Is this acceptable?

Re: Is this acceptable?

• JaniV123 member

  

  February 2014

  ashleyep said:

  Just to play devil's advocate - gifts are never required. For anything. Theoretically, you don't *have* to give them a gift to thank them for attending. You could write them a very nice thank you card and put the money towards the brunch instead.

  
  

  But it's become pretty much expected to give your WP a gift, so it might cause some hurt feelings. Especially if they found out you knixed gifts in favor of the brunch.

  
  

  I've said it before, but if I'm a bridesmaid, I'd rather a bride pay for my hair or makeup than spend money on some junk gift because it's what's expected.
  

  the weddings I have been in none gave me wedding gifts. And I wasn't offended. I do no thing it is typical  here to give WP gifts nor it is expected. It is more of a US tradition than a PR tradition and I have not seen it in practice. I love giving my friends gifts so I will be getting my girls something but I will not force FI to do so

  
  

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• phira member

  

  February 2014

  Again, taking them out to brunch as a thank you = nice gift.

  
  

  Hosting a post-wedding brunch = separate wedding event (like a rehearsal dinner or shower) =/= a gift.

  

  now with ~* INCREASED SASSINESS *~
  
  

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• jenniferurs member

  

  February 2014

  @janiv123 Would the post wedding brunch just be for the bridal party or would it be for other family members/guests too?

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• crunchymamaof2 member

  

  February 2014

  Then invite them out to a brunch and say it's to thank them for being in the wedding. I'd include a thank you note for everyone, even the guys. Just don't call it a post wedding brunch; your wording was what confused me. But again, you still have so much time left. I wouldn't go crazy planning this just yet.

  After 6 years and 2 boys, finally tying the knot on October 27th, 2013!

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