Calling off a wedding

jenniferurs · January 2014

What is the proper way to inform guests?

I'm also assuming that it's proper to reimburse bridal party members for costs incurred acquiring attire?

banana468 · January 2014

To tell guests, the hosts should mail an announcement to the guests stating "Hosts wish to inform you that wedding of bride and groom will not take place as planned. "

And the wedding party should be reimbursed for all required expenses.

Any engagement, shower, and or wedding gifts also need to be returned.

Hugs. If this is your wedding that has been called off, I'm sorry.

Cookie Pusher · January 2014

I'm sorry if this is your wedding that is being called off. It is a tough situation for anyone, and my best wishes go out to all parties involved.

@banana468 is correct - an announcement should be sent to all invited guests (and vendors should be informed too, but that's a given). All gifts should be returned and WP should be reimbursed for the the things they were required to purchase.

AddieCake · January 2014

Sorry to hear.

jdluvr06 · January 2014

If this is your wedding then I'm very sorry.

HisGirlFriday13 · January 2014

Ditto banana.

You can just send cards (like STDates) that say, "The wedding of Bride and Groom, scheduled for time/date/place, will not take place."

You can also ask your mother or a close friend to help you do this, if you don't feel up to it yourself.

Yes, WP members should be reimbursed, but most of them should understand that you're dealing with bigger issues right now.

I'm so sorry for you -- does this have anything to do with your FMIL and her behaviour?

KeptInStitches · January 2014

I'm very sorry.

vt&dt · January 2014

OP, I've been there. I'm sorry you're going through this, but I can tell you - it gets better.

We mailed postcards to everyone as soon as we knew for sure, with wording similar to what PPs said. My mom, sister, and best friend took back or mailed back all of the gifts/shower gifts we'd received. We paid back the BMs for their dresses and sold them online (another BP got great dresses at a nice discount!)

We called vendors and cancelled everything - lost deposits, and that was quite difficult. My mom and dad helped me with all of those details.

lc07 · January 2014

I'm sorry you're going through this, OP. The other PPs have given you great advice. Just wanted to add my sympathies.

MobKaz · January 2014

I'm sorry, Jenniferurs. I wish you peace of mind and heart.

PrettyGirlLost · January 2014

I'm so sorry to hear this. I wish you the best *hugs*

kmmssg · January 2014

I am really sorry, many hugs your way.

HaileyDancingbear · January 2014

PPs already answered the question, just wanted to chime in and say if this is your wedding, I'm sorry and I wish you the best.

pinkcow13 · January 2014

I just wanted to chime in and say that if this is about your wedding, I am very sorry to hear that. Sending lots of hugs your way.

BMoreBride6 · January 2014

Everyone already covered it. But wishing you nothing but the best.

EverAfer · January 2014

If it's your wedding, I'm really sorry. Good luck, all the best.

Jen4948 · January 2014

I'm very sorry. Wishing you the best.

MuppetOverlord · January 2014

I also wish you the best

Blergbot · January 2014

Hope this just means you're calling off the wedding, not the marriage...either way, we're all here for you!

MillyLH · January 2014

Sorry to hear this, sending best wishes and support.

[Deleted User] · January 2014

Sending hugs and best wishes your way- so sorry to hear this

misshart00 · January 2014

I'm sp sorry. Sending hugs.

If it's close to the wedding, I would recommend making calls as well (or try to enlist your mom so you don't get a ton of questions).

sarahufl · January 2014

Nothing to add, aside from the fact that I am sorry to hear you are having to make this decision.

FWIW, if you were my friend/family, I would absolutely help you take care of everything that needed to be done.

WildMagelet · January 2014

The questions have already been addressed, but just wanted to wish you the best.

MGP · January 2014

Hugs to you. Unfortunately I have been there and done that as well. The best advice I got was "it's better to have a broken engagement than a bad marriage" and it's so true. I wish you the best.

MandyMost · January 2014

A friend of the family called off their wedding because she found out he was cheating on her the day after they sent the invites. It was over then and there. The fact that the wedding was called off was just spread by work of mouth, no formal announcement was sent. That worked fine for them. And for the record, she is now deliriously happy with a man who is much better for her, and I expect an engagement announcement any day now.

Amyzen83 · January 2014

I'm sorry OP

*hugs* everyone covered the advice, but it will get better! I hope that it's not the marriage that is cancelled, but sometimes you gotta do what you gotta do. Best of luck!

Jells2dot0 · January 2014

So sorry and I hope everything works out. I'm sure everyone on here would love to hear from you again so please feel free to vent on here as much as you'd like!

crunchymamaof2 · January 2014

I am so, so sorry :-(

photokitty · January 2014

I'm so sorry…but having come close to calling off my first marriage and leaving him 8 months later - I can tell you from experience, it is much better to call it off than get a divorce. Take care of yourself!

Inkdancer · January 2014

:C I am so sorry.

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