Bridesmaids

Bbk1211 · January 2014

hikebikebemerry said:

Bbk1211 said:

OliveOilsMom said:

Ugh. So you literally just met a new friend and after knowing her for only 2 weeks - she asked you to be her MOH? Then she freaked when you wouldn't include her in your BP? Back away from this person and run as far away from her as possible!

Yea exactly what happened and i am trying to run far and fast but hard to do when she lives down the street from me lol

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Bbk1211 · January 2014

Bbk1211 said:

OliveOilsMom said:

Ugh. So you literally just met a new friend and after knowing her for only 2 weeks - she asked you to be her MOH? Then she freaked when you wouldn't include her in your BP? Back away from this person and run as far away from her as possible!
Yea exactly what happened and i am trying to run far and fast but hard to do when she lives down the street from me lol
RESTRAINING ORDER!

I might have to if she trys anything

Bbk1211 · January 2014

I felt bad that she didnt really have anyone in her bridal party

Lamiavita · January 2014

...

Wow...

Wow wow wow wow wow.

Like... Wow...

Lamiavita · January 2014

I'm sorry... That was in no way helpful...

I just...

I wish the best and most heartfelt luck.

AddieCake · January 2014

I think you agreeing to be in the wedding of someone you met 2 weeks ago is pretty much as nutty as her having asked.

RebeccaB88 · January 2014

Yeah, I'd be beyond creeped out if someone I've known for 2 weeks asked me to be her MOH.

But I guess you can now tell why she didn't have anyone else to ask.

wrigleyville · January 2014

I get feeling bad for her, but it wouldn't be enough to make me want to plunk down the money for a new gown. Plus, I'll bet she's going to pressure you/expect you to throw a bridal shower, pay for a bachelorette weekend, etc. because she seems pretty crazy. Oh man.

HaileyDancingbear · January 2014

wrigleyville said:

I get feeling bad for her, but it wouldn't be enough to make me want to plunk down the money for a new gown. Plus, I'll bet she's going to pressure you/expect you to throw a bridal shower, pay for a bachelorette weekend, etc. because she seems pretty crazy. Oh man.

Yeah that's way too much crazy to put up with just because you feel kinda bad. OP, If she has nobody else, you can tell by her behavior that that's 100% her own fault. As a grown woman, she should figure out on her own how to make friends or deal with not having any. If her crazy scares everyone away, it's her own fault and her job to fix it. It's not your job to make her feel better.

And to be completely honest and blunt, if I were in her shoes, I would rather have NO friends than people who are just pretending/putting up with me because they feel bad.
But maybe that's just my anxiety talking, I've been known to let a lot of potential friendships die because I'm afraid to "Trust" that someone actually wants to be a friend- I've known so many people who's "Friends" actually can't stand them but just put up with them and they don't even know- the thought of being that person with those friends is terrifying.

Amyzen83 · January 2014

HaileyDancingbear said:
wrigleyville said:
I get feeling bad for her, but it wouldn't be enough to make me want to plunk down the money for a new gown. Plus, I'll bet she's going to pressure you/expect you to throw a bridal shower, pay for a bachelorette weekend, etc. because she seems pretty crazy. Oh man.
Yeah that's way too much crazy to put up with just because you feel kinda bad. OP, If she has nobody else, you can tell by her behavior that that's 100% her own fault. As a grown woman, she should figure out on her own how to make friends or deal with not having any. If her crazy scares everyone away, it's her own fault and her job to fix it. It's not your job to make her feel better.

And to be completely honest and blunt, if I were in her shoes, I would rather have NO friends than people who are just pretending/putting up with me because they feel bad.
But maybe that's just my anxiety talking, I've been known to let a lot of potential friendships die because I'm afraid to "Trust" that someone actually wants to be a friend- I've known so many people who's "Friends" actually can't stand them but just put up with them and they don't even know- the thought of being that person with those friends is terrifying.

Stuck in the box
That's been my struggle too! It's taken me awhile to have decent trustworthy friends, because a few years ago I seemed to have rotten luck meeting new friends that didn't screw me over one way or another, and I'm not the most trusting person in the world, but I like to remain receptive to new people. From what it sounds like OP's new "friend" has some serious social issues and I'm sure there's a good reason she doesn't have any friends to stand up there with her. She may just be very socially awkward, I mean for starters, she met her fi online --- I realize many people find their partners online so this in itself is not a concern, but it's everything mentioned about how OP randomly happens to meet her somewhere and now all of a sudden she's this girl's new BFF. OP, I'm seeing some major red flags here! Run run ruuuuuuuuuuun!

APDSS22 · January 2014

1. When picking a bridal party, I found that the best criteria was who would I call in the middle of the night to help me move a dead body? Obviously not someone I'd just met a couple weeks ago.

2. Wedding parties are not tit for tat. Although I would think my sister would probably ask me to be in her wedding if she ever got married (she was my MOH) I wouldn't throw a hissy fit if she didn't. That's drama that no one needs while planning a wedding.

3. This person sounds sufficiently crazy that I would back myself off pretty fast.

Amyzen83 · January 2014

TheFutureMrsRohlman22 said:

1. When picking a bridal party, I found that the best criteria was who would I call in the middle of the night to help me move a dead body? Obviously not someone I'd just met a couple weeks ago.

2. Wedding parties are not tit for tat. Although I would think my sister would probably ask me to be in her wedding if she ever got married (she was my MOH) I wouldn't throw a hissy fit if she didn't. That's drama that no one needs while planning a wedding.

3. This person sounds sufficiently crazy that I would back myself off pretty fast.

Well if friend is this crazy perhaps she would help OP move a dead body, the scary thing is, she may have her own personal experience in this area... Just sayin

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