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Ok, this might be a dumb question

themuffinman16themuffinman16 member
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I am considering DIYing my invitations.  I want to create a sample to see if my ambition is greater than my actual talent.  For wedding invitations, do you add the names of the people invited on the invitations.  Or, do you leave the invitations generic and just put the names of the people invited on the response card with the decline or accept box?  I don't want anybody crashing the wedding, and I only want certain people to come.  I am new to this process, so please pardon my stupid question.  But where do you dictate who is invited to the wedding, on the invitation and rsvp or just the rsvp?  (I know not to put anything on the invites like no children allowed, etc).  Thanks
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    You usually indicate who is invited on the outside envelope.  You simply address the invitation to the people you want to come to your wedding.  If you don't want children, for instance, you don't put their names on the invitation.
    You should know that it is extremely rude to only invite one member of a couple that is in a relationship.  No inviting wives without their husbands.
    Why don't you check your invitation wording with us?  Who is hosting your wedding?  Is it a church wedding, or somewhere else?
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  • themuffinman16themuffinman16 member
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    Extra Virgin Martini
    & 
    Popeye Sailor Man

    Request the pleasure of your company
    At the celebration of their union
    Friday the thirty eighth of July
    Two thousand fourteen
    At four o'clock in the afternoon
    The HobNob Banquet Facility
    1000 Turducken Road, East Jesus, North Nowhere
    Reception to follow

    I am inviting all SO's of guests including  plus ones for my wedding party. My Fi and I might have some help, but it has not been decided.  My father is not coming to my wedding, my step-mother bought me the dress, and my mother cannot afford to help.  I would not want to mention my step-mother's financial help, because it would upset my mother (my step-mom knows this and understands my situation). FIs father has mentioned helping out with some things, but it has only gone as far as mentioning, and FI feels uncomfortable asking his dad about it.  Ceremony and reception are at the reception site.

           
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  • themuffinman16themuffinman16 member
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    edited February 2014
    And secondly, do I include my wedding website information on the invitation (it seems weird to add technology to a keepsake.)  I wanted to include directions to the venue on the website, instead of having one more paper added to the invite.  My problem is my registry information is on my wedding website. And I would feel (however indirectly, it is like asking for a gift).  Or, in the world of mapquest, smartphones, etc, realize everyone can probably manage to find the venue?
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    Below is better wording...and I assumed you meant the 30th of July not the 38th of July :)

    Extra Virgin Martini
    and
    Popeye Sailor Man
    request the pleasure of your company
    at the celebration of their union
    Friday, the thirtieth of July
    two thousand fourteen
    at four o'clock
    The HobNob Banquet Facility
    1000 Turducken Road, East Jesus, North Nowhere
    Reception to follow

    If you are only having one envelope then everyone invited should be listed on that envelope.

    I would include a direction card insert into your invitation.  Anything of importance that you think people will need from your website should also be included in your invitation (such as directions, accommodations, etc) since some people will not check your website.

    I am also on the side where your registry information should not be included on your website.  You should not promote your registry information unless asked.  A wedding website, to me, is basically a virtual extension of the paper invitation, so anything you wouldn't typically put on the invitation shouldn't be on the website.

    If you remove the registry information from your website it would be fine, but not 100% necessary to include your website on the invitation.  You can easily put it at the bottom of your direction or other insert card.


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  • themuffinman16themuffinman16 member
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    edited February 2014
    Yes, it's actually the twenty fifth of July.  I was not sure what i should be hiding from the interwebs. Lol. 
       Also, Fi thinks I should write "reception to immediately follow", but I think it is just assumed because it is proper etiquette to not have  a gap.
     
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  • Maggie0829Maggie0829 member
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    I think in regards to the reception line, either or is appropriate.  But if your FI really wants "reception to immediately follow" I would just go with that.

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  • themuffinman16themuffinman16 member
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    Thanks, Maggie ;)  I also wanted to say I will have my invites in two separate fonts. One font for our names, and another for the invitation wording.  The invitation wording will be in all caps (but much faller font size, so I don't look angry). Lol. The venue is in a slighter larger font than the rest of the information so it will stand out to the reader.  And, of course, our names are in the largest font size.
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  • CMGragainCMGragain member
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    edited February 2014
    The bride and groom never directly invite guests to their wedding.  This is the correct form:

    The pleasure of your company is requested
    at the marriage of

    Extra Virgin Martini
    and
    Popeye Sailor Man

    Friday, the thirtieth of July
    two thousand fourteen
    at four o'clock
    The HobNob Banquet Facility
    1000 Turducken Road
    City, State

    Reception to follow

    The wording you are using does not make it clear that this is an invitation to a wedding.  It sounds like a vow renewal or  a party to celebrate a marriage that has already taken place.  This is why traditional wording works best.
    The other ladies are correct.  You cannot have a tiered wedding.  Invite everyone to everything, or limit the ceremony to immediate family only.


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  • themuffinman16themuffinman16 member
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    Not having a tiered wedding at all
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  • themuffinman16themuffinman16 member
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    Maybe I was unclear but everyone is invited to the wedding and reception
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  • doeydodoeydo member
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    CMGragain said:
    The bride and groom never directly invite guests to their weeding.  This is the correct form:

    The pleasure of your company is requested
    at the marriage of

    Extra Virgin Martini
    and
    Popeye Sailor Man

    Friday, the thirtieth of July
    two thousand fourteen
    at four o'clock
    The HobNob Banquet Facility
    1000 Turducken Road
    City, State

    Reception to follow

    The wording you are using does not make it clear that this is an invitation to a wedding.  It sounds like a vow renewal or  a party to celebrate a marriage that has already taken place.  This is why traditional wording works best.
    The other ladies are correct.  You cannot have a tiered wedding.  Invite everyone to everything, or limit the ceremony to immediate family only.


    This.  "The celebration of their union" doesn't actually tell me that I am being invited to a wedding.  
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  • themuffinman16themuffinman16 member
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    Thanks, ladies.  Glad I posted here. Kind of took wording from another invitation, and have no idea what I am doing.  Thank God for TK.  I'm not a very traditional girl, so I am clueless when it comes to bridey things. This is the first part I have ever thrown. Lol.. a little out of my element.
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  • MyNameIsNotMyNameIsNot member
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    I think PP have hit everything else, but I just wanted to add that it's an option to pre-print guest names on the RSVP.  This is a good idea if you think people will try to add extra guests (especially kids).  If you do that, you'd do:

    John Smith  ___ beef  ___ fish ___ declines
    Jane Smith  ___ beef  ___ fish ___ declines 
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  • themuffinman16themuffinman16 member
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    Thanks for the wording on the rsvps.  Great idea!
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