My MOH lives in one state, my 2nd bridesmaid lives in another neighboring state, & my third bridesmaid lives in Europe! All three are in different types of post-grad schooling, and are running low on funds. All have told me they wouldn't miss my wedding for the world (hence why I chose them as my bridesmaids: they're my best friends). However, our locations pose a huge problem when it comes to planning the bridal shower & bachelorette party. Any suggestions on how I/we should approach this?
Also, who plans the bridal shower? My mother & I are planning the wedding, so I'm assuming she doesn't also plan the bridal shower. No one else has offered to plan the shower and the wedding in 5 months again! Minor anxiety is beginning to set in.
Secondly, since I think these girls should be spending their money on their educations instead of on bridesmaid dresses, I'm thinking of offering to pay for their dresses & they'll just wear their own shoes (something neutral that everyone has) & jewelry (something basic like pearl or diamonds/crystal related). Is this an etiquette faux pas? I'm just trying to alleviate some of their costs of being in the bridal party.
Thirdly, who plans the bridal shower? My mother & I are planning the wedding, so I'm assuming she doesn't also plan the bridal shower. No one else has offered to plan the shower and the wedding in 5 months away! Minor anxiety is beginning to set in!
Thanks!