VENT. Is. This. Real. Life.

Re: VENT. Is. This. Real. Life.

• Last2Bwed member

  

  January 2014

  This is terrible!! I feel ya on the hottest day of the year thing...I was asked to wear a teal and red polyester FLOOR LENGTH dress the last week of august. It was the hottest summer on record for the Midwest and we ended up being in a drought by then. It was the 4 layered plastic dress from hell. The lady-like-ness went out the window as soon as the ceremony was over...all of us girls hiked up our dresses to our panty lines just to keep from dying. I'm sorry you're stuck in bridal hell, but at least your girls will be treated like bridal party queens because you've had to endure these two weddings.
  

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• huskypuppy14 member

  

  January 2014 edited January 2014

  
  

  thelastdreamer said:

  Ok, so Bride #1 and I had a long (like two hour) chat last night. What resulted is the following:

  
  

  1) She apologized for being rude and not inviting FI, and said that she would extend an invitation to him and the other BM who is engaged. 

  2) When I told her that per etiquette, everyone in a relationship needed to be invited, she got really defensive and mad and said she was inviting people in groups and if they had friends or family at the wedding then they didn't get to bring their SO. I explained to her why this was rude, etc. etc. but she said she didn't have room and if people got offended maybe they wouldn't come and that would help her over inviting problem, which brings me to

  3) The over inviting is worse than I realized. They're inviting 320 to a venue that holds 180. They also have a B list of about 30 people. I tried to explain why B listing is rude and she told me that the people know they are on the B list and will only be invited if there is space so it's fine. 

  
  

  
  

  I ... just ... can't ... Ugh. Since FI is now invited, I think I've died on my hill and am going to take a nap. She actually handled the conversation better than expected, I think mostly because I tried to keep it really light and stuff.

  I don't even understand this. How is she inviting almost twice as many people as the venue holds, and still have a b list. It makes no sense. Not to mention, what is going to happen if 250 people come (just using 20% decline for argument sake)?  Are people going to be turned away. OMG this is going to be a shit show. When is this wedding; please let us know how it turns out!

  
  

  ETA: Oh I see they are in August. Well there is still time to not invite 320 people, unless she sent STD to everyone already.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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