been together almost 5 years and you're blaming my engagement (which is fairly new) on you being an AW?

She then took to social media to rant about it, and included the hastag #womenarebitches. Shortly after, she texted FI again and said that it's obvious to her after his 'behaviour' that night that she's not invited to the wedding.

After you acted like a bratty, spoiled teenager (even though you're middle-aged), you can bet your ass you're not invited to my wedding. The last thing I need is someone making our day all about them instead.

smalfrie19 · January 2014

pumpkinsandturkeys said:

Just had another one...

Old friend of FI's was out with him and some of their friends one night (I wasn't able to go), and felt as though she wasn't the center of attention and should have been. She proceeded to text nasty stuff to FI at 1am, including saying that they all clearly don't give a crap about her because they have FIs/GFs/etc and went as far as to blame it all on us getting married. Uh, we've been together almost 5 years and you're blaming my engagement (which is fairly new) on you being an AW?

She then took to social media to rant about it, and included the hastag #womenarebitches. Shortly after, she texted FI again and said that it's obvious to her after his 'behaviour' that night that she's not invited to the wedding.

After you acted like a bratty, spoiled teenager (even though you're middle-aged), you can bet your ass you're not invited to my wedding. The last thing I need is someone making our day all about them instead.

ugh..how awful!!!!!

HaileyDancingbear · January 2014

pumpkinsandturkeys said:

Just had another one...

Old friend of FI's was out with him and some of their friends one night (I wasn't able to go), and felt as though she wasn't the center of attention and should have been. She proceeded to text nasty stuff to FI at 1am, including saying that they all clearly don't give a crap about her because they have FIs/GFs/etc and went as far as to blame it all on us getting married. Uh, we've been together almost 5 years and you're blaming my engagement (which is fairly new) on you being an AW?

She then took to social media to rant about it, and included the hastag #womenarebitches. Shortly after, she texted FI again and said that it's obvious to her after his 'behaviour' that night that she's not invited to the wedding.

After you acted like a bratty, spoiled teenager (even though you're middle-aged), you can bet your ass you're not invited to my wedding. The last thing I need is someone making our day all about them instead.

…So you're a bitch for being engaged to some you've been with for 5 years? And everyone else is also a bitch for being in relationships? Wtf is wrong with that girl? Being the smart ass I am I'd probably reply back with "Yes, you're not invited because #Iamabitch."

pumpkinsandturkeys · January 2014

HaileyDancingbear said:

pumpkinsandturkeys said:

Just had another one...

Old friend of FI's was out with him and some of their friends one night (I wasn't able to go), and felt as though she wasn't the center of attention and should have been. She proceeded to text nasty stuff to FI at 1am, including saying that they all clearly don't give a crap about her because they have FIs/GFs/etc and went as far as to blame it all on us getting married. Uh, we've been together almost 5 years and you're blaming my engagement (which is fairly new) on you being an AW?

She then took to social media to rant about it, and included the hastag #womenarebitches. Shortly after, she texted FI again and said that it's obvious to her after his 'behaviour' that night that she's not invited to the wedding.

After you acted like a bratty, spoiled teenager (even though you're middle-aged), you can bet your ass you're not invited to my wedding. The last thing I need is someone making our day all about them instead.

…So you're a bitch for being engaged to some you've been with for 5 years? And everyone else is also a bitch for being in relationships? Wtf is wrong with that girl? Being the smart ass I am I'd probably reply back with "Yes, you're not invited because #Iamabitch."

Apparently! And she and I have NEVER had any issues prior to now -- we always got along.

I was tempted to say something snarky back, but FI knows me well enough to ask me not to stir shit up, because this chick is the type who will never learn, anyway. So I just removed her from all of my social media. I don't need people like that in my life.

princessleia22 · January 2014

Yesterday I had a coworker ask me "So, are you still getting married?" My response to him was, "Yeah. Wait, am I supposed to cancel it? Is there some standard procedure of canceling the wedding a few times that I wasn't informed about?"

