Having a DW that I want to be small and intimate. FI and I have a guest list which includes our families and close friends (about 30 people). This list does not include all of our friends so we have thrown around the idea of having some type of open house when we get home to see all of our friends or just inviting everyone to the DW and not worrying about another celebration. The main reason we are considering inviting everyone is because I don't want to offend anyone that isn't invited to the DW. The main reason we would not invite everyone is because I wanted the ceremony to be small and about FI and I, not about everyone else. We will be having a ceremony and then dinner at the site (no reception type event happening).
How did you all decide on who to invite to the DW? Did you have any at home celebration before or after that included people not invited to the DW and did you experience any conflict?
Thanks for any advice.