We have 3 kids of our own that will be included in our ceremony. Our daughter will be the flower girl, our youngest son will be the ring bearer, our oldest son will ring a bell before his sister starts tossing the flowers. I was talking to my mom about the ideas I was putting together and she's kind mad that I don't want to include her niece as a flower girl. Which I think is crazy because I'm not including any of my sister's kids either and they tend to be okay with it. My fiance and I have agreed to let kids attend the ceremony and reception since ours of course will be there. However I'm not sure what to do so they have fun and our kids will feel included with out having any of the things we do for our kids birthdays which over the years I've become an expert at putting together. Can anyone make any suggestions?