Head Table

Maggie0829 · January 2014

tcnoble said:

@cruffino how did you decide which table to seat yourselves at/what guests are you sitting with? I, too, am not keen on a sweetheart or head table so this might be the solution!

I know you didn't ask me but H and I sat with our parents and my MOH (also sister) and her husband and daughter. H also has a sister but we figured that since my sister was in the wedding party and his wasn't that my sister would site with us. So H's sister along with her husband was sat with her one set of grandparents and Aunt, Uncle and their two kids at a table pretty much right next to ours.

melbelleup · January 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

melbelleup said:

So, I'm going to throw myself under the bus. The only people in my WP that would not be with their SO would be my best friend and my 2nd cousin/friend. I asked them if they wanted their SO to sit at the head table with them and both said no. So, I'm leaving it where the girls will be on my side and the guys will be on my FI's side. It's how I've always seen weddings in my area and the one person who did do a sweethearts table my family basically was beyond confused.

I wonder if they talked to their SO's before making this declaration, lol?!

They probably don't know any better, as the norm for most people are these awful head tables with the BM's on the Bride's side and the GM's on the Groom's side.

We aren't having assigned seating or a formal sit down meal- we are having food stations with many tables, high boy tables, and other seating areas throughout the venue, and when we met with the venue coordinator FI asked if we could have a sweetheart table. At first I was opposed to the idea because I thought guests would think it was rude and we would come off as acting better than everyone or something, but after reading posts on TK, I think it is a nice idea and no one will perceive us as being rude.

Many brides have said that having a sweetheart table allowed them to spend 15 to 20mins alone with their Husband to talk and eat in "peace" before having to make their rounds to greet guests, and cut the cake, etc.

I have no idea. LOL. It made me giggle. I was like weellll then. Because I was thinking having boy girl etc. with them with their SO's at the table. But then when I asked them I was just like... oh...okay... lol. The only person that won't know anyone else is actually my best friend's BF. But, he gets along with everyone which is why I think she's like.. yah... have him some place else lol

melbelleup · January 2014

double post.

cruffino · January 2014

tcnoble said:

@cruffino how did you decide which table to seat yourselves at/what guests are you sitting with? I, too, am not keen on a sweetheart or head table so this might be the solution!

we will sit with the moh (my sister) and her husband (a groomsman) and their daughter (the ring bearer), as well as the best man (fi's bro) and his wife (a bridesmaid) and their two daughters (the flower girls). the rest of the wedding party (a bridesmaid and 3 groomsmen) will sit with their dates and friends.

cowgirl8238 · January 2014

When my FI's sister got married two years ago FI was in the wedding party and I was not...it really sucked to ba apart from the FI most of the day. Thankfully the Groom just wanted them to show up at a certain time dressed and ready, but he was still monopolized before the ceremony, during the ceremony, and for the ntire cocktail. Thankfully the B&G did a sweetheart table so we were able to spend the entire reception together.

For both her wedding and our wedding a head table would be a nightmare logisitically. Ours would have to include 22 seats if we included everyones date, plus our sides are uneven so it wouldn't look right no matter how we lay it out...so we aren't doing it and the BP is going to be at multiple tables with the guests that they all know.

Gizmo813 · January 2014

I actually hate head tables. The WP (with or w/o SO's) are sitting side-by-side. They are not socializing during dinner, but rather eating in silence, or chatting only with the people on either side, while facing the rest of the guests and watching them eat. It's awkward, and not a good way to host your BP, (who are also your guests.) IMO.

We are having a sweetheart table, as is the custom in my state, and seating our WP at the guest tables.

Liatris2010 · January 2014

melbelleup said:

PrettyGirlLost said:

melbelleup said:

So, I'm going to throw myself under the bus. The only people in my WP that would not be with their SO would be my best friend and my 2nd cousin/friend. I asked them if they wanted their SO to sit at the head table with them and both said no. So, I'm leaving it where the girls will be on my side and the guys will be on my FI's side. It's how I've always seen weddings in my area and the one person who did do a sweethearts table my family basically was beyond confused.

I wonder if they talked to their SO's before making this declaration, lol?!

They probably don't know any better, as the norm for most people are these awful head tables with the BM's on the Bride's side and the GM's on the Groom's side.

We aren't having assigned seating or a formal sit down meal- we are having food stations with many tables, high boy tables, and other seating areas throughout the venue, and when we met with the venue coordinator FI asked if we could have a sweetheart table. At first I was opposed to the idea because I thought guests would think it was rude and we would come off as acting better than everyone or something, but after reading posts on TK, I think it is a nice idea and no one will perceive us as being rude.

Many brides have said that having a sweetheart table allowed them to spend 15 to 20mins alone with their Husband to talk and eat in "peace" before having to make their rounds to greet guests, and cut the cake, etc.

I have no idea. LOL. It made me giggle. I was like weellll then. Because I was thinking having boy girl etc. with them with their SO's at the table. But then when I asked them I was just like... oh...okay... lol. The only person that won't know anyone else is actually my best friend's BF. But, he gets along with everyone which is why I think she's like.. yah... have him some place else lol

This is not funny. It is horrible. He is going to end up at a table where everyone knows each other, and he doesn't know anyone. Even if he is friendly, and everyone else is super nice to him and goes out of their way to include him, don't you think he'd be more comfortable with his date? When everyone knows each other and you are the odd one at it is easy to end up on the fringe of the conversation, oblivious to the inside jokes, unable to reminisce about all those experiences the others share, and so on. At the very least, it is nice to have someone introduce you, and then remind you of everyone's name. Maybe your friend doesn't want to do that for him, but if that is the case she should leave him home, not set him up for an awkward night.

tabathafaye · January 2014

We are having a family table I suppose. Groom and I in the middle, then our families on either side. Then a few reserved tables close by for WP and their dates/families.

lc07 · January 2014

melbelleup said:

So, I'm going to throw myself under the bus. The only people in my WP that would not be with their SO would be my best friend and my 2nd cousin/friend. I asked them if they wanted their SO to sit at the head table with them and both said no. So, I'm leaving it where the girls will be on my side and the guys will be on my FI's side. It's how I've always seen weddings in my area and the one person who did do a sweethearts table my family basically was beyond confused.

What is there to be confused about?

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