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Engagement party question

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Re: Engagement party question

  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    II was born in Iowa.  That is about as middle American as you can get.  We don't host our own engagement parties.  We don't have cash bars at weddings.  We don't follow any "cover your plate" nonsense.  Most of you ladies know I'm one of the most conservative posters on the Knot.
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    I think she is generally trolling, but I agree with her that e-parties are typically viewed as an event where polite guests expect to bring a gift for the couple.  I view them as gift giving events and it's one of the reasons why hosting your own is considered rude.
    That totally varies by social circle and region.  In my group, hostess gifts are the norm for any party, but an engagement party gift is pretty much unheard of.  

    Either way, gifts should never be expected for anything.  PP shouldn't feel guilty for not taking a gift.  
    Thank you! A lot of the e-parites I've been to is mainly a BFF hosting who says, "Meet us here and have a drink with us to congratulate the couple!" sort of thing thats sent via facebook or e-vite. People pay for their drinks, and their food. Occasionally the host will get an appetizer platter. For a more formal e-party, I would def bring a celebratory type of gift, similar to a housewarming party, like a bottle of wine :) 
    That wasn't what I was saying.  Properly hosted engagement parties happen (though not every couple has them) in my area.  They just aren't gift events.  Gifts are for the shower and wedding, not the engagement.  They are still parties with guests and a host.  It just isn't the norm to bring a gift.

    I would not call a gathering at a restaurant where everyone pays their own way an engagement party.  
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  • MrsMarendeMrsMarende member
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    It is the norm in our circle to bring a gift to an e-party. I would feel rude if I didn't give something. Usually the gifts are small and honor the couple like a nice frame with their picture and a card vs a blender. 
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