I am getting married April 5, 2014. My fiance has two nieces who are adorable, fun, and really great girls, they are 6 and 8 and will be our Flower Girls(the older one is a little old, but we're didn't care and she's loving it). My fiancee also has a first cousin who is turning 6 in March. My FG couldn't come to my bridal shower due to bad weather but the cousin was there and "helped" me open presents. By "helped" I mean kept opening the presents and almost dropped boxes containing glass/crystal/ceramics. Her mother is 57 years old(yes, you read that right) and didn't tell her to calm down or stop her at all. Last night my future MIL calls my fiance and I up and asks if there is any way the cousin can be a flower girl. SERIOUSLY!?!??!!? WHO THE EFF DOES THAT? In what universe is that acceptable? Why would you do that? Nevermind the fact that, there is no way to get the kid the dress in time, but I don't like this kid. She's obnoxious, rude, and would probably roll down the aisle at the wedding. Not to mention the fact that I have three cousins that I didn't ask to be in the wedding either and having my fiance's cousin would create all sorts of family drama on my side.
Needless to say, I said no. My fiance had to call his aunt and explain that his cousin't couldn't be in the wedding and that it would create too many family issues on my side to include her. She claimed her daughter had gotten her hopes up and would be very disappointed.
I am just incredibly pissed that my in-laws have put me in this position. I just need some moral support that my in-laws are out of line and I am in the right.