So I asked my bridesmaids to get shoes that are A, B, and C and said they don't have to be D or E. I provided pictures and where you could buy them. Then, my bridesmaid comes back asking can we just wear any shoes that are A and I'm annoyed.
They're already wearing different dresses. If I had been ok with just A I wouldn't have mentioned B and C. Am I overreacting? I did say let me know if you have questions and I think she is struggling with the cost of being a bridesmaid so now I feel annoyed and guilty

God I can't wait till this wedding is over.
Re: Am I being a bridezilla?
I know you're trying to have a certain look, but if A is a color of the shoe, I think you should allow your friend to wear any shoe in that particular color.
Friend might not be comfortable with shoe details B and C, or she doesn't have it in her closet and cannot afford shoes that meet all of those qualifications.
My initial thought is that you're being a little too strict over something as simple as shoes. Sorry.
If you want shoes that are at all any kind of specific, you need to pay for them.
Ex.: Black, closed-toe, heel, is OK. Black, closed-toe, sparkles, 2.5 to 3.5 inch heel, slingback is not OK.
And why is she struggling with the cost? The ONLY cost associated with being a BM is buying the dress, which of course is in her budget because you asked each girl privately what her budget was before you went dress shopping and you picked a dress that was at or below the lowest price point, right?
And you're not demanding that they have professional hair or makeup (and if you are, you're paying), and you're not demanding parties, and you're not demanding special costumes, right?
To answer your original question, unless we know what the demands are, we can't tell if you're being a bridezilla or not.
Why does it matter if your BM's shoes match? No one is going to notice their shoes. At the absolute most I would say you could ask them to wear a specific color (as long as it was a common one like black or nude). This just seems like a silly concern though.
You're being vague on the requirements you are imposing on your BMs for shoes. Quite frankly, no one is going to notice/care what the BMs have on their feet - let them wear whatever they are comfortable in.
Thank you for taking time out of your day to reply, consider my situation, and not jump down my throat. 'A' is the color. Sorry for being vague, I didn't want my friend to see my shameful reaction. I thought bridesmaids were responsible for shoes and the dress. I'm getting bogged down in the details of planning and losing sight of what's important. Thanks for the reality check!
If you want shoes that are at all any kind of specific, you need to pay for them.
Ex.: Black, closed-toe, heel, is OK. Black, closed-toe, sparkles, 2.5 to 3.5 inch heel, slingback is not OK.
And why is she struggling with the cost? The ONLY cost associated with being a BM is buying the dress, which of course is in her budget because you asked each girl privately what her budget was before you went dress shopping and you picked a dress that was at or below the lowest price point, right?
And you're not demanding that they have professional hair or makeup (and if you are, you're paying), and you're not demanding parties, and you're not demanding special costumes, right?
To answer your original question, unless we know what the demands are, we can't tell if you're being a bridezilla or not.
Glad you figured it out cause I couldn't.
agree with pp's, chill out on the shoes. If you were lax on the dress where's the stress on the shoes Coming from?
When I asked my bridesmaid to be in wedding I said that I will be able to provide the accessories, hairstyling, and makeup. But they will be responsible for the dresses and shoes. In regards to people being rude to you. Just ignore them. They themselves are being bridezillas