Earlier in the afternoon I was chatting with 2 of my good friends from work. My one friend - let's call her S is engaged and her wedding is in June. My other friend, N, is not engaged, but she has been in at least 6 weddings, and has attended at least 15. No lie, this girl is like Katherine Heigel's character in 27 Dresses. A couple of months ago S texted me about her cousin, who is a bridesmaid. Apparently she is pregnant and is due 2 weeks after the wedding. My friend was upset because she was not sure if she should replace her or not. