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Oh no, she didn't!...Registry cards in the invites.

MissMandeyMissMandey
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So, a friend is getting married.  she plans to put registry cards in the invites.

Before I came to the knot...I didn't know this was wrong. I had received a ton of invites with registry cards, and I never cared. ....But now that I have had this ingrained in my head and now that I've really thought about it, I agree.

I didn't include a registry card. Seriously, if I hadn't came to the knot the day before I ordered invites, I would have totally had a registry card. I shutter at the thought.
I told her that registry cards in the invites are the biggest BFDs you've ever heard of etiquette-wise, and she just said, "Oh really? Oh well, I get invites all the time with the registry cards."
Anyways, we're going to pick out invites. Do I just keep my mouth shut if she starts talking about ordering them or do I make another effort to insist on the etiquette breach? I don't want her to do something that will make her look bad.
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  • louisvillebride21louisvillebride21
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    I'm from your general area, and I've never gotten an invite without one in it. I'd leave it be.
    "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs
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  • salt78salt78 member
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    Friends don't let friends make bad etiquette decisions. If she still chooses to not listen to you, then oh well. At least you're not the tacky one.
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  • danieliza1127danieliza1127 member
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    You already told her, if she's not worried about it, you shouldn't be either.  It's not your wedding.
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  • CA2MT4EveRCA2MT4EveR member
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    I got one in the mail the other day and it was printed on the invitation.  Even before TK I thought it was crappy, but now that I have seen even more validity in my thought, I agree even more.  Am I not going to their wedding because it said that on their invite? No, it's BF cousin. I will just go on, have a good time and not worry so much about what someone else did.
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  • MissMandeyMissMandey
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    Louisville bride: I totally know. This is so common in our area. That's why I didn't even know it was considered rude!
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  • shellydiane820shellydiane820 member
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    I feel like you're putting too much thought into someone else's invites.
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  • RachNRichRachNRich member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_oh-she-didntregistry-cards-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f362e920-44b4-4649-96ca-3406e0fbfa2dPost:e8081a1e-7fee-4853-88ca-d512124dba05">Re: Oh no, she didn't!...Registry cards in the invites.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Louisville bride: I totally know. This is so common in our area. That's why I didn't even know it was considered rude!
    Posted by MissMandey[/QUOTE]

    I think you read LVB's comment wrong.
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  • MissMandeyMissMandey
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    Well....that could very well be true.

    It's just one of those things, when you're planning a wedding too....you get to thinking every detail is so important.

    When someone is your friend, their details become important to you too.

    I just didn't want her to do the wrong thing. It comes from an honest place.
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  • CA2MT4EveRCA2MT4EveR member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_oh-she-didntregistry-cards-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f362e920-44b4-4649-96ca-3406e0fbfa2dPost:e8081a1e-7fee-4853-88ca-d512124dba05">Re: Oh no, she didn't!...Registry cards in the invites.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Louisville bride: I totally know. This is so common in our area. That's why I didn't even know it was considered rude!
    Posted by MissMandey[/QUOTE]

    I'm not sure it is area, but the stores that give people the little cards and encourage them to do it.  If they don't know it's tacky, they sometimes don't think about it and just do it.
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  • atayk21atayk21 member
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    The only time putting registry out there for people to know bugs me is when they put it in their engagement announcement in the paper. That's wrong, on so many levels.
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  • MissMandeyMissMandey
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_oh-she-didntregistry-cards-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f362e920-44b4-4649-96ca-3406e0fbfa2dPost:fd3a98bf-97a7-4120-af4d-ff46f00ee931">Re: Oh no, she didn't!...Registry cards in the invites.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Oh no, she didn't!...Registry cards in the invites. : I think you read LVB's comment wrong.
    Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

    I thought she was saying that it is really common in our area to include registry cards, and I was just agreeing with her about that part.

    I know she thinks I should just let it be, and I probably will. Seems to be the <font size="2"><p>consensus here. </p></font>
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  • RachNRichRachNRich member
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    and I realized I read LVB's comment wrong. I think I need to lay off the crack....
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  • louisvillebride21louisvillebride21
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_oh-she-didntregistry-cards-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f362e920-44b4-4649-96ca-3406e0fbfa2dPost:4591512f-813d-414b-92cd-65693309e582">Re: Oh no, she didn't!...Registry cards in the invites.</a>:
    [QUOTE]and I realized I read LVB's comment wrong. I think I need to lay off the crack....
    Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]
    Or share.
    "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs
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  • kristinalilykristinalily
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_oh-she-didntregistry-cards-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f362e920-44b4-4649-96ca-3406e0fbfa2dPost:4591512f-813d-414b-92cd-65693309e582">Re: Oh no, she didn't!...Registry cards in the invites.</a>:
    [QUOTE]and I realized I read LVB's comment wrong. I think I need to lay off the crack....
    Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

    It's Monday. ;)
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  • MissMandeyMissMandey
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_oh-she-didntregistry-cards-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f362e920-44b4-4649-96ca-3406e0fbfa2dPost:4591512f-813d-414b-92cd-65693309e582">Re: Oh no, she didn't!...Registry cards in the invites.</a>:
    [QUOTE]and I realized I read LVB's comment wrong. I think I need to lay off the crack....
    Posted by RachNRich[/QUOTE]

