Im 44-FI is 43 and its his first wedding, my 2nd. My first marriage was horrible, abuse, neglect you name it. In my mind I had been single for at least 20 of the 22yrs I was married and that is no lie becuase my ex left every year only to come crawling back and like a fool i let him back in. I filed for divorce in June-met my FI in August and we are getting married Jan2014. I have a daughter who is 20, and she is NOT making my life any easier. She has honestly been down right nasty to me in regards to anything about this wedding to the point of I just want to elope. She did NOT have a good relationship with her dad but now it seems he is the one to be pitied and I am the horrible one. She has even said she doesnt have a mom anymore. SHe is in the wedding but Im pretty sure she is gaining weight so that she will not fit into her dress. I have intentionally left her out of several things becuase I just dont want to hear it anymore. SHe has said that Im TOO MUCH IN LOVE, that it wont last and she isnt going to be around when it all falls apart. I cant tell you how many nights i have just cried over this. She says that she is going to a counselor for someone to give her validation for her feelings. Im all for it but I told her you know you may just be told you are a baby and you need to grow up. Of all the people that should be happy for me she should be as she unfortunately saw the abuse first hand. I have told my FI to look over it. I know this is hard on her to have her parents divorced but my gosh my life now and hers is so much better. I would love to hear how others have dealt with this situation because honestly Im at the point where im ready to say things that cant be unsaid. My parents are very supportive of me and they have told her to stop the craziness but she just keeps it up. I dont want the last month that can be so busy that i cannot enjoy myself . HELP!!!