"Paper Married." WTF WW moment.

Re: "Paper Married." WTF WW moment.

• lyndausvi mod

  

  February 2014

  LOL.     Why do people makes things so difficult for themselves?

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  

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• PrettyGirlLost member

  

  February 2014

  lyndausvi said:

  LOL.     Why do people makes things so difficult for themselves?

  I have a few answers, and they all involved people just being freaking morons ><
  

  
  "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
  
  

  
  

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• Emmy1493 member

  

  February 2014

  RIGHT? Paper married. thats a new one for me.

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• PrettyGirlLost member

  

  February 2014

  So far a surprising number of people there are saying most of the things we'd say about a PPD.
  

  
  "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
  
  

  
  

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  February 2014

  It's just so damn funny. 

  
  

  
  

  OMG, I CAN'T HAVE A STRANGER OF THE STREETS PERFORM OUR FAKE CEREMONY.  NO!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!     The horrors.

  
  

  I think an Elvis impostor would be appropriate.

   

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests.  Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated. 
  

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• theartistformerlyknownas member

  

  February 2014

  Oy boy. Reminded me of this:

  
  

  
  

  I'm marrying my fiance... not paper marrying him.

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• cupcait927 member

  

  February 2014

  Well isn't she special. Pretty sure any date you get married will automatically becomes special to you, regardless of when it is. God help that chick if she ever came over here spewing her special snowflake mentality.

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• Emmy1493 member

  

  February 2014

  That was my thought exactly. I am glad some people were giving knot-like responses. Makes me have a small, tiny glimmer of hope for WW.

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  February 2014

  But she wants to get married on her dating anniversary so having two ceremonies is so okay.

  
  

  Vomit.

  
  

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  February 2014

  At least she is going to recognize her paper wedding as the real date.   But it's all just so strange to.    Wouldn't you want to say your custom vows at your paper wedding also?  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Jells2dot0 mod

  

  February 2014

  Come on girls. Let's not rain on her parade. It's her day, after all.

   

  

  
  
  
  

  
  
  
  

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• manateehugger member

  

  February 2014

  If I had a dollar for every time I hear a military wife say she's "only paper married," I'd have a hell of a lot of dollars. 

  

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• PrettyGirlLost member

  

  February 2014

  I'm assuming these girls who are so obsessed with their dating anniversary are young- like early to mid 20's?  Because it seems so HS to me.
  
  My dating anniversary is Dec 1st- no freaking way I am having a December wedding.  Sorry but cold and snow and salt and slush and ice and possible accidents doesn't sound like an ideal wedding day to me, and in my area chances are that is what will happen!
  
  I'm getting married in October and I couldn't give a crap that I'm not getting married on my dating anniversary.  I've been dating FI for 12 years and I'm still with him and we are getting married. . . that's really all the matters.
  
  Plus, you can still celebrate your dating anniversary, regardless of when you got married, if it is that important.
  

  
  "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
  
  

  
  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  February 2014

  I am "paper married" too, but I got "paper married" and "really married" on the same day like normal, unselfish and unentitled people do!

  
  

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• manateehugger member

  

  February 2014

  FI and I literally can't even remember our dating anniversary. We both have to go look it up every time. 

  

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• Maggie0829 member

  

  February 2014

  FI and I literally can't even remember our dating anniversary. We both have to go look it up every time. 

  I know that ours is in May only because we started dating around Prom time.  Other then that we pretty much stopped caring about our dating anniversary after about the third year we were together.

  
  

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• manateehugger member

  

  February 2014

  Maggie0829 said:

  FI and I literally can't even remember our dating anniversary. We both have to go look it up every time. 

  I know that ours is in May only because we started dating around Prom time.  Other then that we pretty much stopped caring about our dating anniversary after about the third year we were together.

  Seriously! After a certain point, who cares? Especially when you're about to get married. Wedding anniversary>dating anniversary. 

  
  

  Ours is sometime in March.

  

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• Emmy1493 member

  

  February 2014

  PrettyGirlLost said:

  I'm assuming these girls who are so obsessed with their dating anniversary are young- like early to mid 20's?  Because it seems so HS to me.
  
  My dating anniversary is Dec 1st- no freaking way I am having a December wedding.  Sorry but cold and snow and salt and slush and ice and possible accidents doesn't sound like an ideal wedding day to me, and in my area chances are that is what will happen!
  
  I'm getting married in October and I couldn't give a crap that I'm not getting married on my dating anniversary.  I've been dating FI for 12 years and I'm still with him and we are getting married. . . that's really all the matters.
  
  Plus, you can still celebrate your dating anniversary, regardless of when you got married, if it is that important.
  

  This exactly! I don't get it either, and I am a 20 year old bride LOL. Our dating anni. is September, were getting married in May. Some people..just...uhgg.

  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  February 2014

  I remember my dating anniversary with my BF of  2 1/2 years...but only because I looked it up.
  

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• KPBM89 member

  

  February 2014

  Love this comment: "Link for google.  www.google.com" bahaha

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  February 2014

  Jells2dot0 said:

  Come on girls. Let's not rain on her parade. It's her day  days, after all.

  Fixed that for you

  
  

  
  

  
  

  I have no idea the date that DH and I both got stupid drunk and decided to have a one night stand that hasn't yet ended. It was a Sunday during football season. Not really helpful though is it?

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• PrettyGirlLost member

  

  February 2014

  lyndausvi said:

  Jells2dot0 said:

  Come on girls. Let's not rain on her parade. It's her day  days, after all.

  Fixed that for you

  
  

  
  

  
  

  I have no idea the date that DH and I both got stupid drunk and decided to have a one night stand that hasn't yet ended. It was a Sunday during football season. Not really helpful though is it?