I also have had a different coworker straight out tell me that I should dump my FI and go out with a work acquaintance that has a crush on me. He's been telling me this for a few years because he doesn't think FI is good enough for me (yes, he told me that too). It was inappropriate before I was engaged and certainly inappropriate to be saying it 6 months before my wedding. FI may not have a huge income, but he treats me amazingly and we get along too well to not be together.

ohmrs2014 · January 2014

Wow ladies, these are doozies. I'm not sure mine will be able to stand up against some of these but here they are:

1. My mom feels horribly about not inviting one of her cousins, and said that if someone replies back "no they aren't coming", she is going to send this cousin and her husband an invite. Um no, I'm paying not you so you don't get to chose the guest list (though FI and I were considerate enough to ask our parents who they wanted to invite and this cousin wasn't on the list) and b-listing is horribly rude.

2. My dad saying that my wedding isn't traditional and its going to be a circus because:

a. We went for more untraditional and fun invites

b. We don't want to do a bouquet and garter toss, instead doing an anniversary dance

c. Aren't getting married in a church

3. FIs cousin saying that she wants to walk down the aisle before his parents because she's apart of his family and people should know that.

4. FIs mom is worried that his cousin (same one who wants to be escorted) will allow her husband to bring his mistress to the wedding (yes you read that right, she also lives with them, but thats a whole other story LOL). I simply replied back, well if the RSVP card is sent back with more than 2 attending well then they can enjoy a nice phone call from me.

5. FIs sister telling us in the beginning that she wanted no part of the wedding party but then a few months later complaining to their parents that she was so upset and hurt that she wasn't asked. Fine, asked her. I had wanted her to be apart of the wedding but I didn't want to push it on her. Then she tells us that she doesn't care what she wears, just tell her what to buy and she will. We did that and then she complained to parents about not being included in the process. GRR!!

blondeej · January 2014

We got engaged Christmas day.... I called my FMIL last Thurs and invited her to coffee. She and my FI's younger sister/her daughter have been nothing but wretched to me the whole time FI and I have been together. With us getting engaged, I wanted to put this all out on the table and move forward due to the fact that I am her FDIL and Mother to her future grandchildren... she proceeded to tell me:

1) FI and are are not in love, he is only in lust with me

2) I have had ulterior motives since day one "and THIS proves it" as she slaps my guest list in front of her

3) the only reason FI's dad and stepmom love me and have accepted me from day 1 is because "he knows it pisses me off"

4) I told her we want cupcakes instead of cake, to which she replies "ugh... people want CAKE." and rolls her eyes....

there was lots more - that is just the highlight reel......

hikebikebemerry · January 2014

Eeek! I'm so sorry that everyone has to deal with these ridiculous statements!

Mine are nothing compared to most people. I've had a few remarks that I thought were.. interesting?

1. My Mom told me that my sister's dress cost $x, but I really didn't need anything that nice. (She also said this about a house if/when FI and I move.. wtf?)

2. My friend wrote me this extremely sweet note congratulating me on my engagement. It was so kind of her to do, but it was a little off putting to me that it was all, "Don't you feel like you aren't empty inside anymore? Like you've known each other in a past life? That's because you're soulmates!" I love my FI so much, and he makes me feel a way I have never felt before, but I didn't feel empty. I guess I just don't like the whole "You were an empty shell of a hag before Mr.Man came along".

3. People asking me if it's going to be snowing on my wedding day. I understand if someone is coming from a different region of the country wanting to know what type of layers they should bring, but I'm not a weather lady! I do not know that the weather will be in 10 months!!

4. People giving me the wrong/strange etiquette advice. I got this one today: J's Aunt Soandso and Cousin Bonnie want to make sure that Cousin Suzy's BF is invited, so make sure to write "and Guest" on the inner envelope of the invitation. Thanks, but we are going to do our best to find out the names of people's SO's, so that we can invite them by name.

thisismynickname2 · January 2014

@hikebikebemerry your #2 sounds like the movie Bride Wars: "You're dead right now". Ugh to the overall sentiment that women aren't complete unless they're married.

hikebikebemerry · January 2014

thisismynickname said:

@hikebikebemerry your #2 sounds like the movie Bride Wars: "You're dead right now". Ugh to the overall sentiment that women aren't complete unless they're married.

I haven't seen Bride Wars, now I might have to!.. but I totally agree with the Ugh! I feel like it's a little insulting on a personal level, with the whole "you aren't complete without your partner". But also, it glosses over the idea that marriage takes a lot of work and compromise.

