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Your wedding is NOT black tie if. . .

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Re: Your wedding is NOT black tie if. . .

  • I can think of a few that I would consider to be the minimum for black tie: 

    -full-length dresses for the WP, MOB/MOG and any other relevant VIPs (not the B/Gs VIPs, but the "wedding VIPs," if you get what I mean)
    -parking covered by the hosts 
    -NO CASH BAR! this was something I'd never even heard of until I came here

    However, there are a few points I think may not be as necessary: 
    -bathroom attendants: dependes on the venue. I can tell you for a fact that several of the top hotels in Los Angeles--like, world-class hotels--do not have bathroom attendants and don't bring them in for events. 
    -The whole thing with the white gloves. I had seriously never heard of that before. Or seen it at truly black tie functions. Odds are decent I just didn't notice. 

    I can only say this much: I know this isn't right, but I've been to events that have broken some of these in minor ways (i.e. starting before 6 PM; having buffets for the children in lieu of a four-course meal for them), but had to have been black tie. There's no way to have anything less at certain venues. 
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  • I can think of a few that I would consider to be the minimum for black tie: 

    -full-length dresses for the WP, MOB/MOG and any other relevant VIPs (not the B/Gs VIPs, but the "wedding VIPs," if you get what I mean)
    -parking covered by the hosts 
    -NO CASH BAR! this was something I'd never even heard of until I came here

    However, there are a few points I think may not be as necessary: 
    -bathroom attendants: dependes on the venue. I can tell you for a fact that several of the top hotels in Los Angeles--like, world-class hotels--do not have bathroom attendants and don't bring them in for events. 
    -The whole thing with the white gloves. I had seriously never heard of that before. Or seen it at truly black tie functions. Odds are decent I just didn't notice. 

    I can only say this much: I know this isn't right, but I've been to events that have broken some of these in minor ways (i.e. starting before 6 PM; having buffets for the children in lieu of a four-course meal for them), but had to have been black tie. There's no way to have anything less at certain venues. 
    Just because it almost hit the mark and looked fancy, doesn't mean it was a black tie event.

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  • I'm genuinely curious where these qualifications for black tie come from. Not trying to be a smart-ass, but the only information I could find online lists "event starting after 6 pm" as the only indication (other than what to wear to a black tie affair)
  • FiancB said:
    If your dog's in the wedding... probably not. 
    As long as he is in a tux, I think it's fine ;-)

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  • I'm genuinely curious where these qualifications for black tie come from. Not trying to be a smart-ass, but the only information I could find online lists "event starting after 6 pm" as the only indication (other than what to wear to a black tie affair)
    Because most of the info online is just about what to wear to a black tie function, because sadly many people just think black tie is a dress code when it is in fact a type of formally hosted event.

    The info and criteria we post on these forums about black tie events was compiled from people, both on these boards and off, who are event planners or who have experience attending these types of social functions.

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  • I was all sorts of proud of my wedding qualifying for black tie until the band versus DJ thing was mentioned. Whomp Whomp. I really LOATHE wedding bands. So, I had a DJ.

     







  • If your wedding is on a Sunday (or any other day that isn't Saturday).
  • lschwar2 said:
    If your wedding is on a Sunday (or any other day that isn't Saturday).
    Is this true? I would think you could certainly have a black tie event on any day of the week.

    With that said, like MGP said above: You can still have a lovely, fancy, expensive wedding without it being black tie.
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  • laurynm84 said:
    Is this true? I would think you could certainly have a black tie event on any day of the week.

    With that said, like MGP said above: You can still have a lovely, fancy, expensive wedding without it being black tie.
    Yeah, I'm not sure on this one.  I've attended many mid-week black tie functions.
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  • MollyandDMollyandD member
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    I went to a Jewish wedding on a Sunday which my friend said was common in order to avoid having a wedding on the sabbath day. I think it could still be black tie if done correctly.
  • I think day of the week is a bit nit picky however it's not black tie if your dresses hav any sort of polyester in the fabric it must be silk straight from the silk worm cocoon
  • I went to a Jewish wedding on a Sunday which my friend said was common in order to avoid having a wedding on the sabbath day. I think it could still be black tie if done correctly.
    Jewish weddings that are black tie- I attended once years ago- are done on Saturday night after sundown.
  • Jewish weddings that are black tie- I attended once years ago- are done on Saturday night after sundown.
    Some rabbi's refuse to officiate on Saturday even after sundown depending on if they are orthodox or reform. I have been to Sunday black tie Jewish weddings.
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  • If any member of the bridal party wore chucks, boots, toms, etc...

    If there is any form of money dance/wear the cake/play the song, etc. jars set up...


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