Am I the only one?

jdluvr06 · February 2014

Who would rather get a thank you phone call than a thank you note? Don't get me wrong I'm still going to send thank you notes because it is what is expected but I'm always going to call people. I personally feel a phone call is nicer than a note.

misshart00 · February 2014

I hate talking on the phone in general so I would probably feel awkward trying to make small talk after saying thanks.

lyndausvi · February 2014

I prefer a note.

I spend all day on the phone at work. I avoid the phone off hours.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2014

I like getting mail, so I'd rather get a note :-)

mbross3 · February 2014

I would prefer a note as well. I agree with PP, I would feel awkward trying to make small talk around the "thank you" and again, I spend too much time on the phone during the day!

antoto · February 2014

I think it depends - if it's your bff, then a phone call is fun... but if it's your cousin that you only talk to every year or so then it would just be awkward.

pumpkinsandturkeys · February 2014

I like getting mail, too. Also, I like that I can save a Thank You Note because it's a tangible item. I can't save a phone call unless I somehow record it (creeeepy! haha)

jdluvr06 · February 2014

I'm that person who doesn't save thank you note. I tend to glance at them for a second and then toss it. I also hate getting mail. My FI and I have gone almost completely paperless. I guess if you had people you barely talk to at your wedding it would be weird but I don't have that problem. My family is really tight knit, we're all kind of in constant contact. I actually just got off the phone with my great aunt. All the girls in our family are going to her house for a chick flick night on Saturday.

climbingsingle · February 2014

lyndausvi said:
I prefer a note.

I spend all day on the phone at work. I avoid the phone off hours.

This exactly. I hate having to talk on the phone. I prefer a note.

grumbledore · February 2014

jdluvr06 said:

Who would rather get a thank you phone call than a thank you note? Don't get me wrong I'm still going to send thank you notes because it is what is expected but I'm always going to call people. I personally feel a phone call is nicer than a note.

Yes, you're the only one.

grumbledore · February 2014

jdluvr06 said:

I'm that person who doesn't save thank you note. I tend to glance at them for a second and then toss it. I also hate getting mail. My FI and I have gone almost completely paperless. I guess if you had people you barely talk to at your wedding it would be weird but I don't have that problem. My family is really tight knit, we're all kind of in constant contact. I actually just got off the phone with my great aunt. All the girls in our family are going to her house for a chick flick night on Saturday.

Regardless of all of this, you should still send thank you notes for wedding and shower gifts. It kind of sounds like you're not planning to, which is a mistake.

photokitty · February 2014

I like mail, except bills. I'd prefer to get more mail mixed in with my bills, so I prefer mail to calls.

jdluvr06 · February 2014

jdluvr06 said:

I'm that person who doesn't save thank you note. I tend to glance at them for a second and then toss it. I also hate getting mail. My FI and I have gone almost completely paperless. I guess if you had people you barely talk to at your wedding it would be weird but I don't have that problem. My family is really tight knit, we're all kind of in constant contact. I actually just got off the phone with my great aunt. All the girls in our family are going to her house for a chick flick night on Saturday.

Regardless of all of this, you should still send thank you notes for wedding and shower gifts. It kind of sounds like you're not planning to, which is a mistake.

Or you could read my OP where I said I would still send thank you notes because it what is expected.

Inkdancer · February 2014

Unless it's my bestie or family, I rarely answer my phone. On the other hand, I keep every letter and card I receive. I absolutely love a heartfelt note!

doeydo · February 2014

No, you're not the only one. My parents would have myself and my sisters call my Grandparents (who are Snowbirds and go to Florida every year during the winter) every Christmas, birthday, etc. when they gave us stuff. It just makes more sense to me to actually thank the person and talk to them than to use snail mail and pay for postage. That said, for things like bridal showers and wedding gifts I of course will send thank you notes.

Jen4948 · February 2014

I'd rather get a note.

I'm not a phone person. I remember one time my grandmother sent me a gift and my mom expected me to immediately get on the phone and thank her when I was planning to send her a nice note. My grandmother was all "Huh?" She wasn't really a phone person either-at least not with me. I thanked her, but neither of us was comfortable. My mom should have butted out.

HaileyDancingbear · February 2014

I personally just don't like talking on the phone in general. Too many awkward silences that I have no clue whatsoever how to fill- at least when I'm talking to someone face-to-face and there's a lull in the conversation, it's ok, but on the phone it's kinda torture.

That's just me, though, not everyone hates phones as much as I do.