    It happens. Crack is the way through the work day.
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  • NebbNebb member
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    Just an FYI, you CAN say things like nut sack and mother fuckers on here, we wont get offended and the knot wont stop you.
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  • RachNRichRachNRich member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_oh-she-didntregistry-cards-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f362e920-44b4-4649-96ca-3406e0fbfa2dPost:28d0990f-49ce-49d2-9c63-d25a9ff5897e">Re: Oh no, she didn't!...Registry cards in the invites.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Oh no, she didn't!...Registry cards in the invites. : Or share.
    Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]
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  • JessAndTravJessAndTrav member
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_oh-she-didntregistry-cards-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f362e920-44b4-4649-96ca-3406e0fbfa2dPost:12c20f2f-c67c-4693-9a39-171a64049cb5">Re: Oh no, she didn't!...Registry cards in the invites.</a>:
    [QUOTE]I feel like you're putting too much thought into someone else's invites.
    Posted by shellydiane820[/QUOTE]

    I agree with this.

    You've already told her. It's up to her what to do next.
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  • louisvillebride21louisvillebride21
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_oh-she-didntregistry-cards-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f362e920-44b4-4649-96ca-3406e0fbfa2dPost:620c550d-ef16-4d20-a72c-9b2f7676d720">Re: Oh no, she didn't!...Registry cards in the invites.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Just an FYI, you CAN say things like nut sack and mother fuckers on here, we wont get offended and the knot wont stop you.
    Posted by Nebb[/QUOTE]
    It's really hard to remember which ones you can say. How is it you can say fuckers but not whore?  TK has a weird moral compass.
    "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs
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  • NebbNebb member
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    You cant say the ROOT of the swear, like fuuck, shiit, or biitch, but if you ad er, ing, or s onto it, it becomes acceptable apparently. Its hit or miss.
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  • louisvillebride21louisvillebride21
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    And whore goes through now? Arg.
    "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs
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  • MissMandeyMissMandey
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    I didn't know what you could and couldn't' say on here. so I thought i'd be better safe than sorry.

    Though I try to limit my F word usage, as it actually seems to sprint out of my mouth when I am mixed with even one shot of vodka.

    My west virginia also comes out and every vowel becomes 2 syllables. It's tragic.

    There is nothing less cute than "He-ey one of yeww fu-uckeers. git me a da-aymn beer."

    Sigh. Regrets.

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  • MissMandeyMissMandey
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    Ps: Louisville Bride. I sent you a message earlier. i forgot to respond to your post when you asked what part of KY I am from. I am sitting at a desk is Louisville as we speak. Small world, huh?
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  • MissMandeyMissMandey
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    desk in**
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  • sap82478sap82478
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    Is she throwing her own.. If not its not bad becasue its someone else letting them know..esp if its a surprise...but it just depends..most people like having an idea, AND i always buy off a regisrty.. whats the point to register if someone don't tell them..
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  • wadingmoosewadingmoose member
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    On my list of Etiquette BFD's, this doesn't even hit top 10.

    "You can take your etiquette and shove it!" ~misscarolb
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  • louisvillebride21louisvillebride21
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    edited April 2010
    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_oh-she-didntregistry-cards-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding%20BoardsForum:9Discussion:f362e920-44b4-4649-96ca-3406e0fbfa2dPost:16c90aa3-6bd6-499d-a709-cf3496e72ff3">Re: Oh no, she didn't!...Registry cards in the invites.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Ps: Louisville Bride. I sent you a message earlier. i forgot to respond to your post when you asked what part of KY I am from. I am sitting at a desk is Louisville as we speak. Small world, huh?
    Posted by MissMandey[/QUOTE]
    I'm actually in Lex, but I'll be moving there later this month!
    I just responded :)
    "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs
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  • MissMandeyMissMandey
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_oh-she-didntregistry-cards-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f362e920-44b4-4649-96ca-3406e0fbfa2dPost:f1a5d679-a90b-417b-8954-868034ec1acc">Re: Oh no, she didn't!...Registry cards in the invites.</a>:
    [QUOTE]Is she throwing her own.. If not its not bad becasue its someone else letting them know..esp if its a surprise...but it just depends..most people like having an idea, AND i always buy off a regisrty.. whats the point to register if someone don't tell them..
    Posted by sap82478[/QUOTE]

    to clarify, I am talking about WEDDING invitations, not shower invites.
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  • MissMandeyMissMandey
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    In Response to <a href="http://forums.theknot.com/Sites/theknot/Pages/Main.aspx/wedding-boards_etiquette_oh-she-didntregistry-cards-invites?plckFindPostKey=Cat:Wedding BoardsForum:9Discussion:f362e920-44b4-4649-96ca-3406e0fbfa2dPost:4cf47b81-f9a5-42cd-8e2c-9fcb1d3efa99">Re: Oh no, she didn't!...Registry cards in the invites.</a>:
    [QUOTE]In Response to Re: Oh no, she didn't!...Registry cards in the invites. : I'm actually in Lex, but I'll be moving there later this month!
    Posted by louisvillebride21[/QUOTE]

    I am living in Lexington driving to Louisville every day. We're in hamburg now but moving to masterson for the best possible commute for me. It's annoying! where are you getting married-in Lex or Louisville?
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  • louisvillebride21louisvillebride21
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    I sent you a PM. I'd rather not put it ALL out there for all the crazies out there. But no one cares...but I'm not gonna say anyways lol
    "In the old days my ass would be in your back yard picking cotton, so excuse me if I don't put much stock in how f*cking awesome the old days were." -Nuggs
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