UPDATE: She legitimately thinks she is a bridesmaid

HisGirlFriday13 · January 2014

Vivandiere8 said:

i understand why you fiance doesn't want her invited any more. To my ears her mentioning she is going to give a toast at your wedding is a veiled threat. It's probably because i've heard too many stories, and seen too many movies about horrible, inappropriate, drunk wedding toasts and it's a vague secret fear of mine. Can you imagine her standing up to give a toast and starting out with "so i was suppose to be a brides maid..."

That thought hadn't even occurred to me. Holy effing shitballs.

LondonLisa · January 2014

amandaj424 Did you end up having a talk with her? How did it go?

This story is nuts, but I totally agree with PP. Firm and straightforward seem to be the way to manage her. Don't give her any wiggle room. If you say things like "awww, wish you could be there but we don't have space" seems like she will show up and with her own chair and not eat since she isnt *technically* taking the space of anyone.

mrsbanany · January 2014

Ok so here is what happened. I ignored her for a few days figuring she would probably text me and ask to go out and I would just talk to her about it then...in a public place. However, my MOH told me that crazy friend texts my MOH to discuss the bridal shower. So before I go further let me give you some back story on MOH and crazy friend. MOH and crazy HATE each other. MOH just doesn't like crazy but crazy will full out lose her shit if you talk about MOH in front of her. It all started in high school when MOH started dating crazy's crush. Crazy then made it her mission to be as mean to MOH as possible to make up for the fact that she dated this guy first. I just stayed out of this fight between the two of them and then when we all went to college, MOH got over it and just understands that crazy is just a mean person and doesn't associate with her. Crazy on the other hand was beyond mad when she learned that MOH was my MOH. This all can give you a back story as well as to why crazy and I don't really talk often, I don't like to associate myself with people who treat others like that, regardless of my relationship with the person she is mean to.

Anyway, I learned that crazy texted MOH to discuss the bridal shower. I am not getting married until April 2015 so no pre-wedding parties are even being thought about at this point. So crazy said that she had contacted a few places to arrange a bridal shower. MOH responded with it is not her responsibility to plan the shower and that she (MOH) will be planning the shower closer to the wedding. A texting argument then breaks out among MOH and crazy over how crazy shouldn't be involved in anything because she isn't a BM. Of course this was not said in the nicest words and this was not exactly the way that I wanted her to be told that she wasn't a BM.

Then, I get a text from crazy telling me that my MOH is a bitch and that I will have to choose between the two of them because she cannot be in the WP as long as MOH is the MOH. I told her that I would prefer to talk about this in person but she insisted on hashing things out right then. So I call her and shes hysterically crying and saying that being in the wedding means so much to her because she was there when FI and I met and how her BF just broke up with her and how she hates her job and her life just sucks and that being a BM would make all of that better. She tells me that I need to choose between MOH and herself and I said "I have told you many times that I was only having MOH and FI's sister in the WP and you knew this from the beginning. MOH was not very polite when she told you that you were not a BM, but she was correct. I am sorry that you thought you were a BM but I cannot make an exception for you to be a BM when I am not having any of my friends as BMs." So she starts losing her shit again and is saying "you are not the person I thought you were. I should have known this the second you told me MOH was your MOH. Any person who associates with her is not a person I want to be around, I have to remove myself from the WP" and then she hung up.

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Ya...that happened....you can't even make this shit up...but I guess the problem solved itself?

KateJ16 · January 2014

Um... wow.

You are very lucky that she "removed herself from the wedding party."

misshart00 · January 2014

I'm so sorry you had to go through that. But I'm laughing so hard right now. Girl is nuts. I don't even think I would invite her to the wedding.

HisGirlFriday13 · January 2014

Well holy crap. I guess that's one way for the problem to resolve itself.

Clearly she thought giving you an ultimatum, you'd pick her, she's really just that crazy.

Dsaaaaamn.

delujm0 · January 2014

Even if she did think she was a BM, what on earth made her think that you would ever pick her over your MOH in a ultimatum situation? That is crazypants. Obviously MOH is the MOH because you consider her to be the most important person in your wedding party. Why would you ever pick sides against her?

This girl is nutballs. You'd be lucky if she never contacted you again.

Inkdancer · January 2014

Wow.

Well, at least that's over with.

sarahufl · January 2014

Sounds to me like she has other issues she needs to address that won't be solved by simply being a BM.

vt&dt · January 2014

I'm sorry, but this update cracked me up. I never thought that she would eliminate the problem by "removing herself" from the WP!

There you go. Advice from now on: let crazy take its course and remove itself.

WOW.

Cookie Pusher · January 2014

Wow, she sounds like a whole mess of crazy there. Honestly, I'd just stop all contact with her to keep your stress levels down!

jdluvr06 · January 2014

Wow... I'm sorry because I know that had to be stressful for you but I'm cracking up right now.

SmileDamnit · January 2014

Wow is right!! I know of a train wreck of a wedding coming up that sounds like it could a perfect fit for crazy

JellyBean52513 · January 2014

There are no words. I, along with PPs, am dying with laughter. I'm sorry to had to go through this but there really couldn't have been a more comical way for this situation to resolve

mollyringwald15 · January 2014

You should be flattered to have someone so obsessed with you and your wedding.

I would hire security.

WildMagelet · January 2014

OMG. That's hilarious, sad, and quite disturbing all at the same time.

Don't talk to her about the wedding anymore, ever. Don't invite her to the wedding. Hire security and give them her photo.

Wow.

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