Is 170 too many invites if the venue holds 150?

Maggie0829 · February 2014

Sugargirl1019 said:

no one likes to be B listed.
No one has to know. You do what you gotta do. You want to know etiquette, Emily Post says you could do this. OP will decide if she wants to use this option, despite many of you disagreeing because all your guests will know if they are B listed ??

People will know. Typically you should receive your invite at about 2 months out from the wedding date. If your guests wait until the week of your RSVP date (which is about 2 weeks before your wedding) to send back their RSVPs and then you turn around and send out invites to the b-listers, you don't think they will be questioning why they got an invite so damn close to the wedding/RSVP date? People aren't stupid. Also if any of these individuals know each other and one says "oh hey I got Sarah and Mikes invite, did you?" and the other says "no" only to then receive an invite a month later. Um, yeah, they will know.

NYCBruin · February 2014

PrettyGirlLost said:

Plus if 150 is venue limit and firecode, then you need to make sure that your officiant, DJ, photographer(s), etc are included in your guestlist to a max of 150.

You can't cut your list down to 150 guests, plus those vendors.

This. Double check with your venue whether that 150 max includes vendors. Many venues just give you a max person list, which counts both guests and vendors.

mrs4everhart · February 2014

I always chuckle at the B-list thing, mainly because I wonder how many times it's happened to me, and I just didn't know. I personally wouldn't care either way, but whenever I receive an invite kind of close to the RSVP deadline, I always assumed it was because the sender didn't get their shit together in time or was ignorant to the rules and regulations of invites and RSVP's. Which could still be the case, especially with my friends over the years.

I don't care for it, but every time I try to explain why it's not cool to my FI, he cocks his head like a confused puppy and "whatevers" me. I know he's going to pull this on me last minute with some person or another. I'm prepared.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2014

Sugargirl1019 said:

no one likes to be B listed.
No one has to know. You do what you gotta do. You want to know etiquette, Emily Post says you could do this. OP will decide if she wants to use this option, despite many of you disagreeing because all your guests will know if they are B listed ??

FFS people, Emily Post is DEAD! And she is rolling over in her grave over the horrible advice her family is doling out via the Emily Post Institute since they have become shills for the wedding industry.

Stop quoting Emily Post on this board, unless your information is actually coming from her.

phira · February 2014

STBMrsEverhart said:

Math tells me yes, it's too many. I'm not trying to be a dick but what are you going to do if they all show up? Hey, Aunt Sally, this is my neighbor, Henry, you'll be sitting on his lap tonight........

Some people might even have to sit on the floor; I bet Henry's lap will be considered a coveted spot.

photokitty · February 2014

Sugargirl1019 said:

no one likes to be B listed.
No one has to know. You do what you gotta do. You want to know etiquette, Emily Post says you could do this. OP will decide if she wants to use this option, despite many of you disagreeing because all your guests will know if they are B listed ??

Anna is that you??

Stop giving out bad advice in your great grandmother's name!

The woman is getting exhausted from all that rolling in her grave!

huskypuppy14 · February 2014

OP, is your guest list including +1 for single guests (true +1 not SO, you must invite the SO of anyone you invite)? What you can do, is not give any single guests plus ones, but if you get declines, then you can tell people they can bring a guest if they like. That is not considered B listing.

WildMagelet · February 2014

laurynm84 said:

OP, is your guest list including +1 for single guests (true +1 not SO, you must invite the SO of anyone you invite)? What you can do, is not give any single guests plus ones, but if you get declines, then you can tell people they can bring a guest if they like. That is not considered B listing.

That may be doable, but the OP will still need to account for any singles that get into a relationship before the invites go out. It's better to prepare for SOs than be suck without enough room.

QueerFemme · February 2014

You may need to cut more than 17. Consider this... your DJ, your photographer, your wedding planner, any other vendors that might need a seat somewhere. Check capacity of the venue and make sure they have space allowed for vendors that need to sit and eat somewhere.

MrsMarende · February 2014

Yes only invite the amount of people your venue can hold, although I do not think you need to include vendors in that number. You have to feed them but they will not be seated at the tables.

lyndausvi · February 2014

MrsMarende said:

Yes only invite the amount of people your venue can hold, although I do not think you need to include vendors in that number. You have to feed them but they will not be seated at the tables.

But if there is a fire code amount they do need to be included. Better to be safe than sorry.

MrsMarende · February 2014

lyndausvi said:

MrsMarende said:

Yes only invite the amount of people your venue can hold, although I do not think you need to include vendors in that number. You have to feed them but they will not be seated at the tables.

But if there is a fire code amount they do need to be included. Better to be safe than sorry.

That is true. I would ask the venue. Most of the places I have been looking at do not include vendors, it is basically listed as X seated or X standing cocktail. Not for the total amount of people in the room.

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