Name Envy

KytchynWitche · January 2014

I hate my name. I always have, and I'm fairly certain I always will. I just barely tolerate my nickname, because people have to call me something, right? FI loves my name, and is insisting that I use my full name for all our wedding stuff, which I think is pretty silly considering everyone knows me by my nickname, but I love him and if it makes him happy then I'll go with it.

For clarity, I'm talking about first names here.

So I'm wondering if anyone else feels the same way about their name? If you could change your name, what would you change it to?

Senecaf · January 2014

I actually really like my whole name. It is "cool". People have told me my entire life it sounds famous. I am now in my mid twenties and am clearly destined for mediocrity. My name is my last piece of special. I'm really on the fence about changing it when I get married.

vk2204 · January 2014

I had a friend in HS who changed her name by the time she was 13. She hated her real name - Earleen.

I am good with my name. Most people call me by nicknames which I like better. I have no clue what I would change it to if I had the option.

KytchynWitche · January 2014

vk2204 said:

I had a friend in HS who changed her name by the time she was 13. She hated her real name - Earleen.

I am good with my name. Most people call me by nicknames which I like better. I have no clue what I would change it to if I had the option.

Ouch! I would have changed my name too!

I'm still considering changing my name, or maybe switching my names around, but I think it may be a bit late to expect people to call me something different.

@Senecaf - How would FI feel if you kept your name as is? My sister's FI is happy with her not changing her name when they get married, my FI really wants me to take his name but says it's ultimately my call...

GrrArgh · January 2014

urbaneca said:

vk2204 said:

I had a friend in HS who changed her name by the time she was 13. She hated her real name - Earleen.

I am good with my name. Most people call me by nicknames which I like better. I have no clue what I would change it to if I had the option.

Ouch! I would have changed my name too!

I'm still considering changing my name, or maybe switching my names around, but I think it may be a bit late to expect people to call me something different.

@Senecaf - How would FI feel if you kept your name as is? My sister's FI is happy with her not changing her name when they get married, my FI really wants me to take his name but says it's ultimately my call...

well now I just want to know what your name is...

melbelleup · January 2014

Ha! I used to hate my name until college. Everyone I knew that had my name were old people. No joke. And waitresses (nothing wrong with that). Once I got into my senior yr of high school and into college I realized having a non-popular name was kind of nice. I never had to wonder if I was being announced over the intercom or not because if it wasn't my first name, it wouldn't be my last name. That being said, everyone misspells it so I've gotten into the habit of spelling out my first and last name (my last name is italian and means the florist, so everyone asks how to spell it after I say it) I can't wait til I change to my Mrs. last name. Hopefully I won't have to spell it out as much... I might have to ask FI about that lol btw- My first name is Melanie

climbingsingle · January 2014

I like my name. It's spelled differently than the common spelling of it, so people constantly spell it wrong. That's irritating. But otherwise, I really like it.

cupcait927 · January 2014

I'm not really a huge fan of my name. I've never thought it fits and it's SO common. Like when I hear someone call my name in a crowd, at least 3 other people besides me look up. And it's not just my first name that's common. I had a friend in 5th grade that had the same exact first and last name as me and by the time I got to high school, there were four of us with the same first and last name, but all spelled differently (there are like 50+ ways to spell my name). At least once I get married my last name will be different but it won't make me anymore of a fan of my first name.

KytchynWitche · January 2014

GrrArgh said:

urbaneca said:

vk2204 said:

I had a friend in HS who changed her name by the time she was 13. She hated her real name - Earleen.

I am good with my name. Most people call me by nicknames which I like better. I have no clue what I would change it to if I had the option.

Ouch! I would have changed my name too!

I'm still considering changing my name, or maybe switching my names around, but I think it may be a bit late to expect people to call me something different.

@Senecaf - How would FI feel if you kept your name as is? My sister's FI is happy with her not changing her name when they get married, my FI really wants me to take his name but says it's ultimately my call...

well now I just want to know what your name is...

My name's not bad, it just doesn't fit me. It's Elizabeth.

GrrArgh · January 2014

urbaneca said:

GrrArgh said:

urbaneca said:

vk2204 said:

I had a friend in HS who changed her name by the time she was 13. She hated her real name - Earleen.

I am good with my name. Most people call me by nicknames which I like better. I have no clue what I would change it to if I had the option.

Ouch! I would have changed my name too!

I'm still considering changing my name, or maybe switching my names around, but I think it may be a bit late to expect people to call me something different.