GrrArgh · January 2014

PDKH said:

@pinkcow13 and @jdluvr06 I have no idea! Lol she said it was "garish." I don't know, I think she really just doesn't like our colors and was trying to convince me to change them. She's just really really particular and "always right."

She made FMIL miserable during FI's parents' wedding process. She offered FFIL money to leave FMIL at the altar on their wedding day.

I make it a point to remind crazy old bats like her that they are closer to meeting Jesus and Jesus doesn't like hate... may want to get their act together.

pinkcow13 · January 2014

blondeej - that sounds like an absolute nightmare. Any idea why they feel this way about you? you would think they would drop their animosity towards you after the engagement.

hikebikebemerry thisismynickname - I actually watched the movie this weekend! I also thought that part was so weird and some people really do think that. "A wedding marks the first day of the rest of your life" LOL. Hilarious movie.

GrrArgh - that is an awesome response haha

Chipmunk415 · January 2014

@GrrArgh, your response reminds me of one my Dad used as a kid back in the 40s....his mom made him go to a Catholic school, and one day he had his baseball cards in his desk to look at with other boys during recess time. He was not playing with them, acting out, etc, but his instructor (a nun) saw him put them in his desk. She removed them, yelled at him, and confiscated them. When he went up to her at recess, and explained what he had intended them for and could he please have them back, she informed him that she had burned them (back when a furnace system was that accessible). Dad lost it (he'd spent 4 years collecting these cards- today, they'd be worth a ton of money to collectors). He told her that Jesus loved children, was fine with children playing and such, and had admonished the disciples not to hurt children (suffer the little children). He informed her she was going to Hell for doing something so meanspirited when he'd done nothing wrong. Said nun had a meltdown.

blondeej · January 2014

@pinkcow13 - It's just his mom and sister that have treated me this way... he's the oldest and only boy - and his mother loudly professes often how he's her "favorite" over his sister. He's 24 and she thinks he still needs to be single and living at home and hanging out with her and his grandparents daily. I've never seen anything like it!!! A man's own mother that doesn't want her son to be happy. So selfish. She's been asked twice now to name concrete reason's as to why she doesn't like me or what I've done to her to deserve this treatment and both times there's nothing she can say. Other than the BS she spouted above. ugh

@GrrArgh - LOL!! I love that response!

MrsDeRuyter87 · January 2014

blondeej said:

We got engaged Christmas day.... I called my FMIL last Thurs and invited her to coffee. She and my FI's younger sister/her daughter have been nothing but wretched to me the whole time FI and I have been together. With us getting engaged, I wanted to put this all out on the table and move forward due to the fact that I am her FDIL and Mother to her future grandchildren... she proceeded to tell me:

1) FI and are are not in love, he is only in lust with me

2) I have had ulterior motives since day one "and THIS proves it" as she slaps my guest list in front of her

3) the only reason FI's dad and stepmom love me and have accepted me from day 1 is because "he knows it pisses me off"

4) I told her we want cupcakes instead of cake, to which she replies "ugh... people want CAKE." and rolls her eyes....

there was lots more - that is just the highlight reel......

Yikes! She sounds horrible.

blondeej · January 2014

@MrsDeRuyter87 - lol, something like that! My FI says she's delusional... and his dad (her ex-husb) feels so bad for me that he told the FI that he thinks he needs to "sit down and have a heart to heart" with me about her to try and fill me on on just how cray she is and how I can't take any of this to heart, not like I was anyways, but still.... eesh

GrrArgh · January 2014

Chipmunk415 said:

@GrrArgh, your response reminds me of one my Dad used as a kid back in the 40s....his mom made him go to a Catholic school, and one day he had his baseball cards in his desk to look at with other boys during recess time. He was not playing with them, acting out, etc, but his instructor (a nun) saw him put them in his desk. She removed them, yelled at him, and confiscated them. When he went up to her at recess, and explained what he had intended them for and could he please have them back, she informed him that she had burned them (back when a furnace system was that accessible). Dad lost it (he'd spent 4 years collecting these cards- today, they'd be worth a ton of money to collectors). He told her that Jesus loved children, was fine with children playing and such, and had admonished the disciples not to hurt children (suffer the little children). He informed her she was going to Hell for doing something so meanspirited when he'd done nothing wrong. Said nun had a meltdown.

My Mema's favorite saying "Jesus don't like ugly."

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