TIME FOR A "BIG WEDDING"

Re: TIME FOR A "BIG WEDDING"

• d2va member

  

  January 2014

  Lol this won't end well.
  
  celebrate your marriage by shutting the fuck up.

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• manateehugger member

  

  January 2014

  You're already married. Unless you divorce between now and December, you cannot have another wedding. Listen to the people telling you it's weird to have a faux ceremony when you are already married. It would be incredibly inappropriate to expect people to see a play and treat it like a wedding.

  
  

  What about just hosting an anniversary/Christmas party instead?

  

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• manateehugger member

  

  January 2014

  dharris1890 said:

  My now husband and I were married December 2013 in the middle of planning a ceremony for December 2014. We were living together and raising our 18 month old son and wanted to enter the new year as husband and wife, so we had a very private ceremony in the pastor's study at our church. We still would like to have our "big wedding" on our wedding anniversary but people around us seems to think that's weird. What are some creative ways to still have a ceremony, but celebrate us being married for a year at the same time?

  
  

  Thanks a ton!

  Diamond

  http://forums.theknot.com/discussion/996776/legally-married-now-having-a-real-wedding-stop-here-first-aka-the-ppd-faq-thread/p1
  

  
  

  Also - this topic comes up a lot - just read this thread or at least the first post. 

  

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• Blue_Bird member

  

  January 2014

  I'm not sure what you're looking for, Sweetie. Your friends think it's weird likely because you already had your wedding. It's too late for a "big wedding". I suggest you go someplace special to the two of you on your one year anniversary, and on your 25 year anniversary have your big celebration with a vow renewal.

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• Weesh member

  

  January 2014

  d2va said:

  Lol this won't end well. celebrate your marriage by shutting the fuck up.

  I think everyone knows it won't end well, but telling the OP to "shut the fuck up" isn't really productive either.

  
  

  OP, listen to your friends and family members.  You were married in a small private ceremony.  By making that choice, you forgo many of the things that are associated with a big wedding.  Accept that and throw a party, but don't try to re-create a wedding that's already happened.

  

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• dharris1890 member

  

  January 2014 edited January 2014

  @d2va It was a simple question, if you didn't like it, you could have just ignored the most and moved on....you being rude....now that won't ever end well

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• Fran1985 member

  

  January 2014

  Why not throw a big party? Everyone loves that! Just stay away from calling it a "big wedding." But throw a big holiday party or a just because party and get a great DJ and some awesome food. Drop the ceremony part- that's the part that is weirding everyone out.
  

  
  
  

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• ootmother2 member

  

  January 2014

  You didn't lurk, did you?

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  January 2014

  I just don't understand getting married last month and wanting to plan a big wedding in 12 months.  Wasn't really that difficult to wait another 12 months?

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  

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• dharris1890 member

  

  January 2014

  Thanks everyone for the positive post, I think everyone was thinking I was trying to recreate the moment and that's not it, we just wanted something to celebrate with our the bulk of our family members are out of town. I love the idea of an anniversary party since I host events throughout the year, that would be a nice idea.

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• manateehugger member

  

  January 2014

  dharris1890 said:

  Thanks everyone for the positive post, I think everyone was thinking I was trying to recreate the moment and that's not it, we just wanted something to celebrate with our the bulk of our family members are out of town. I love the idea of an anniversary party since I host events throughout the year, that would be a nice idea.

  Yeah, I think a big party is totally the best way to go here if you want to host an event. Remember, you don't need a ceremony and big white dress to celebrate with the ones you love! 

  

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• ootmother2 member

  

  January 2014

  Diamond

   

  It's weird to have a second wedding.  mmK?

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• AddieCake member

  

  January 2014

  Surely that now DQs my saying "Your fiance is being a dick" as the alleged "nastiest comment on TK".....

  What did you think would happen if you walked up to a group of internet strangers and told them to get shoehorned by their lady doc?~StageManager14

  

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• JellyBean52513 member

  

  January 2014

  AddieL73 said:

  Surely that now DQs my saying "Your fiance is being a dick" as the alleged "nastiest comment on TK".....

  It definitely does. Cuntwaffle and douchecanoe still in the running, though

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• Amyzen83 member

  

  January 2014

  I agree with PPs, I like the idea of a huge anniversary party, because people love that kind of stuff especially if there's food, booze and a DJ, the redo ceremony just doesn't make sense especially when you already exchanged the vows and are married.

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• afox007 member

  

  January 2014

  ootmother2 said:

  Diamond

   

  It's weird to have a second wedding.  mmK?

  Perfect timing was watching South Park while I read this and mr Mackey said mmk at the exact moment I read it lol!
  