@Senecaf - How would FI feel if you kept your name as is? My sister's FI is happy with her not changing her name when they get married, my FI really wants me to take his name but says it's ultimately my call...

well now I just want to know what your name is...

My name's not bad, it just doesn't fit me. It's Elizabeth.

Ok see I'm from the south, specifically memphis area. I have seen some bad names... oh boy have I O_o Elizabeth is a lovely name, but I understand it not fitting right. I was that way with my first name for quite a while, for some reason that magically stopped a few years back and now I'm cool with it.

thejucheidea · January 2014

I've always been called by my middle name by my family. I hated my name when I was growing up because it was 'weird' -- no one else had my name. When I was in high school, I started signing all of my homework and tests with my first name because it's a 'normal' name. Now my (former) middle name is wildly popular: Harper. I still hate it. I was more than happy to drop my birth middle name and make my maiden name my middle name. My family still calls me Harper though, sigh.

KytchynWitche · January 2014

GrrArgh said:

Ok see I'm from the south, specifically memphis area. I have seen some bad names... oh boy have I O_o Elizabeth is a lovely name, but I understand it not fitting right. I was that way with my first name for quite a while, for some reason that magically stopped a few years back and now I'm cool with it.

LOL I can believe you have!

I live in a country where names like Nimrod, Grateful, Perception, and Adultery are fairly common, as are combination names (taking mom's name + dad's name to make a new name), so I'm really quite thankful that I got a classic name. I just feel like something more gender-neutral would fit me better. I feel like a Sam or a Lee, or maybe a Jo, you know?

KeptInStitches · January 2014

My first name was a fad, so I'm doomed to have an "old lady name" sometime down the road. Ick.

PolarBearFitz · January 2014

thejucheidea said:

I've always been called by my middle name by my family. I hated my name when I was growing up because it was 'weird' -- no one else had my name. When I was in high school, I started signing all of my homework and tests with my first name because it's a 'normal' name. Now my (former) middle name is wildly popular: Harper. I still hate it. I was more than happy to drop my birth middle name and make my maiden name my middle name. My family still calls me Harper though, sigh.

I grew into my first name and now love it. My middle name was also my childhood name. My family still calls my that and I like that they do fortunately.

I don't know anyone named Harper! Sorry you hate it, I think it's a sweet name but probably because I never hear it around here.

Jessa617 · January 2014

I used to hate my name growing up because nobody could say it correctly or spell it for that matter. I got called everything in the book that starts with a "J" besides my actual full name. As I got older I started to appreciate the uniqueness of my name. Turns out there's a few more people with my name out there these days so it's not so bad. Still frustrating when talking on the phone since I go by "Jess" to make it easier. That seems to make it more difficult for people. I get called Jeff a lot!

selenathegreat · January 2014

I'd say use your nickname on your wedding stuff if that's what you go by all the time...I think you should be able to decide what your own name is on your own invite! If I went by my middle name and my invite had my first name I'm sure I'd confuse everybody and feel like it wasn't really me, just like when people (often) get my long unwieldy name wrong on forms and letters and the like.

garnetandgold60 · January 2014

I have to say that I actually like my name, I think it fits me. I usually go by my "nickname" (shortened version of my full name) but I can use my full name professionally.

The only issue I've encountered is people not spelling my name correctly, it's the old English spelling, not the (now) more common French spelling. So I have a lot of "With a K, not a C...and -ryn, not -erine...no it's the old spelling and not part of the new damn lamentable trend of spelling everything with a y."

GrrArgh · January 2014

STORY TIME!:

I started using my middle name at work because my first name and modifications there of are wildly popular. My fiance met me while I was in uniform (it's something about a gal in scrubs with a white coat that drives the boys wild) which had my name badge with my middle name on it. So he started calling me by my middle name, I wasn't sure if we were going anywhere yet so I just sort of let it go.

Then all of a sudden I find myself having been swept off my feet, he's introducing me to his folks... all the while by my middle name. Meanwhile my entire family calls me by my first. We dated a good solid year with him calling me by my middle name before he finally asked if he could call me by my first, apparently he hates my middle name lol

He now calls me by my first name, and almost 2 years later some.. of his family have followed suit. I'm officially dropping my middle name with the marriage. I'll keep my maiden as my middle.

