My future FiL has decided to be generous and help pay for some tuxedos and a bridesmaid dress. The trouble is, he's only offered to pay for a hand full of groomsmen he knows aren't well off and of course his daughter's bridesmaid dress. So this leaves four groomsmen and one bridesmaid with their bills paid off courtesy of the FiL and four bridesmaids and two groomsmen stuck with the bill. FiL says we can give the gifts to the wedding party through us so we would 'take credit' for the gift, but I'm wary of passing his favoritism off as my own.
When I suggest that it's rude for his father to only offer to pay for particular people he prefers, my fiance says I'm unbelievably selfish for looking such a gift horse in the mouth. I'm a bit offended that the offer plays strong favoritism to the groom's friends and family, leaving mine in the cold. Now I feel pressure to match his gift and provide for the rest of our wedding party (my side can't really afford this). I know I should be grateful that my FiL is being so generous, but how do I forward his generosity to the recipients without playing favorites? I don't want to give 'secret' gifts to just a few people, but I certainly can't match his generosity to my groomsman brother and all my sisters/bridesmaids. I could suggest that FiL just give his gifts openly to the people he wishes, but then it leaves me and my parents in the awkward position of not being able to do the same.
I'm not really sure how to handle this short of giving secret gifts to only a few people or trying to match my FiLs very particular investment.