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Bridesmaids

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So i have ran into an issue is there any rule in etiquette that states just cause your a maid of honor in someones wedding that you have to offer them a spot in your wedding... I know it sounds rude but i met a friend a couple of weeks ago and she just got engaged. I have been engaged since october last year.  I have been planning forever now and have already set up my bridesmaids from friends i have known for a year or even longer that still are my bffs. Soon as i tell her i wouldnt make room for her she threw the biggest of temper tantrums an adult should have. I barely know her and i am already up to 5 people in my bridesmaids which is the maximum i would allow. Any thoughts
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  • sofakingmadsofakingmad member
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    Nope.  This is not true.
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  • Amyzen83Amyzen83 member
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    Nope! Your wedding your bridal party, weddings are not tit for tat, you should be very selective of who you stand up there with you
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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    Jennja22 said:
    Bbk1211 said:
    So i have ran into an issue is there any rule in etiquette that states just cause your a maid of honor in someones wedding that you have to offer them a spot in your wedding... I know it sounds rude but i met a friend a couple of weeks ago and she just got engaged. I have been engaged since october last year.  I have been planning forever now and have already set up my bridesmaids from friends i have known for a year or even longer that still are my bffs. Soon as i tell her i wouldnt make room for her she threw the biggest of temper tantrums an adult should have. I barely know her and i am already up to 5 people in my bridesmaids which is the maximum i would allow. Any thoughts
    Questions:

    1.  Were you in her wedding?
    2.  You MET her 2 weeks ago and she expects to be your MOH?!

    I think she met up with a friend 2 weeks ago.

    OP - You are fine to not add in anyone else to your WP.  This girl was rude to assume you would add her in when she asked you to be in her wedding.  Weddings aren't tit for tat.  But your friend probably acted out because of your response's tone.  By what you wrote, it seems as if you may have been a little harsh with your friend, but she never should have assumed or responded the way she did.

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  • Bbk1211Bbk1211 member
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    Questions:

    1.  Were you in her wedding? I will be in may
    2.  You MET her 2 weeks ago and she expects to be your MOH?! and yea 

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  • manateehuggermanateehugger member
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    Bbk1211 said:
    Questions:

    1.  Were you in her wedding? I will be in may
    2.  You MET her 2 weeks ago and she expects to be your MOH?! and yea 

    Hang on - you met her as in you got coffee, drinks, dinner, went shopping, ran into her while running errands, etc.? 

    Or you met her as in two weeks ago you didn't she existed?
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    Bbk1211 said:
    Questions:

    1.  Were you in her wedding? I will be in may
    2.  You MET her 2 weeks ago and she expects to be your MOH?! and yea 

    This is crazy.  This is the first month you've known this girl, and she's asked you to be her MOH and then threw a tantrum that she isn't yours?  This doesn't sound like the makings of a great friendship.  I vote run.

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  • PrettyGirlLostPrettyGirlLost member
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    Holy cow!  Run, run!!!!

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  • arrippaarrippa member
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    Say what?!?

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  • photokittyphotokitty mod
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    whaaa what?

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  • Amyzen83Amyzen83 member
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    Wow! This girl is crazy! I'd decline her MOH position, "thanks but no thanks! You're a psycho"
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  • Cookie PusherCookie Pusher member
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    Dafuq? I agree with PPs - time to run!
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Run and don't look back.
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  • hikebikebemerryhikebikebemerry member
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    It legitimately concerns me that she doesn't have ANYONE to stand up as her MOH.  Does she have any other BMs?  Or is she so BSC that she can't maintain ANY friendships?

    Also... how long has she been with her FI?  How did you meet her?  I HAVE SO MANY QUESTIONS!
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  • Amyzen83Amyzen83 member
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    misshart00 said:

    Her name isn't jashley, is it?

    I don't get the reference
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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    Amyzen83 said:
    Her name isn't jashley, is it?
    I don't get the reference
    She's a girl who posted all over not only this forum, but a ton of others all over the Internet, about how unfair it was that a friend of hers didn't invite her to her wedding, and how she wanted to go to the wedding and should be able to because it's in a park. 

    Basically she just came across as very needy and defensive and refused to listen to every single poster telling her that what she wanted to do was rude and that she had no right to expect an invitation just because she thought they were friends.
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  • misshart00misshart00 member
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    Amyzen83 said:

    misshart00 said:

    Her name isn't jashley, is it?

    I don't get the reference
    Jashley is an old poster who would complain about not getting invited to "friends'" weddings.
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  • Amyzen83Amyzen83 member
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    Lol wow! She sounds batty
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  • arrippaarrippa member
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    Oh Jashley, it certainly wasn't boring when she was around.
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  • HaileyDancingbearHaileyDancingbear member
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    There is no etiquette that dictates who should and should not be in your wedding party, or even that you have to have a wedding party.  Your wedding party should be the people you feel close to and want standing by you on your wedding day.  That's it.  
    So your new friend is being crazy and obnoxious (What grown woman throws a fit over not being in a wedding party????)  and frankly I'd back out of her wedding if I were you.  If she's already throwing a hissy fit and being very rude by demanding to be your MOH (And that's the only breach of etiquette here- it's rude to just demand you be in the wedding party) I can only imagine how much more dramatic and rude she's going to get as she continues planning.  
    Also, I think she's nuts for assuming she must be such an important part of your life after only knowing you for two weeks.
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  • Bbk1211Bbk1211 member
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    OliveOilsMom said:
    Ugh.  So you literally just met a new friend and after knowing her for only 2 weeks - she asked you to be her MOH?  Then she freaked when you wouldn't include her in your BP?  Back away from this person and run as far away from her as possible!
    Yea exactly what happened and i am trying to run far and fast but hard to do when she lives down the street from me lol
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  • smalfrie19smalfrie19 member
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    Bbk1211 said:
    OliveOilsMom said:
    Ugh.  So you literally just met a new friend and after knowing her for only 2 weeks - she asked you to be her MOH?  Then she freaked when you wouldn't include her in your BP?  Back away from this person and run as far away from her as possible!
    Yea exactly what happened and i am trying to run far and fast but hard to do when she lives down the street from me lol
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  • Bbk1211Bbk1211 member
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    hikebikebemerry said:
    It legitimately concerns me that she doesn't have ANYONE to stand up as her MOH.  Does she have any other BMs?  Or is she so BSC that she can't maintain ANY friendships?

    Also... how long has she been with her FI?  How did you meet her?  I HAVE SO MANY QUESTIONS!
    She has one other person in the bridal party supposedly she met her fi a year ago on the internet and i met her at mcds on one of my hang out in town days
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  • Bbk1211Bbk1211 member
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    misshart00 said:
    Her name isn't jashley, is it?
    no
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