We are planning a small destination wedding. More of a destination for his family than mine, but still involves travel for everyone. We were struggling to come up with something that is intimate, but without having to exclude our entire families. We finally found a great location in a place that is special to us. We can't have more than 50 people, which is fine because it forces us to keep it small. We listed everyone out including kids and grandparents and we are over 50. We don't think that every single person will come, but to be careful, we put feelers out to gauge interest before we spend the money to book. Well naturally everyone is excited, and so far, every person that we have asked has said that they would plan on coming!
Here is my question - if we realize that we would be over 50, would it be out of line to make the event an adults only affair and/or take out "plus ones" for single guests? After we have already put feelers out there? We have been pretty clear that we are tight on numbers and we are only gauging interest to see if we can actually make this happen. I don't want to make any enemies here - all the kids are on his side of the family - but I think they should understand as long as we explain it to them. I love the little ones and if we can have them, then I would prefer that. But on the other hand, we do want it to be low key and intimate so I can see the upside to an event without babies or strangers, if we are forced to go that route.
Any thoughts are appreciated!