my tacky cousin just texted...

cruffino · February 2014

NiTro1110 said:

At least take solace knowing that his (potential) absence would be for good reason-- he's keeping the roads safe! That's much better than him blowing you off without warning because he didn't feel like wearing pants that day.

Enjoy your wedding, I'm sure it will be fabulous.

i would love to tell someone that i couldn't attend their event because i didn't feel like wearing pants.

cruffino · February 2014

s-aries8990 said:

lol I may have been your tacky cousin - BF makes great money when he plows, and since he's saving money for a house, he may have had to skip like your cousin's BF.

Unfortunately there are some jobs that require people to be on-call often. BF's been called out while we were at dinner. I've had uncle's called out on Christmas. At one point, we didn't see my dad on Thanksgiving because he was called out.

It sucks, but at least she's trying to give you a head's up instead of him not showing up!

i agree, it was nice of her to let me know in advance.

cousin, if you're out there, i'm sorry i called you tacky.

cruffino · February 2014

Amyzen83 said:

Op you are officially the poster child to lurkers out there on how to handle others differing opinions I'm sorry about the couples wishy washy RSVP! Would you be willing to put his portion in a to go box and tell her you miss him but saved him some food?

we're having tableside ordering so i'm not sure if they'll make a plate if he isn't there, but that's a nice idea.

cruffino · February 2014

ClimbingBrideNY said:

I'm sorry. I know it sucks. My brother works for the local highway department and plowing is part of his job. As soon as it starts snowing, he gets called out. It's unfortunate but he can't ever really fully commit to anything in the winter. That's the nature of the job.

true. i wish they would come to my block more often. but that's what i get for living in exile on staten island.

cruffino · February 2014

phira said:

cruffino said:

@Inkdancer

there's a very real possibility that i'm overreacting. i'm just annoyed because we already provided the final number to the caterer and can no longer change it.

Considering the shit-fit I had last week because a potential baker suggested we try their carrot cake instead of spice cake, I KIND OF UNDERSTAND THIS.

but they're so similar......**backs away slowly

pinkcow13 · February 2014

Yea def annoying. But sounds like you feel better now:) and omg your wedding is in less than a week, exciting!!!!!! The weather in NYC has been crazy. And I didn't know there would be more snow Saturday. Well I hope your wedding is fabulous!!!! I went to Costa Rica a few years ago and it is amazing!!!! One of my favorite places, you guys will have a blast!

missnc77 · February 2014

Look at the bright side, maybe he'll come plow snow at your venue. Glass half full, right?

phira · February 2014

@smalfrie19 It was a super bridezilla moment. Basically, I was emailing bakeries to ask if they could do a spice cake for our wedding cake. One of the bakeries emailed me back and didn't actually answer my question. They implied that lots of couples ask about spice cake, and what they do is recommend their carrot cake and people are very satisfied with it. A lot of people understood why I was irked because the bakery didn't come out and say, "No, we don't do spice cake, but ..." or even, "Yes, we do, but for the tasting, here's what we'll have."

But I was super pissed off because I was so offended that someone would offer me carrot cake, which is horrible* and think it was even a little similar to spice cake, which is the best thing ever.

* I really don't like carrot cake.

EverAfer · February 2014

missnc77 said:

Look at the bright side, maybe he'll come plow snow at your venue. Glass half full, right?

I was thinking this. Helps to have connections.

Either way, you'll have an awesome wedding and you'll be married.

ChemFanatic25 · February 2014

oh man! @phira, how could you?! I LOVE CARROT CAKE! I know, I'm a freak but I really don't like cake in general because it's dry and way to sweet but carrot cake, oh carrot cake. It's so moist (yes, I use that word when describing delicious baked goods) and wonderful and wakes the taste buds up. Not too sweet, just the right amount of carrot and then to top it off, cream cheese frosting that has a little bit of a bite to counterbalance it. Yum yum YUM!

P.S. I discovered why carrot cake is so different from other cakes. Recipes normally call for double or triple the amount of oil that a regular cake does so it changes the chemistry of the cake.