  
  

  Who was in the Superbowl that year?  We can back track from there.
  

  
  "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
  
  

  
  

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• delujm0 member

  

  February 2014

  lyndausvi said:

  Jells2dot0 said:

  Come on girls. Let's not rain on her parade. It's her day  days, after all.

  Fixed that for you

  
  

  
  

  
  

  I have no idea the date that DH and I both got stupid drunk and decided to have a one night stand that hasn't yet ended. It was a Sunday during football season. Not really helpful though is it?

  
  

  Samezies!  It was in early October sometime, and we only know that because i remember it was the weekend before Fall Break (we were in college).

   

  We are getting married in May.  May 31 was never an important day to me, but it will be as soon as i get married on it.  i don't understand the obsession with finding a "special" date to get married.  the wedding will make it special enough, won't it?

   

  also "paper married" is not a thing.  she could say she's "real married" on 8/26 and then "starring in a stage version of her 8/26 wedding" on 8/30 if she really wants...

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• Jells2dot0 mod

  

  February 2014

  lyndausvi said:

  Jells2dot0 said:

  Come on girls. Let's not rain on her parade. It's her day  days, after all.

  Fixed that for you

  
  

  
  

  
  

  I have no idea the date that DH and I both got stupid drunk and decided to have a one night stand that hasn't yet ended. It was a Sunday during football season. Not really helpful though is it?

  
  

  
  I did not make day plural because everyone knows paper married days don't count.

   

  

  
  
  
  

  
  
  
  

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• KatWAG member

  

  February 2014

  Am I the only one who was surprised by how many reasonable and rational people commented about lying and being deceitful? I know it wasnt the majority, but hey, its an improvement.

  

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• lyndausvi mod

  

  February 2014

  PrettyGirlLost said:

  lyndausvi said:

  Jells2dot0 said:

  Come on girls. Let's not rain on her parade. It's her day  days, after all.

  Fixed that for you

  
  

  
  

  
  

  I have no idea the date that DH and I both got stupid drunk and decided to have a one night stand that hasn't yet ended. It was a Sunday during football season. Not really helpful though is it?

  
  

  Who was in the Superbowl that year?  We can back track from there.
  

  I do know the year.    If I really cared I could figure it out since it was before Halloween and after  my friend got married in mid-Oct (although I do not remember that date either - wouldn't STB be so upset to hear I don't remember my friends wedding dates? - ha).  

  
  

   Honestly, it really wasn't something I cared about.   I got my ring just before 4th of July, but I can't remember that date either.  It's between the 1-3 though.  I only remember that because we were in the states around that time.

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

  
  

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• cookie0803 member

  

  February 2014

  PrettyGirlLost said:

  I'm assuming these girls who are so obsessed with their dating anniversary are young- like early to mid 20's?  Because it seems so HS to me.
  
  My dating anniversary is Dec 1st- no freaking way I am having a December wedding.  Sorry but cold and snow and salt and slush and ice and possible accidents doesn't sound like an ideal wedding day to me, and in my area chances are that is what will happen!
  
  I'm getting married in October and I couldn't give a crap that I'm not getting married on my dating anniversary.  I've been dating FI for 12 years and I'm still with him and we are getting married. . . that's really all the matters.
  
  Plus, you can still celebrate your dating anniversary, regardless of when you got married, if it is that important.
  

  *Timidly raises hand*

  I'm in my mid-20's and we got married on our dating anniversary. Our anniversary is in September, which is our favorite month, and happened to fall on a Saturday last year. It wasn't a make or break deal, but I was excited that it worked out that way. 

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• pinkshorts27 member

  

  February 2014 edited February 2014

  PDKH said:

  FI and I literally can't even remember our dating anniversary. We both have to go look it up every time. 

  We remember ours, only it is easy to remember and when we didn't have much money we used it as an excuse for a monthly date. The 11th Each month we do something special. That being said,  we would use it as an excuse to have  PPD. We have celebrated 6, almost 7, years of dating. I can't imagine not celebrating after being married. 

  
  

  

  
  

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• PrettyGirlLost member

  

  February 2014

  cookie0803 said:

  
  

  PrettyGirlLost said:

  
  

  I'm assuming these girls who are so obsessed with their dating anniversary are young- like early to mid 20's?  Because it seems so HS to me.
  
  My dating anniversary is Dec 1st- no freaking way I am having a December wedding.  Sorry but cold and snow and salt and slush and ice and possible accidents doesn't sound like an ideal wedding day to me, and in my area chances are that is what will happen!
  
  I'm getting married in October and I couldn't give a crap that I'm not getting married on my dating anniversary.  I've been dating FI for 12 years and I'm still with him and we are getting married. . . that's really all the matters.
  
  Plus, you can still celebrate your dating anniversary, regardless of when you got married, if it is that important.
  

  
  

  *Timidly raises hand*

  I'm in my mid-20's and we got married on our dating anniversary. Our anniversary is in September, which is our favorite month, and happened to fall on a Saturday last year. It wasn't a make or break deal, but I was excited that it worked out that way. 

  
  
  Its ok hun, you were rational about it!

  
  "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
  
  

  
  

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• phira member

  

  February 2014

  I'm almost 30 and my partner is 30 and we were really excited to book our wedding for our anniversary. But we also agreed that if our anniversary had been on a weekday, we would have picked a different date.

  
  

  I've been ... hopeful? I guess? reading some of the replies on WW. Another user even started a whole thread railing against PPDs. Her thread wasn't very articulate, and there are still people whining about how if people REALLY LOVE YOU they'll want to celebrate with you. But as I and other people keep pointing out: if these people REALLY LOVE YOU enough to want to celebrate with you anyway, then why are you keeping it a secret that you'll already be married?

  

  now with ~* INCREASED SASSINESS *~
  
  

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