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How Did You Pair Off Your Bridal Party?

mellyD2014mellyD2014 member
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edited January 2014 in Wedding Party
Hello ladies,

How did you pair your bridesmaids and groomsmen for their entrance into your reception, if you did so? Did you use any rhyme or reason, by height, did you ask them if they had a preference?

Would love to hear any of your suggestions. We have 6 of our best friends/family members each, so beyond having my MOH and my fiance's BM together, I'm not really sure where to start.

Thanks in advance!

**Edited because my brain wasn't working and I originally said ceremony, instead of reception**
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  • AddieCakeAddieCake member
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    We didn't pair them. 
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  • singinchick13singinchick13 member
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    We are just going by the order they will stand in. We have 5 on each side so we'd rather not have each person walk alone. The heights aren't great because a lot of FI's groomsmen are very tall and the majority of my bridal party are shorter, but it's literally a 10 second walk so no big deal really.
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  • doeydodoeydo member
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    TBH, I think it is silly to pair them off like they are couples when they are not.
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  • mellyD2014mellyD2014 member
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    None of them are couples - most are married. When we have our entrance into the dinner part of the reception, they'll all be announced as part of the bridal party along with our parents. Of the 10 weddings my fiance and I have been to over the last 18 months, I think every one of them announced the bridal party in pairs "so and so escorting so and so", or something along those lines. I'm curious, for those who had or are having a similar sort of entrance, how they decided who would be escorting who.
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  • JMalettasJMalettas member
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     Generally, if you're going to pair your wedding party to go down the aisle, you have the BMs & GMs go down the isle together however you want. The MOH & BM go down last before you do. A lot of people have them go down based on importance. We had 2 mutual friends go first, 2 siblings go next, 2 that we couldn't have pulled off a lot of the wedding without after that, (one of those 2 was a sibling), & the MOH & BM following, then my dad & I.

     I'm sure there are many ways to do it, and not everyone will agree with this, but I got a huge lecture in etiquette when this wasn't the order we put them in to go down the aisle/enter the reception venue. It was changed before hand, but I didn't realize that it was quite important to some people! 

     Good luck!

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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    We had an uneven number so the BM and MOH walked in together.  Then two GM and my other bridesmaid walked in together.  Finally the last two GMs walked in together.

    For the ceremony we had the BM and my H walk in from the side.  The other GMs escorted the three grandmothers and the MOG down the aisle and then took their place up front.  The girls walked down the aisle alone.

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  • OliveOilsMomOliveOilsMom member
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    If any of your WP are married to each other, it would be nice if they can walk into the reception together.  Otherwise, however they naturally line up during the rehearsal can just carry over into the reception entrances.
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  • Bubblegum5586Bubblegum5586 member
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    It was pretty much how they were lined up with the exception being the MOH and BM together and we had one married couple so I made sure they were paired up. Oh and also my step sister is legally blind and young and has never been to a wedding before, so I paired her up specifically with my cousin (vs another GM who doesn't know her) to make her feel more comfortable. Other then that is was how they were lined up.
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  • winelover123winelover123 member
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    H's GMs lined up oldest to youngest (he had 2 best men) and mine lined up MOH, then BM1 then BM2. BM2 went last because she was pregnant and had a chair set up for her. MOH walked with the oldest groomsman, BM1 walked with the middle and BM2 walked with the youngest.
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  • mellyD2014mellyD2014 member
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    Great - thanks for the food for thought everyone!
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  • theartistformerlyknownastheartistformerlyknownas member
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    I think what we're doing is... BM stands at the altar with the groom and isn't part of the processional. Then 4 pairs of the other BMs/GM paired kinda by height, but not ordered by height (tallest BM with tall GM, shortest with shortest) and one BM asked to be paired with the, eh, least-slim of the GM so she looks thinner (oy), and FSIL will be paired with the GM who's a family friend (just seemed to make the most sense). Then MOH will walk by herself before the FG/RB. (My brain reads that as field goal and running back. lol). I don't care whether they're in height order once they get to the altar, just don't want my super tall bridesmaid towering over his average height groomsman.

    Now, how the moms get escorted to their seats is totally beyond me...
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  • WildMageletWildMagelet member
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    Lolo8383 said:
    I think what we're doing is... BM stands at the altar with the groom and isn't part of the processional. Then 4 pairs of the other BMs/GM paired kinda by height, but not ordered by height (tallest BM with tall GM, shortest with shortest) and one BM asked to be paired with the, eh, least-slim of the GM so she looks thinner (oy), and FSIL will be paired with the GM who's a family friend (just seemed to make the most sense). Then MOH will walk by herself before the FG/RB. (My brain reads that as field goal and running back. lol). I don't care whether they're in height order once they get to the altar, just don't want my super tall bridesmaid towering over his average height groomsman.

    Now, how the moms get escorted to their seats is totally beyond me...
    I was actually considering asking FI about having the GM escort moms & grandmas.  I had intended for the BMs to walk alone, unless the girl we're planning to ask to be FG would like to tag with her sister (who is a BM.)  

    I wasn't planning on making them pair off to go to the reception, but I also wasn't planning on a BP entrance.  People will know from the ceremony who was in the BP and who wasn't.
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  • emmaaaemmaaa mod
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    We have 14 people in our wedding party, plus a flower girl (and possibly a ring bearer), and two ushers. I am planning to have my fiance to enter from the side and stand up front, and then his bestman (who is his dad) to seat the mother of the groom (his wife) and stand beside him. Then I want the rest of the groomsmen to enter from the side and stand with him. For bridemaids, I'll have them enter according to where they stand (which is not by height) and my Maid of Honor lastly before the flowergirl and possible ring bearer. I also don't want to have a bridal party entrance at the reception because it is essentially making people sit, listen, and awkwardly "cheer"  for them. Their names are listed in the program. I may have the DJ announce make an announcement as a special thank you and say their names.


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