Sunday Wedding!

Maggie0829 · February 2014

Unless the ceremony and reception is in the same location then cocktail hour should never start immediately once the ceremony ends because of the whole travel time. And travel time is not considered a gap. A gap is when your guests arrive at the venue and they have to sit around and wait until the reception begins.

You said that the venue is a restaurant. Is there a way to have your guests hang out in the bar but host some small snacks and their drinks while they are waiting for the true cocktail hour?

bananasplit472001 · February 2014

Maggie0829 said:

Unless the ceremony and reception is in the same location then cocktail hour should never start immediately once the ceremony ends because of the whole travel time. And travel time is not considered a gap. A gap is when your guests arrive at the venue and they have to sit around and wait until the reception begins.

You said that the venue is a restaurant. Is there a way to have your guests hang out in the bar but host some small snacks and their drinks while they are waiting for the true cocktail hour?

Yes, the hotel has a bar and they are most welcome to hang out in the bar. The bar does have same plates for guests to purchase but we are not allowed to host any private events in the bar. it is for the public only. I find it tacky to have guests pay for snacks but maybe I will had out small snack packs instead as guests leave the ceremony to tide them over until the cocktail hour begins.

KatWAG · February 2014

dianammobilio said:

Maggie0829 said:

Unless the ceremony and reception is in the same location then cocktail hour should never start immediately once the ceremony ends because of the whole travel time. And travel time is not considered a gap. A gap is when your guests arrive at the venue and they have to sit around and wait until the reception begins.

You said that the venue is a restaurant. Is there a way to have your guests hang out in the bar but host some small snacks and their drinks while they are waiting for the true cocktail hour?
Yes, the hotel has a bar and they are most welcome to hang out in the bar. The bar does have same plates for guests to purchase but we are not allowed to host any private events in the bar. it is for the public only. I find it tacky to have guests pay for snacks but maybe I will had out small snack packs instead as guests leave the ceremony to tide them over until the cocktail hour begins.

You need to pick up the bar tab for this.

Maggie0829 · February 2014

dianammobilio said:

Maggie0829 said:

Unless the ceremony and reception is in the same location then cocktail hour should never start immediately once the ceremony ends because of the whole travel time. And travel time is not considered a gap. A gap is when your guests arrive at the venue and they have to sit around and wait until the reception begins.

You said that the venue is a restaurant. Is there a way to have your guests hang out in the bar but host some small snacks and their drinks while they are waiting for the true cocktail hour?

Yes, the hotel has a bar and they are most welcome to hang out in the bar. The bar does have same plates for guests to purchase but we are not allowed to host any private events in the bar. it is for the public only. I find it tacky to have guests pay for snacks but maybe I will had out small snack packs instead as guests leave the ceremony to tide them over until the cocktail hour begins.

I would just make arrangements with the bar to have whatever is ordered put on a tab that then you pick up at the end of the night. The bartenders can just ask whoever is ordering if they are here for the the 'X wedding'

Viczaesar · February 2014

Maggie0829 said:

KatWAG said:

Maggie0829 said:

I would also like to add that you shouldn't be planning for your ceremony to start late or run over the slated time. Your wedding should start on time. Period. There is nothing more annoying then sitting around and waiting for a wedding to start when the start time has come and gone.

Yup. I would show up to your wedding at noon or 12:10. Its not hard to start on time.

Heck, we started 5 minutes early because I just couldn't wait any longer!

My cousin's wedding (the potluck, cash request, PPD one I keep referencing) started an hour and forty five minutes late. At one point someone came out and announced that the bride and bridesmaids were still putting together their flowers.

thesummersky · February 2014

I agree with the hotel bar tab idea. Even if it's not private, it would be a really nice gesture for your guests.

Maggie0829 · February 2014

Viczaesar said:

Maggie0829 said:

KatWAG said:

Maggie0829 said:

I would also like to add that you shouldn't be planning for your ceremony to start late or run over the slated time. Your wedding should start on time. Period. There is nothing more annoying then sitting around and waiting for a wedding to start when the start time has come and gone.

Yup. I would show up to your wedding at noon or 12:10. Its not hard to start on time.

Heck, we started 5 minutes early because I just couldn't wait any longer!

My cousin's wedding (the potluck, cash request, PPD one I keep referencing) started an hour and forty five minutes late. At one point someone came out and announced that the bride and bridesmaids were still putting together their flowers.

What the what?! That is just ridiculous. I am surprised guests actually stayed! I would have been gone after an hour.

Jen4948 · February 2014

A Sunday wedding is fine, but you have to eliminate the gap.

Also, your wedding has to start on time. Planning for it to start late and expecting your guests to have periods of time with nothing to do, eat, or drink is rude and inconsiderate to them.

bananasplit472001 · February 2014

The only way that I see eliminating the gap is to pick up the bar and snacks tab at the hotel ahead of time. My venue refuses to start cocktail hour any earlier as they need the time to set up and cook after servicing public guests for the day (again it is at a boutique hotel restaurant).

bananasplit472001 · February 2014

Viczaesar said:

Maggie0829 said:

KatWAG said:

Maggie0829 said:

I would also like to add that you shouldn't be planning for your ceremony to start late or run over the slated time. Your wedding should start on time. Period. There is nothing more annoying then sitting around and waiting for a wedding to start when the start time has come and gone.

Yup. I would show up to your wedding at noon or 12:10. Its not hard to start on time.

Heck, we started 5 minutes early because I just couldn't wait any longer!

My cousin's wedding (the potluck, cash request, PPD one I keep referencing) started an hour and forty five minutes late. At one point someone came out and announced that the bride and bridesmaids were still putting together their flowers.

I am normally on-time I just know that many family members are not on-time and would want to wait for them until the ceremony started. I would most definitely not be not make guests wait for me but would be considerate knowing that a group of people are notoriously late. I don't want to start my ceremony and have guests coming in during it.

Maggie0829 · February 2014

dianammobilio said:

Viczaesar said:

Maggie0829 said:

KatWAG said:

Maggie0829 said:

I would also like to add that you shouldn't be planning for your ceremony to start late or run over the slated time. Your wedding should start on time. Period. There is nothing more annoying then sitting around and waiting for a wedding to start when the start time has come and gone.
Yup. I would show up to your wedding at noon or 12:10. Its not hard to start on time.

Heck, we started 5 minutes early because I just couldn't wait any longer!

My cousin's wedding (the potluck, cash request, PPD one I keep referencing) started an hour and forty five minutes late. At one point someone came out and announced that the bride and bridesmaids were still putting together their flowers.

I am normally on-time I just know that many family members are not on-time and would want to wait for them until the ceremony started. I would most definitely not be not make guests wait for me but would be considerate knowing that a
group of people are notoriously late. I don't
want to start my ceremony and have guests coming in during it.

If a group is late then that is their issue. The only way to stop people from coming in during your ceremony is to have a DOC stand by the church doors once the ceremony starts and apologize to the late guests that they can not enter since the ceremony has started.

You shouldn't delay your wedding for just a small group of people. That is unfair to your guests that actually show up on time.

Cookie Pusher · February 2014

Maggie0829 said:
If a group is late then that is their issue. The only way to stop people from coming in during your ceremony is to have a DOC stand by the church doors once the ceremony starts and apologize to the late guests that they can not enter since the ceremony has started. You shouldn't delay your wedding for just a small group of people. That is unfair to your guests that actually show up on time.

This. A million times. Why should you be rude to the majority of your guests simply because a small percentage of your guests choose to be rude to you? Perhaps if others didn't excuse their tardiness this way, they'd actually get the hint that it's not cool.

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