  

  

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• kmmssg mod

  

  January 2014

  d2va said:

  Lol this won't end well. celebrate your marriage by shutting the fuck up.That w

  That was necessary why?

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• arrippa member

  

  January 2014

  scribe95 said:

  Okay, follow me here, a few years ago a friend of ours wanted to have a surprise birthday party for his wife. His cover story was that he had us send a one-year anniversary party invite for that date. It surprised her alright. In the meantime she called all our friends and discussed what attention whores we were to have a one-year anniversary party. Honestly I couldn't argue. So while by etiquette an anniversary party is fine I do still find it a bit odd.
  

  Did she apologize when it turned out it was a surprise birthday party for her?

  As for the OP, I am glad that you have come around on not having a PPD. A party is a great idea. I think it would be fine to have it one your one year anniversary, otherwise I would save it until your five year.
  

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• ChemFanatic25 member

  

  January 2014

  kmmssg said:

  d2va said:

  Lol this won't end well. celebrate your marriage by shutting the fuck up.That w

  That was necessary why?

  Yeah, this type of reaction is what made me hesitant to even post on the knot originally. No need to be that rude.

  

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• grumbledore member

  

  January 2014

  dharris1890 said:

  My now husband and I were married December 2013 in the middle of planning a ceremony for December 2014. We were living together and raising our 18 month old son and wanted to enter the new year as husband and wife, so we had a very private ceremony in the pastor's study at our church. We still would like to have our "big wedding" on our wedding anniversary but people around us seems to think that's weird. What are some creative ways to still have a ceremony, but celebrate us being married for a year at the same time?

  
  

  Thanks a ton!

  Diamond

  
  Congrats on your marriage! Wouldn't make sense to have a "wedding" now since you already got married.

  
  

  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  January 2014

  You can have a first anniversary celebration, but the time for a "big wedding" was when you got married.  Don't do a reenactment of your wedding just because these people weren't there.  That was the result of the choice you made not to have a "big wedding" at that time.
  

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• KatWAG member

  

  January 2014 edited January 2014

  dharris1890 said:

  Thanks everyone for the positive post, I think everyone was thinking I was trying to recreate the moment and that's not it, we just wanted something to celebrate with our the bulk of our family members are out of town. I love the idea of an anniversary party since I host events throughout the year, that would be a nice idea.

  
  Just throw a big party and don't call it a reception. But since you are not a bride anyone, no bridal parties, first dances, bridal showers, bach parties, big, fluffy white dresses, etc. Have good food, music and dancing to celebrate you and H.

  ETA: dont register either.

  

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• blabla89 member

  

  January 2014

  OP, if you're serious, take it over to WW. If you're trolling, please find something better to do with your life.
  
  
  

  

  
  
  

  
  

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• manateehugger member

  

  January 2014

  lalalaurita said:

  OP, if you're serious, take it over to WW. If you're trolling, please find something better to do with your life.
  
  
  

  What? She asked a (relatively common) question, received advice, and then took that advice gracefully. 

  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  January 2014

  PDKH said:

  lalalaurita said:

  OP, if you're serious, take it over to WW. If you're trolling, please find something better to do with your life.
  
  
  

  What? She asked a (relatively common) question, received advice, and then took that advice gracefully. 

  Which is more than so many others do, especially newbies.
  

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• Amyzen83 member

  

  January 2014

  I agree op sounds mature with a legit question and accepted the answers. There's no need to be rude to her.

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• CrazyCatLady3 member

  

  January 2014

  d2va said:

  Lol this won't end well. celebrate your marriage by shutting the fuck up.

  I'm not a fan of PPDs but I think this was really uncalled for.

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• kmmssg mod

  

  January 2014

  lalalaurita said:

  OP, if you're serious, take it over to WW. If you're trolling, please find something better to do with your life.
  
  
  

  Agree with PDKH - your reponse is way off base here.
  

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• tmclawchick member

  

  January 2014

  d2va said:

  Lol this won't end well. celebrate your marriage by shutting the fuck up.

  
  Ew... hostile much?

   

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• d2va member

  

  January 2014

  Welcome to the internet ladies. This very question is posted like 500 times on this board with how many on the front page?
  
  Also, it was more of a sarcastic comment, I forgot to turn my sarcasm font on.
  
  With a thread title TIME FOR A BIG WEDDING.... but I already got married.
  
  OP definitely took the advice posted much better than most do. I do not retract my statement as they should celebrate their marriage together for their one year anniversary by going out to dinner or whatever it is that people do on their first anniversary and call it a day, and not try to make a big spectacle of it and try to get gifts and blah blah a year later.
  
  tis all
  

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