WinstonsGirl · January 2014

I like mine, but I find it hard for people to understand sometimes. It's not super common, but not unusual either, and it's only spelt one way, but I find non-native North Americans haven't heard it before and a a little confused about it when they hear it. They tend to need to hear it again, or have it spelt out.

pipeTsquared · January 2014

I hate my original first name - It is awful, It's a family name so I understand why my parents gave it to me but it is awful

My whole family has always called me by my original middle name. I never went by my first name. When I was 13 I officially switched them. My horrible first name became my middle name and my middle name became my first. Much better

Swazzle · January 2014

I don't love or hate my name. It's Rachel. I was named after my aunt who is also my godmother and ironically, I'm a lot like her.

I hate when people spell it 'Rachael' with a fiery passion, though. I just don't even understand why you'd make it more complicated or where that random ass A even came from in the first place.

Senecaf · January 2014

Now I want to know all of your names!

And @urbaneca I dont think FI cares. Everyone knows I'm non traditional. They would probably be more suprised if I do change my name. I'm really only considering it because of our children.

misscoffeeplease · January 2014

I feel kind of "meh" about my name. I don't love or hate it. My parents chose an American name for me and a Laotian middle name. I just feel like my name is more geared towards much older women.

tigersgirlgv · January 2014

I love my first name. It's not very common (I rarely run into anyone with the same name) but it's common enough that people know how to pronounce it/ spell it. I also have a lot of people tell me that it's a beautiful name/ they considered it for their child, which always makes me happy, even though I obviously had nothing to do with choosing it.

When I was little everyone called me a shortened version, but I really like the full name better, so once I hit middle school I started being asked to be called by my full first name. Now only a few people who have known me forever will call me by the shortened version on occasion.

JCbride2015 · January 2014

I grew up LOVING my first name because it's unique but also easy to spell. Both my first and last names are common nouns, which generally makes life (and spellcheck) nice and easy. And there's a cute story of how my dad named me.

However, I realized in high school that I have a stripper/ cheerleader/ slutty name. I love my name but I'm about to start practicing as a lawyer and I worry about people taking me seriously.

It would be sort of if my name were.... Raven or Diamond or Angel or something. Don't want to type it out for fear of searchable-ness later on, but here's a hint:

pinkcow13 · January 2014

My name is okay. I don't love it, and I don't hate it. What I do like though is that it is not *too* common. In fact, the only other person I know with my name is my freshman college suitemate [who is one of my best friends and one of my bridesmaids!]. The funny thing is we spell our names the same way, also. Our names can be spelled differently and I hate when people spell it wrong, or pronounce it wrong. In my opinion it's not that hard to spell or pronounce! Some of my friends and coworkers [including my fiance in writing] call me by my nickname which is my initials, TP. I actually loooove being called TP, and everyone loves calling me that lol. I'm gonna miss it when I get married because technically I'll be TS. Blech lol

chibiyui · January 2014

I like my name.

My Bio dad wanted a son so he could name him after his favorite western movie. Instead I was born so mom named me the feminine version as a compromise. She also spelled it wrong. Thus every english teacher I've ever had let me know my name is spelled wrong.

My name is also much more common in Jewish communities, so especially in High school when I actually wore my name badge at work, I'd get a lot of men who would come up and ask what my ethnicity was. It was awkward.

But I like my name.

kmmssg · January 2014

I have always liked my name, which is an unusual thing in my family. The names are horrendous. My mother absolutely hated her name. Hated it It was Fancheon, pronounced FanCHUN. Her middle name was Delight. My maternal grandmother had an equally horrendous name and must have decided her children needed to endure such Hell also.

I spent more time in Personnel in the military than any other arena. The last several years were at Division level and literally hundreds of names would cross my desk on a weekly basis. It was a daily occurence for someone to be reviewing a record and say "Well, his/her mom is going to get a sucky nursing home for that name."

We actually had a Soldier whose first and middle name are after a dwarf in The Hobbit. As soon as I watched the movie I was dying laughing. Poor guy.

manateehugger · January 2014

I hated my Indian name until late high school when I realized not having the same name as every fourth girl in the US was pretty cool. It still gets mispronounced every time though.

smalfrie19 · January 2014

My name is fairly common for girls my age, I don't hate it, but I feel a lot of girls my age were really snooty. My sister on the other hand has a name that typically end in an -er and hers is spelled -yr courtesy of my aunt. She has grown to like it and passed the "Y" trait on to her son who is an Ayden instead of an Aiden.

jdluvr06 · January 2014

My dad was a hippie and they named me and my sister after Greek goddesses. So growing up we both really hated our names. I'm lucky because I have a normal middle name and that is what I go by but my sister isn't so lucky.

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