Bridesmaid Vent

Re: Bridesmaid Vent

• AgnesJay1 member

  

  February 2014

  Personally, nothing screams Bridezilla to me.
  
  She asked you to go and try on a dress- that's pretty standard. Bonus points that she actually cared about how you looked in the dress, and picked another bc she didn't think it looked flattering on you.
  
  She wants you to have matching shoes, hair, and hair pieces- Rookie mistake. If she pays for everything, thn fine. Otherwise just tell her you can't afford whatever, and then see what she says. The wedding industry and its slaves have brainwashed brides into thinking they must have matchy matchy BMs.
  
  Also, churches make a big deal about ppl being present for the rehearsal. They need to chill a bit, IMO. Adults can figure out how to hold flowers and walk down an aisle, especially those that have been in a wedding before.  Just ignore any of her comments related to the rehearsal, and don't let her or her church coordinators guilt you into making the rehearsal if you really cannot.
  
  @photokitty nailed it with regards to the NFP issue.  No matter what the church requires a couple to sit through nor what their official stance is, a couple's reproductive choices are between them and God, IMO.
  

  
  

  She's not paying for anything. It's not that I can't afford it ... I just don't need another pair of black heels, and the headband just sounds dorky to me.

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• TKzilla member

  

  February 2014

  Unless you're HER NFP instructor, then her NFP stuff is literally none of your business. Get over it.

  
  

  Of course she made you try on dresses. Seriously? That's a complaint?

  
  

  It sucks that she's expecting you to buy accessories and whatnot but it's a good possibility she doesn't know it's a faux pas. Send her to the boards.

  
  

  Nice to see you again, Kristan. I wonder how much longer before your sister finds out about all this...
  
  

  
  

  
  

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• PrettyGirlLost member

  

  February 2014

  AgnesJay1 said:

  Personally, nothing screams Bridezilla to me.
  
  She asked you to go and try on a dress- that's pretty standard. Bonus points that she actually cared about how you looked in the dress, and picked another bc she didn't think it looked flattering on you.
  
  She wants you to have matching shoes, hair, and hair pieces- Rookie mistake. If she pays for everything, thn fine. Otherwise just tell her you can't afford whatever, and then see what she says. The wedding industry and its slaves have brainwashed brides into thinking they must have matchy matchy BMs.
  
  Also, churches make a big deal about ppl being present for the rehearsal. They need to chill a bit, IMO. Adults can figure out how to hold flowers and walk down an aisle, especially those that have been in a wedding before.  Just ignore any of her comments related to the rehearsal, and don't let her or her church coordinators guilt you into making the rehearsal if you really cannot.
  
  @photokitty nailed it with regards to the NFP issue.  No matter what the church requires a couple to sit through nor what their official stance is, a couple's reproductive choices are between them and God, IMO.
  

  
  

  She's not paying for anything. It's not that I can't afford it ... I just don't need another pair of black heels, and the headband just sounds dorky to me.

  I agree!  Don't buy the shoes then and just wear a pair you already own. . . she won't notice.
  

  
  "Love is the one thing we're capable of perceiving that transcends time and space."
  
  

  
  

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  February 2014

  TKzilla said:

  Unless you're HER NFP instructor, then her NFP stuff is literally none of your business. Get over it.

  
  

  Of course she made you try on dresses. Seriously? That's a complaint?

  
  

  It sucks that she's expecting you to buy accessories and whatnot but it's a good possibility she doesn't know it's a faux pas. Send her to the boards.

  
  

  Nice to see you again, Kristan. I wonder how much longer before your sister finds out about all this...
  
  

  
  

  I thought *exactly* this same thing when I first opened this thread. Glad I'm not the only one who saw it.

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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• rajahmd member

  

  February 2014

  HisGirlFriday13 said:

  
  

  TKzilla said:

  
  

  Unless you're HER NFP instructor, then her NFP stuff is literally none of your business. Get over it.

  
  

  Of course she made you try on dresses. Seriously? That's a complaint?

  
  

  It sucks that she's expecting you to buy accessories and whatnot but it's a good possibility she doesn't know it's a faux pas. Send her to the boards.

  
  

  Nice to see you again, Kristan. I wonder how much longer before your sister finds out about all this...
  
  

  
  

  
  

  I thought *exactly* this same thing when I first opened this thread. Glad I'm not the only one who saw it.
  
  Great minds think alike.

  

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• Jen4948 member

  

  February 2014

  Regardless of what goes on in her NFP/Pre-Cana classes, she doesn't want to discuss it with you for whatever reason.  Let it alone.
  
  Aside from that, yeah, it sounds like she wants you to be her b!tch.  I'd want to drop out too.
  

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• jenniferurs member

  

  February 2014

  Jen4948 said:

  Regardless of what goes on in her NFP/Pre-Cana classes, she doesn't want to discuss it with you for whatever reason.  Let it alone.
  
  Aside from that, yeah, it sounds like she wants you to be her b!tch.  I'd want to drop out too.
  

  I guess I'm just not seeing where that's coming from. She's obviously naive as to the etiquette involved in bridesmaid attire, but short of not understanding how bridal party "extras" are supposed to be treated, I'm not sure how she's treating anyone like her bitch?
  
  The bridesmaid didn't like the first dress picked out for her, so the bride told her to go try on some dresses to see if they could find something better. If she were the bride's bitch, she'd just be expected to wear the first dress proffered, modesty be damned. But the bride was willing to work with her to find something amenable to all parties involved.
  
