A coworker's son got engaged last October(ish) and neither him nor his FI wanted a big wedding. She of course wanted a big family event since it's her first child getting married. We went to lunch a few times and exchanged emails with me letting her know to back off, it's what they want and to maybe offer to throw them a party later but not another reception. The co-worker asked me so many questions that I was able to answer because of TK boards about having a bridal shower AFTER the wedding etc., before the party that I answered appropriately. They ended up getting married in December at the court house, really pretty small intimate wedding then a reception at a cafe. Perfect IMO.
So today I come to find out that the party has turned into a PPD/PKD. It's a total do-over. She's paying and she isn't even sure if her siblings are invited. She brings anything up and gets told to mind her own business. I feel so bad for her since I suggested the party. She's being so nice about it and doesn't want to cause waives. I told her she should at least put her foot down and tell them what family members she wants to invite to the party. She's given them a budget and said if you go over it, it's your responsibility.