A few months back, I showed pictures of my gown to FMIL. I told her the color of the dress was a cream/off white color. She said it was beautiful and asked me what colors she was allowed to wear so she could figure out a dress for the day of. I told her no white/cream/ivory/off white color. She said ok. We didn't talk anything more about it. My FSMIL asked me what color she could wear and I told her the same thing. She said to me that she would never steal the spot light from me like that as she knows better. She plans to wear a plum/wine color. Which I think is beautiful. Mind you, this was months ago (lets say around October). I even emailed all Mothers (FSMIL, FMIL, and My mom) and reminded them that I didn't want them wearing those colors...anything else was fine but not anything close to my dress. FMIL replied that she understood and said she was thinking about possibly wearing a grey/greyish blue color.
Fast forward to Saturday. I asked FI if he knew whether or not his mom had gotten her dress for the wedding yet. He said he wasn't sure and would call. He called and she said that she was thinking about wearing the dress from his sisters wedding 6 years ago. When we visited FFIL & FSMIL that evening, I looked at the photo album and saw the dress his mom was going to wear. It's OFF WHITE/CREAM!!!!!! I looked at it again and told FI that I didn't appreciate the fact that I told her NO to that color and she is trying to wear something IN that color. He said he would talk to her. Which he did. FI told me that she doesn't have the extra $200.00 to go spend on a gown for his wedding. He offered that we would take her out, one weekend soon, to pick out a dress for her to wear. When I got home I talked with FI. I told him that there are numerous places that she can get a beautiful dress for not too much money. I found NUMEROUS dresses that are BEAUTIFUL for under $100 at Burlington Coat Factory, Boscovs, Macys, Dress Barn (yes, Dress Barn has some BEAUTIFUL dresses). I took screenshots of some and sent them to him to look at. There are a few that he really liked from BCF that are well under $100 and would be perfect for her.
What I don't understand is how the one thing that I was extremely specific about, is not being followed by FMIL. It is common knowledge that you don't wear any color close to the brides dress...hell, you don't wear white PERIOD. Am I wrong for being upset about this? I haven't cried much during this wedding planning process. I have only cried a few times as there have been things that have made me emotional (my dress, some gifts from my shower that were handed down from my Mom's Mom). I have been in tears every time I think about this. I was told by a few people that I should be upset and rightfully so. Any advice/tips?