  And I think most brides would want their bridal party to attend the rehearsal. Quite frankly, as a member of a bridal party, I would never dream of skipping it. I understand that it's not mandatory and that she ultimately has to be understanding, but I don't think her being disappointed that her whole bridal party won't be able to rehearse together paints the picture that her bridesmaid is her "bitch" either.
  
  Again, this girl needs to be taught proper etiquette as to attire expectations, but short of that, I don't see anything that's a major red flag. And quite frankly, we're seeing it framed from the perspective of a person who was peeved that the bride wouldn't discuss her sex life with her, so she seems to be a little on the sensitive side anyways.

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• QueerFemme member

  

  February 2014

  TKzilla said:

  Unless you're HER NFP instructor, then her NFP stuff is literally none of your business. Get over it.

  
  

  Of course she made you try on dresses. Seriously? That's a complaint?

  
  

  It sucks that she's expecting you to buy accessories and whatnot but it's a good possibility she doesn't know it's a faux pas. Send her to the boards.

  
  

  Nice to see you again, Kristan. I wonder how much longer before your sister finds out about all this...
  
  

  
  

  
  This can't POSSIBLY be Kristan...  she specifically said that she wants NO part of TheKnot and doesn't like the drama and bad energy it brings to her life.  And we all know that she is always 100% truthful and keeps her word. 

  

  Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:

  http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
  

  http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
  

  http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
  

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• TKzilla member

  

  February 2014

  QueerFemme said:

  TKzilla said:

  Unless you're HER NFP instructor, then her NFP stuff is literally none of your business. Get over it.

  
  

  Of course she made you try on dresses. Seriously? That's a complaint?

  
  

  It sucks that she's expecting you to buy accessories and whatnot but it's a good possibility she doesn't know it's a faux pas. Send her to the boards.

  
  

  Nice to see you again, Kristan. I wonder how much longer before your sister finds out about all this...
  
  

  
  

  
  This can't POSSIBLY be Kristan...  she specifically said that she wants NO part of TheKnot and doesn't like the drama and bad energy it brings to her life.  And we all know that she is always 100% truthful and keeps her word. 

  Right, I remember her saying that… right before she created yet ANOTHER account… and then GBCK'd when nobody gave a single fuck about her made-up drama…

  
  

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• QueerFemme member

  

  February 2014

  TKzilla said:

  QueerFemme said:

  TKzilla said:

  Unless you're HER NFP instructor, then her NFP stuff is literally none of your business. Get over it.

  
  

  Of course she made you try on dresses. Seriously? That's a complaint?

  
  

  It sucks that she's expecting you to buy accessories and whatnot but it's a good possibility she doesn't know it's a faux pas. Send her to the boards.

  
  

  Nice to see you again, Kristan. I wonder how much longer before your sister finds out about all this...
  
  

  
  

  
  This can't POSSIBLY be Kristan...  she specifically said that she wants NO part of TheKnot and doesn't like the drama and bad energy it brings to her life.  And we all know that she is always 100% truthful and keeps her word. 

  Right, I remember her saying that… right before she created yet ANOTHER account… and then GBCK'd when nobody gave a single fuck about her made-up drama…

  
  well... if Agnes of God doesn't come back... we know it's Kristan

  

  Websites/blogs where our wedding has been featured:

  http://www.dapperq.com/2013/11/a-very-dapper-wedding/
  

  http://www.onabicyclebuiltfortwo.com/2013/10/wedding-christina-g.html
  

  http://4realequalityweddings.com/2014/05/16/g-christina/
  

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• TKzilla member

  

  February 2014

  QueerFemme said:

  TKzilla said:

  QueerFemme said:

  TKzilla said:

  Unless you're HER NFP instructor, then her NFP stuff is literally none of your business. Get over it.

  
  

  Of course she made you try on dresses. Seriously? That's a complaint?

  
  

  It sucks that she's expecting you to buy accessories and whatnot but it's a good possibility she doesn't know it's a faux pas. Send her to the boards.

  
  

  Nice to see you again, Kristan. I wonder how much longer before your sister finds out about all this...
  
  

  
  

  
  This can't POSSIBLY be Kristan...  she specifically said that she wants NO part of TheKnot and doesn't like the drama and bad energy it brings to her life.  And we all know that she is always 100% truthful and keeps her word. 

  Right, I remember her saying that… right before she created yet ANOTHER account… and then GBCK'd when nobody gave a single fuck about her made-up drama…

  
  well... if Agnes of God doesn't come back... we know it's Kristan

  @AgnesJay1 are you coming back? 

  
  

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• MuppetOverlord member

  

  February 2014

  If you are this obsessed with validation, it would benefit you make up entirely new story lines and submit them do different audiences.
  
  

  
  
  You'll never be subject to a cash bar, gap, potluck wedding, or b-list if you marry a Muppet Overlord.

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• rajahmd member

  

  February 2014

  Yo, @AgnesJay1, where'd ya go?

  

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• photokitty mod

  

  February 2014

  RajahBMFD said:

  Yo, @AgnesJay1, where'd ya go?

  
  

  ~xoxo~

  
  

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• TKzilla member

  

  February 2014

  

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• HisGirlFriday13 member

  

  February 2014

  TKzilla said:

  

  @agnesjay1

  I really, really, REALLY love this hedgehog GIF!! I want to 'love it' more than once. 

  

  
  

  
  

  I'm gonna go with 'not my circus, not my monkeys.'

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