I have been engaged for about a year and have been planning my wedding throughout the year. My fiance's younger brother just popped the question to his girlfriend yesterday. They want to do have their wedding in 6 months, but it's 3 weeks after my set date, 2 weeks after my honeymoon, and the day right after my second reception. I know there is no etiquette or rule for when you can or cannot have your wedding for this matter, but it is a bit too close (especially to my second reception with extended family and friends) for my liking. Plus, I find it inconvenient for out of town guests to have to come twice in 3 weeks. Am I out of line in trying to bring this up?
Thank you all for your advice. That's why I needed to ask first. I know a lot of people don't look highly on a second reception, but I had planned it not considering my family with certain jobs.
Yes, you are out of line. Like others said, you get one day.
Similar to you, I've been engaged over a year. My sister got engaged last week and is planning her wedding for 5 weeks after mine. Due to family scattered across country, we decided to do destination wedding in middle of the country. His family is mostly on west coast, mine is on east coast. No matter where we did it, people would have to travel. So, instead of choosing sides, we went in the middle... knowing many people still wouldn't be able to attend. We have only about 30 people attending, even though we invited 80... and that was just family, no friends. So, we had planned to do "at-home receptions" on both ends of the country after the wedding. They were going to be low-key BBQ cookouts, no cake, no gifts, no wedding-y stuff. Just a "Come meet the spouse, drink a beer, eat a burger" get together. The date we were thinking for my family is 1 week before my sisters wedding date. There is no way that people will be able to come to both, including FI and I coming cross country. And I will have already had my big wedding day and don't want to ruin hers, so we are scrapping the AHR's. No big deal... nothing was set in stone anyway. We may still do the west coast one, where we live, for local friends that couldn't come, but we get to see those people regularly anyway so we may just scrap that one too. For east coast, I figure we will see everyone at my sisters wedding anyway, which was the whole point of doing the AHR. My only worry is that I don't want people showing up to her wedding with gifts for us too or take away from her attention on her big day. It will be the first time that a lot of my extended family will get to meet my FI (well by that time it will be husband). So, I'm sure that there will be some attention on me and some congratulations, but I will just do my best to keep the focus on her for her day... which shouldn't be too hard to do.