Hey , I'm so sorry you r going thru this. Not seeing you on mother's day bc mother in law more important. Nonsense . Sounds like the gf is a chip off old block of mom. Sounds like sons gf is a well....brat. idk best advice other than talk to your soon about how you'd like to be with him more , or make plans to take walks, lunches , etc things that don't break the bank. Invite son and gf or if gf doesn't come just son. Start to do all you can to make effort to be with son away from this so he can make sure it's what he wants . You are his mother , you deserve to be held high
July 12
Re: Pet Peeve: "My big day!"
I mean, I'm as excited to get married as the next bride, but I'd imagine the day that I land my dream job and win the lottery and score a free trip around the world would be the best day of MY life.
Other than that one time, I correct people when they say that it is all about the bride. I love that my FH is very active in planning our wedding, even if he screws up the date. At the end of the day, it wouldn't mean anything if FH isn't there because the day about us committing our lives to each other.
I hate the "my day" thing too. I agree with the PPs who said it's childish and makes me think of a little girl stomping her foot.
I, too, dislike the term "MY DAY". I was talking to FSIL and FMIL about something and mentioned that I wanted to discuss it with FI. FMIL said that it was MY day and i could do what i please. I know she meant no malice by saying this. She just meant that is was FI 2nd wedding and knowing her son, didnt think he would actively participate in planning. i still make sure to say OUR day, OUR wedding, because thats what it is. I do the heavy lifting by narrowing down choices and he chooses out of 2 or 3 options (He prefers this way and voices his opinion if he doesnt like something)
FI first wife STEAMROLLED him when planning ie: mom and I booked x, mom and I bought y, mom and I decided z...Anyone could have been at the altar that day...sadly, it was FI...
Uh, yeah no. Sure it's my ring, but he's the one forking out the $$$$ for it, and he'll have to look at it the rest of his life, so I want him to like it too!
It was really her trying to put "her vision" of what she wanted instead of listening to what my FH and I wanted. When I said we were debating our color scheme it was deciding between one of two colors and she didn't like the colors we were deciding between. It was over months of her emailing, texting, calling that I finally did snap on her after bean dipping wasn't working.