Cake in the Face Vote?

alm&mdm · February 2014

I saw what I thought was a cute idea and wanted feedback.

I saw a photo on Pinterest where the couple had jars and you got to vote on whether the groom or the bride should get the cake smash. I saw it done with money, whoever had the most cash won the honor. However Im havng a very formal wedding and would be absolutely MORTIFIED to ask for cash.

Do you think it could be cute if everyone got some kind of chip to vote with instead? We could put them on the dinner tables with a little note of how to vote.

I just want to add a little fun to the reception. We cut a lot of the traditional items (parent dances, garter toss, etc). I also think my fiances friends would really get a kick out of voting and him getting a face of cake. I have no doubt with our guest list, he'll win!

CJandRyan · February 2014

I think that sounds like fun! I say go for it!

CMGragain · February 2014

I think the cake smash is rude, awful and disrespectful. Nothing funny about it.

KatWAG · February 2014

I paid a fortune for my make up that day. I will be pissed if H smashed cakes in my face and potentially ruined it.

HaileyDancingbear · February 2014

Well, using chips instead makes the idea a billion times less rude. It's up to you wether or not you like the cake smash idea, I personally don't because there is a lot of time and effort going into my DIY gown, and I also am very particular about my makeup, so I personally would hate to get cake smeared on my face.

If you're ok with it though, keeping in mind that it will mess up your makeup and may get on your dress, go for it. Also make sure your FI is ok with it.

BlueBirdMB · February 2014

CMGragain said:

I think the cake smash is rude, awful and disrespectful. Nothing funny about it.

Yes. I totally agree with this.

alm&mdm · February 2014

We arent planning to do a literal "smash a piece of cake all over the others face". More like get some icing on the others nose kind of deal. I think it can be done without aggression and be more lighthearted.

grumbledore · February 2014

I don't like it, but if you think your crowd will enjoy it then it's a victimless crime.

Maggie0829 · February 2014

I absolutely detest smashing cake in each other's faces. I just don't get that tradition and never will. I told my H that if he smashed cake in my face I would immediately walk away and go on our honeymoon on my own.

Cookie Pusher · February 2014

FI is free to smash cake on my face should he so desire. Just as I am free to throw him in the lake behind our venue. Guess who swore to me that my face would stay cake-free!

RedJacks25 · February 2014

I absolutely hate the cake-in-the-face thing. It is so, so trashy to me.

QueerFemme · February 2014

I think cake smashing is pretty stupid, myself. I just don't understand the desire to smash food in someone else's face?!

MobKaz · February 2014

alm&mdm said:

I saw what I thought was a cute idea and wanted feedback. I saw a photo on Pinterest where the couple had jars and you got to vote on whether the groom or the bride should get the cake smash. I saw it done with money, whoever had the most cash won the honor. However Im havng a very formal wedding and would be absolutely MORTIFIED to ask for cash. Do you think it could be cute if everyone got some kind of chip to vote with instead? We could put them on the dinner tables with a little note of how to vote. I just want to add a little fun to the reception. We cut a lot of the traditional items (parent dances, garter toss, etc). I also think my fiances friends would really get a kick out of voting and him getting a face of cake. I have no doubt with our guest list, he'll win!

I actually experienced this at a wedding last summer. I was shocked that this particular B & G did it as they are the most unassuming, pay-our-own-way couple I have ever met. I worried that someone was doing this "on their behalf".

Groomsmen came table to table begging for money. It made me extremely uncomfortable. I wanted nothing to do with it, as I found it to be in very poor taste. The groomsmen "swept" the tables more than once, trying to best the bride over the groom, etc. When the cake "festivities" began, it got worse. People that paid for the winner shouted things like, "I paid for a better/bigger smash than that." When it was all said and done, the MOH announced that the money was actually going to a charity. (This was the only thing that made sense because this would NOT be typical for this couple.) We were seated AT THE TABLE with the beneficiaries of the charity. I was mortified.

No guest should be made to feel that way at a wedding.

Jen4948 · February 2014

CMGragain said:

I think the cake smash is rude, awful and disrespectful. Nothing funny about it.

This. As far as I'm concerned there's nothing to vote about. In addition to what @CMGragain says, it seems awfully juvenile and immature to me.

RebeccaB88 · February 2014

I told my ex-FI that if I had cake anywhere on my face as a result of feeding (which I think is silly in and of itself), that I would be at the courthouse first thing the next business day filing for an anullment.

