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Invite wording HELP!!- Step mom and deceased mother

SquirellybeanSquirellybean member
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I am having a hard time with the wording on our invites. I would like to include both sets of parents if possible. I have a pretty traditional family, my mom and dad have the same last names, so that ones easy. My fiancé has a little bit different. His mother did not raise him as a kid and passed away when he was in high school (they were not close at all so he doesn't feel expectantly strong on having to honour her). His step-mom has raised him since elementary school but has not married his father and still has her own maiden name.  Any ideas on wording? I would hate to go with the "with their families" option. Any help would be appreciated.
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Re: Invite wording HELP!!- Step mom and deceased mother

  • [Deleted User][Deleted User] member
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    John and Judy Smith would like to invite you to the union of their daughter April Smith to Brian Jones, the son Bob Jones and Betty Russo.

    Since FI biological mother was a part of his life, they weren't close and she is now passed, I think you would be ok not even mentioning her. My guess is he probably considered his dad's GF more of a mom then his biological mom. And I would guess that FI family probably accepts her as part of the family & his mother figure. Only way I can see you offendig someone is he FI is still close to any members of his mom's family that would be invited to the wedding. But then again, they would be familiar with the situation and hopefully understanding.

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  • photokittyphotokitty mod
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    Who is hosting the wedding? Not paying for it, host don't always pay and vice versa. Is the step mom a host?
    You would not list any deceased on the invite as they cannot host the guests. :)
    :kiss: ~xoxo~ :kiss:

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  • Jen4948Jen4948 member
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    photokitty said:
    Who is hosting the wedding? Not paying for it, host don't always pay and vice versa. Is the step mom a host?
    You would not list any deceased on the invite as they cannot host the guests. :)
    This.

    Your invitation isn't a playbill, listing every person who is paying and/or has held a "parental" rank in your life at some point.  The persons "honored" by an invitation are the guests, not the hosts or honorees (you and your FI).  Nor does "paying" equal "hosting," which really isn't relevant or the guests' business.

    If his stepmom and dad are hosting, then they should be listed (along with your parents if they are hosting).  Otherwise, they would not be mentioned.   Sadly, only living persons can be hosts or honorees at a wedding, so his mother would not be mentioned.
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited February 2014
    Mr. and Mrs. John Bridesparents
    Mr. James Groomsfather
    Ms. Jane Stepmother
    request the pleasure of your company
    at the marriage of
    Bride's full name
    and
    Groom's Full Name
    Day, date
    time
    Venue
    Address
    City, State

    Mr. and Mrs. John Bridesparents
    request the honour of your presence (church ceremony only)
    at the marriage of their daughter
    Bride's first middle
    to
    Groom's Full Name
    son of Mr. James Groomsfather  (Not traditional at all!)
    Day, date (etc.)

    IT IS NOT AN HONOR TO BE ON A WEDDING INVITATION!
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  • SquirellybeanSquirellybean member
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    Thanks everyone, gave me some things to think about!
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