If they don't have a good reason for not coming to the ceremony, yeah, totally rude. I'd send them a note explaining that you'd prefer them to come to the ceremony if they cannot stay for the entire event. If that doesn't do the trick, explain to them that the reception is a "thank you" for those coming to the ceremony. They can come to both or the ceremony alone, but just coming to the reception is rude, and you would not prefer to deal with rudeness on your happy day.
You don't do that! How offensive. You invite people, they will attend what they can and you should be grateful. If you want to end your relationship with them, this would be a steller way to do it!
If they don't have a good reason for not coming to the ceremony, yeah, totally rude. I'd send them a note explaining that you'd prefer them to come to the ceremony if they cannot stay for the entire event. If that doesn't do the trick, explain to them that the reception is a "thank you" for those coming to the ceremony. They can come to both or the ceremony alone, but just coming to the reception is rude, and you would not prefer to deal with rudeness on your happy day.
Are you serious? If someone said that to me it would be friendship-ending. That's horrible advice.
If they don't have a good reason for not coming to the ceremony, yeah, totally rude. I'd send them a note explaining that you'd prefer them to come to the ceremony if they cannot stay for the entire event. If that doesn't do the trick, explain to them that the reception is a "thank you" for those coming to the ceremony. They can come to both or the ceremony alone, but just coming to the reception is rude, and you would not prefer to deal with rudeness on your happy day.
If you want to piss people off and look like a complete controlling bitch then listen to this advice.
If they don't have a good reason for not coming to the ceremony, yeah, totally rude. I'd send them a note explaining that you'd prefer them to come to the ceremony if they cannot stay for the entire event. If that doesn't do the trick, explain to them that the reception is a "thank you" for those coming to the ceremony. They can come to both or the ceremony alone, but just coming to the reception is rude, and you would not prefer to deal with rudeness on your happy day.
I guess I'm weird. Invitations to my wedding (or any event for the that matter) do not come with conditions. I can recognize that people may have other stuff going on and might not be able to make some or all of the day's events. I'm good with that.
What differentiates an average host and a great host is anticipating unexpressed needs and wants of their guests. Just because the want/need is not expressed, doesn't mean it wouldn't be appreciated.
If they don't have a good reason for not coming to the ceremony, yeah, totally rude. I'd send them a note explaining that you'd prefer them to come to the ceremony if they cannot stay for the entire event. If that doesn't do the trick, explain to them that the reception is a "thank you" for those coming to the ceremony. They can come to both or the ceremony alone, but just coming to the reception is rude, and you would not prefer to deal with rudeness on your happy day.
I guess I'm weird. Invitations to my wedding (or any event for the that matter) do not come with conditions. I can recognize that people may have other stuff going on and might not be able to make some or all of the day's events. I'm good with that.
Why is that weird?
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
That is very rude. However, no matter what there will always be some kind of drama or someone that does something rude during wedding planning (I've dealt with plenty of it) so just try to remember at the end of the day the only thing that really matters is that you & your groom show up & are happy
Ive had a few weddings that I have had to miss the ceremony due to work/school schedule. In every situation the couple was glad I was able to make it to at least something to celebrate with them.
I am sure if they are family and letting you know in advance they have their reasons and would love to be there if they could be.
Either way - leave the stressing for something else! And congrats!! Enjoy your day!
I would be frustrated if they are family that I am very close to. With that being said, however, I am expecting the majority of my guests to not be able to make it to the ceremony due to the fact that it's on a Friday and people have work, school, etc.
Yes, it's rude, but at least they told you ahead of time and didn't surprise you with it on the day of your wedding.
One way or another, that day is all about you and not everything is going to go exactly as you plan. Will some people miss the ceremony? Yes, but they are coming to celebrate with you afterwards. At the end of the day, all that matters is that you and your fiance show up and you sign that marriage contract. Don't let the little things prevent you from enjoying the real reason for the day.
Re: They're coming to the reception only?
You don't do that! How offensive. You invite people, they will attend what they can and you should be grateful. If you want to end your relationship with them, this would be a steller way to do it!
This.
"Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
Yes, it's rude, but at least they told you ahead of time and didn't surprise you with it on the day of your wedding.
One way or another, that day is all about you and not everything is going to go exactly as you plan. Will some people miss the ceremony? Yes, but they are coming to celebrate with you afterwards. At the end of the day, all that matters is that you and your fiance show up and you sign that marriage contract. Don't let the little things prevent you from enjoying the real reason for the day.