Black tie thoughts

Cookie Pusher · January 2014

I've been to more than my fair share of black tie weddings and events (in Philly, NYC, Trenton, Newark, and in college). They don't bother me, but it's more because it's the expected dress code for my family and professional circle. I've had a couple of friends who hosted black tie weddings, but it because the parents hosted and insisted. I think if I lived and worked elsewhere, it would be more annoying to me. I thankfully have a closet stocked with gowns that I purchased at ridiculous discounts while I was working in retail.

ashleyep · January 2014

If I got an invitation to a wedding I would wear what I normally wear - a cocktail dress (probably rented from Rent the Runway) and my fiancé would wear a suit.

If I'm expected to dress in a gown and FI in a tux, I'd need the heads up of "black tie" on the invite. And even then I might follow up with you because no one I know has black tie weddings. I'd suck it up and rent a gown from rent the runway, but I'd probably be stressed about the apparel situation.

A coworker attended a black tie wedding in Cincinnati and had to rent the appropriate attire and he said it was kind of a pain.

As always, know your crowd.

KatWAG · January 2014

I had a truly black tie wedding. (based on all the qualifiers listed in this thread) I did not list "Black Tie" on my invite but I did have it on my wedding website. I would say 95% of our guests were dressed in black tie attire, the others were close. And I honestly didnt even notice until I saw pictures.

pinkcow13 · January 2014

I agree with the other posters that say it depends on your crowd. I think our wedding almost can be classified as black tie after reading the requirements above, but we will not be having a black tie wedding. Our families are very laid back, and to be honest I cannot think of a single person who would own a tuxedo. I also know that not everyone's financial situation is the same, and would not want to force anyone to wear a tux. To answer your question, I think you can have a black tie event, but you don't have to.

fionahalliwell · January 2014

Most events in my family are black tie, so yeah, I'm used to it. The only things that I guess don't fit are:

1. I don't remember the gloves, but they must have been there at this event, because it was at one of the most famous hotels in the world.

2. I have been to truly black tie events that have had multi-course meals for the adults and buffets for the children, but that probably still counts (I'm talking bar and bat mitzvahs here, and yes, many have been black tie in my circle).

PrettyGirlLost · January 2014

pinkcow13 said:

I agree with the other posters that say it depends on your crowd. I think our wedding almost can be classified as black tie after reading the requirements above, but we will not be having a black tie wedding. Our families are very laid back, and to be honest I cannot think of a single person who would own a tuxedo. I also know that not everyone's financial situation is the same, and would not want to force anyone to wear a tux. To answer your question, I think you can have a black tie event, but you don't have to.

But almost only counts in horseshoes and hand grenades.

We are also almost having a black tie wedding, but since we do not meet every requirement it is not a black tie event, and we won't be putting attire declarations anywhere.

JCbride2015 · January 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

pinkcow13 said:

I agree with the other posters that say it depends on your crowd. I think our wedding almost can be classified as black tie after reading the requirements above, but we will not be having a black tie wedding. Our families are very laid back, and to be honest I cannot think of a single person who would own a tuxedo. I also know that not everyone's financial situation is the same, and would not want to force anyone to wear a tux. To answer your question, I think you can have a black tie event, but you don't have to.

But almost only counts in horseshoes and hand grenades.

We are also almost having a black tie wedding, but since we do not meet every requirement it is not a black tie event, and we won't be putting attire declarations anywhere.

Yes. But she said she is not having a black tie wedding, nor making attire declarations at all.

PrettyGirlLost · January 2014

JCBride2014 said:

pinkcow13 said:

I agree with the other posters that say it depends on your crowd. I think our wedding almost can be classified as black tie after reading the requirements above, but we will not be having a black tie wedding. Our families are very laid back, and to be honest I cannot think of a single person who would own a tuxedo. I also know that not everyone's financial situation is the same, and would not want to force anyone to wear a tux. To answer your question, I think you can have a black tie event, but you don't have to.

But almost only counts in horseshoes and hand grenades.

We are also almost having a black tie wedding, but since we do not meet every requirement it is not a black tie event, and we won't be putting attire declarations anywhere.
Yes. But she said she is not having a black tie wedding, nor making attire declarations at all.

I know I was clarifying for lurkers.

Emedian · April 2014

I kind of agree. I guess I'm different...I'd be buying 4 gowns just to make sure..it's not everyday one get invited to one..most should feel special.

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