Urgent NWR etiquette emergency...WWYD?

Re: Urgent NWR etiquette emergency...WWYD?

• Cookie Pusher member

  

  January 2014

  @RebeccaB88: Any updates on what you decided to do??

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• RebeccaB88 member

  

  January 2014

  I did actually pick up overtime... a whole hour of it, lol. But I did let him know I needed to cancel due to work and I hated it because I really wanted to see him and I hoped the guys had a good time catching up, yada yada...John was great about it.
  
  Couple hours later he texted to let me know that the other guy had to cancel due to work too.
  
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  Can't help but wonder if he cancelled for the same basic reasons I did.
  
  And I should probably just get over being miffed that he invited our friend without asking me first. He was the host of the evening (read: organizing and paying) and he could invite whomever he chose. I was just looking forward to catching up with him and being able to speak freely and personally.  Will have to start thinking about how to make that happen for next time.
  

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• phira member

  

  January 2014

  Eh, honestly, I don't think you're wrong for being miffed. When I'm hosting (even if it's just, "Hey, want to grab dinner?"), I try to make sure everyone knows who's going to be there if it's something small. In John's shoes, I would have called you and said, "Rebecca, is it okay if Douchenozzle comes to dinner with us? Or do you want it to be just one on one?"

  
  

  I was hosting Friendsgiving and it was supposed to be just me, my partner, and my friend A. I decided to invite another friend S, but before I did, I asked A if it was okay. It's honestly just a courtesy--obviously, it's my prerogative to invite whoever I want--but it does give people an out to say, "Oh, I was hoping it could be just us."

  

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• Weesh member

  

  January 2014

  phira said:

  Eh, honestly, I don't think you're wrong for being miffed. When I'm hosting (even if it's just, "Hey, want to grab dinner?"), I try to make sure everyone knows who's going to be there if it's something small. In John's shoes, I would have called you and said, "Rebecca, is it okay if Douchenozzle comes to dinner with us? Or do you want it to be just one on one?"

  
  

  I was hosting Friendsgiving and it was supposed to be just me, my partner, and my friend A. I decided to invite another friend S, but before I did, I asked A if it was okay. It's honestly just a courtesy--obviously, it's my prerogative to invite whoever I want--but it does give people an out to say, "Oh, I was hoping it could be just us."

  Reading for the excuses was entertaining, but I'm glad the ex-wife is getting the support she needs.

  
  

  This post made me happy.  I went to see a friend with a new baby last week, and as we were sitting and chatting, her doorbell rang.  I thought we were going to have brunch and enjoy a few hours with her baby and some catching up.  Turns out she invited another couple (that I didn't know), but didn't tell me.  I didn't realize that it was going to be a brunch with people I didn't know, versus a brunch with a close friend.  I left early and felt kind of annoyed, but I didn't know if I should have been annoyed because she was the host.  I just wish I could have known beforehand.

  

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