Inkdancer · February 2014

phira said:

@smalfrie19 It was a super bridezilla moment. Basically, I was emailing bakeries to ask if they could do a spice cake for our wedding cake. One of the bakeries emailed me back and didn't actually answer my question. They implied that lots of couples ask about spice cake, and what they do is recommend their carrot cake and people are very satisfied with it. A lot of people understood why I was irked because the bakery didn't come out and say, "No, we don't do spice cake, but ..." or even, "Yes, we do, but for the tasting, here's what we'll have."

But I was super pissed off because I was so offended that someone would offer me carrot cake, which is horrible* and think it was even a little similar to spice cake, which is the best thing ever.

* I really don't like carrot cake.

I am with you on this! I would eat spice cake for every meal but I refuse to touch carrot cake.

smalfrie19 · February 2014

phira said:

@smalfrie19 It was a super bridezilla moment. Basically, I was emailing bakeries to ask if they could do a spice cake for our wedding cake. One of the bakeries emailed me back and didn't actually answer my question. They implied that lots of couples ask about spice cake, and what they do is recommend their carrot cake and people are very satisfied with it. A lot of people understood why I was irked because the bakery didn't come out and say, "No, we don't do spice cake, but ..." or even, "Yes, we do, but for the tasting, here's what we'll have."

But I was super pissed off because I was so offended that someone would offer me carrot cake, which is horrible* and think it was even a little similar to spice cake, which is the best thing ever.

* I really don't like carrot cake.

its funny because we will probably end up having BOTH since carrot cake is D's favorite.. and I do like my spice cake and it works with our menu (Turkey & Ham dinner

)

ei34 · February 2014

I got married last February in NYC, and I was also nervous about weather playing a factor. It was nice of your cousin to let you know in advance, there might be guests who simply don't show up. I'll be keeping my fingers crossed that the snow stays away this weekend (we've already had so much this winter!!) and that you and your FI have a beautiful wedding! Enjoy

phira · February 2014

@smalfrie19 @InkDancer @ChemFanatic25 Cake is such a weirdly personal thing! I've been having so much fun telling this story because it's such a CLEAR bridezilla moment ... and yet everyone has really strong opinions on it. Although I feel like most people agree that carrot cake != spice cake. I mean, seriously, people.

ChemFanatic25 · February 2014

@phira, I don't like cake so the few types of cake I do like I'm most likely going to be very picky and anxious since it's a limited spread. If I could, I would totally do krispy kreme doughnuts but I have a feeling FI would not be overly joyed about that and I'm okay with it.

Jen4948 · February 2014

Inkdancer said:

phira said:

@smalfrie19 It was a super bridezilla moment. Basically, I was emailing bakeries to ask if they could do a spice cake for our wedding cake. One of the bakeries emailed me back and didn't actually answer my question. They implied that lots of couples ask about spice cake, and what they do is recommend their carrot cake and people are very satisfied with it. A lot of people understood why I was irked because the bakery didn't come out and say, "No, we don't do spice cake, but ..." or even, "Yes, we do, but for the tasting, here's what we'll have."

But I was super pissed off because I was so offended that someone would offer me carrot cake, which is horrible* and think it was even a little similar to spice cake, which is the best thing ever.

* I really don't like carrot cake.

I am with you on this! I would eat spice cake for every meal but I refuse to touch carrot cake.

Me too! I'll happily eat spice cake, but carrot cake? Noooooooooo.

theartistformerlyknownas · February 2014

The way this year is going, I wouldn't be surprised if it kept on snowing til June so I don't think your February wedding is to blame! Mother Nature is a fickle bitch. Good luck this weekend!!!

(ETA - I heart carrot cake, but the apple spice cake we had at our tasting - during another blizzard last weekend - was probably the best thing I've ever had in my mouth. Unfortunately their frosting sucked so we'll have to go elsewhere.)

Pepper6 · February 2014

We ended up having 2 no shows for our wedding (one was for work, the other was a family emergency), but then we also ended up having 2 additional guests that weren't originally invited, so it kind of worked out.

In the end though, I honestly never would have noticed if those 2 people weren't there if their spouses hadn't given their apologies for them because there was so much other stuff going on that day and I was far too happy to worry about paying for 2 meals that might not have gotten eaten. It's definitely stressful in the final days before the wedding, so I completely understand the minor freakout, but just remember that as long as you end the day married, nothing else really matters.

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