SKPM · February 2014

I'm also in Camp Prefer A Note. I'm someone who doesn't like talking on the phone, and has to make phone calls all day for work. An incoming phone call feels more like it's demanding my attention right this second, even if it's a close friend or relative and that isn't their intent. I feel like I have to drop everything and answer (or let if go to voicemail, in which case, why not just write the note?), or I might not be in the mood to talk to someone right now. I can attend to opening and reading a note on my own time.

jdluvr06 · February 2014

doeydo said:

No, you're not the only one. My parents would have myself and my sisters call my Grandparents (who are Snowbirds and go to Florida every year during the winter) every Christmas, birthday, etc. when they gave us stuff. It just makes more sense to me to actually thank the person and talk to them than to use snail mail and pay for postage. That said, for things like bridal showers and wedding gifts I of course will send thank you notes.

I was raised to call and thank people for gifts too. That might be the big difference. I had actually never heard of people sending thank you notes for Christmas or birthday gifts until I started reading these boards. Also I feel a phone call is much more personal than a note.

RebeccaB88 · February 2014

I'd rather get the note.

I mean, you can say thank you when we see each other in person, and that'll be cool. But like others, I tend to avoid the phone when I'm not at work. And I hate small talk. Even if you thank me in another way, I'd still prefer the note.

MNVegas · February 2014

Definitely would prefer getting a note, no phone calls please.

What are you going to do when you call and get a voicemail? Leave a thank you VM?

KeepMovingOn · February 2014

jdluvr06 said:

Who would rather get a thank you phone call than a thank you note? Don't get me wrong I'm still going to send thank you notes because it is what is expected but I'm always going to call people. I personally feel a phone call is nicer than a note.

grumbledore said:

jdluvr06 said:

I'm that person who doesn't save thank you note. I tend to glance at them for a second and then toss it. I also hate getting mail. My FI and I have gone almost completely paperless. I guess if you had people you barely talk to at your wedding it would be weird but I don't have that problem. My family is really tight knit, we're all kind of in constant contact. I actually just got off the phone with my great aunt. All the girls in our family are going to her house for a chick flick night on Saturday.

Regardless of all of this, you should still send thank you notes for wedding and shower gifts. It kind of sounds like you're not planning to, which is a mistake.

Uh huh.

Maggie0829 · February 2014

I hate talking on the phone. I also don't keep thank you notes but I appreciate receiving them. Unless you are my Mom or my H please don't call me on the phone because then I will have to try and make small talk and it will just be awkward.

RedJacks25 · February 2014

I would much rather get a note, as long as it was personalized.

bethsmiles · February 2014

I hate talking on the phone. I pretty much only talk on the phone with my family, my SO, and my best friend. I'd probably be a little annoyed actually, if you called to say thanks because I really don't enjoy small talk.

My parents did make me call to say thank-you's for presents when I was younger. But now I'm a big fan of thank-you notes instead.

grumbledore · February 2014

jdluvr06 said:

jdluvr06 said:

I'm that person who doesn't save thank you note. I tend to glance at them for a second and then toss it. I also hate getting mail. My FI and I have gone almost completely paperless. I guess if you had people you barely talk to at your wedding it would be weird but I don't have that problem. My family is really tight knit, we're all kind of in constant contact. I actually just got off the phone with my great aunt. All the girls in our family are going to her house for a chick flick night on Saturday.

Regardless of all of this, you should still send thank you notes for wedding and shower gifts. It kind of sounds like you're not planning to, which is a mistake.
Or you could read my OP where I said I would still send thank you notes because it what is expected.

Touche, I didn't realize I was responding to an additional post by the OP, my bad.

tammym1001 · February 2014

I would prefer a thank you card. I don't hate talking on the phone, but it does seem like people always call me at the worst times. People wait until they aren't busy to call me, but they don't take into consideration that I don't keep the same kind of schedule they do so usually they are interrupting me when I'm doing something else. So a phone call thank you would probably annoy me. When I get a card I can open it at my convenience, not yours.

Cookie Pusher · February 2014

I rarely ever answer my phone, so call if you want, but you get to leave me an awkward voicemail!

phira · February 2014

I love getting mail that isn't bills, so I always prefer a thank you note.

Simply Fated · February 2014

I'm sentimental, so I keep my thank you notes. They are always much appreciated.
I'm not a phone person, in general. I can't answer my cellphone at work and I've become accustomed to turning it off at night, so people tend to play phone tag with me.
Also, getting a phone call and then a letter about the same thing might feel somewhat redundant.

Amyzen83 · February 2014

I'm pretty chatty, I don't normally get to see my friends face to face much, and I ABSOLUTELY loath FB connection, so the phone is my friend. However a nice thoughtful thank you note is very much appreciated. It makes getting the mail worth it! It's nice to get a nice card, sentimental letter amongst all the crap advertisements and bill notifications

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