Cake smashing is abusive, plain and simple.

hellohkb · February 2014

I don't see the point in wasting a piece of cake to smash it on someones face. You paid for the cake, you likely paid for your hair and makeup (or spent a lot of time doing it yourself), why would you ruin it? =/ I think it's rude and kind of tacky, personally.

However, if this is something you guys really want to do, using chips is a good idea and makes it nicer than the money idea.

thesummersky · February 2014

If this is what you wanna do, do it - it's your wedding! But my first thought was, 'Man, what a waste of good cake!' I guess that shows you where my priorities are.

AprilH81 · February 2014

I told my H that if he smashed cake in my face (including a dab of icing on my nose) that there would be no sex on the honeymoon. I never use sex as a weapon, but that is how serious I was about it.

I think it is a horrible, no good, rotten idea.

MrsAitch · February 2014

I think cake smashing is awful. Not because of the possibilities of it ruining your makeup or getting on your dress, but because the whole feeding each other cake tradition is supposed to symbolize how you will take care of each other--and what kind of a message is it if you smash it in each other's faces!?

tcnoble · February 2014

Spending wayyy too much money on hair, makeup, and CAKE to waste any of it on smashing. Let's just EAT the cake and be happy, no need to smash it!

doeydo · February 2014

I absolutely hate when either the bride or the groom gets cake on their face.

offthemarket915 · February 2014

I'm not a fan. Luckily FI feels the same way. He saw a B&G smashing cake on each other on some wedding show and was fairly pissy about the idea lol.

ElcaB · February 2014

I'm with the majority, here. I don't want to walk around with a sticky face or ruined makeup during my reception, and FI doesn't either.

If you want to add some fun to your reception, be sure you have an awesome DJ & good food. That's all you really need

BlueBirdMB · February 2014

I'm with the PPs here. I think it's immature, crude, and disrespectful. I told H that if he did this, he wasn't invited on the honeymoon. For me it wasn't about the cost of the hair and makeup- I did mine myself- it was just that I didn't like it and obviously I didn't want my hair and makeup ruined regardless.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2014

Maggie0829 said:

I absolutely detest smashing cake in each other's faces. I just don't get that tradition and never will. I told my H that if he smashed cake in my face I would immediately walk away and go on our honeymoon on my own.

On the day when I am wearing the most expensive dress, makeup, and hair of my life this is Norfolk N Way FI is coming near me with cake. I told him if he tried to smash it in my face I'd stab him with the cake knife and he can spend the rest of the reception in the ER.

However, I think your idea is cute OP.

Alex3Mom · February 2014

My understanding is the feeding of the wedding cake is a symbol of nurturing. Smashing cake in someone's face is about as hostile as you can get. I join the others who have said if my husband had shoved cake in my face at our reception, I would have been at the courthouse first thing on Monday morning filing for an annulment.

tammym1001 · February 2014

CMGragain said:

I think the cake smash is rude, awful and disrespectful. Nothing funny about it.

This so much! I told FI that he better not smash cake in my face. He said I would never do that, but just in case I've had a little too much to drink remind me right before we go to cut the cake. LOL

alm&mdm · February 2014

I wasn't worried about hair and makeup since my stylist will be with me the entire day and frankly if you can't deal with a fingertip full of icing on your nose....you're taking life too serious.

I do however appreciate @platformsupervisor14 and your comment about it being organic. I do agree with that. Thanks! I really hadn't thought of it that way and you're right.

I think we'll do a little I Spy card for the tables instead if people need more entertainment. I doubt there's any way that could offend people.

MyNameIsNot · February 2014

I find cake smashing cheesy and immature. I don't have to take myself too seriously to not want food smashed on my face.

I would find the vote to be tacky. Of course, having money involved would make it rude, but I'd still find it tacky and childish without the money. You're a bride and groom, not a couple of seals performing for fish.

PrettyGirlLost · February 2014

PlatformSupervisor14 said:

Well, H and I are stupid, disrespectful, rude, and immature. We did it and had a blast. But then again, I don't consider things like my make up to be more important than enjoying life. If it's not something one would enjoy, then fine I totally get that. But I never get the make up/hair excuse. Like you'd be totally fine having cake smashed in your face on a Saturday morning before you go running?

However, if I was having a "very formal' wedding, I would skip it. And I don't like the idea of people voting on it. It should be organic, and honestly doesn't need a huge build up. If you are the kind of couple who wants to do it, then do it. If you aren't, then don't.

Nope, not then either.

themuffinman16 · February 2014

I told FI if he smashed cake in my face, he wouldn't be getting any until after the honeymoon..... we are not going on a honeymoon until next year. Lol

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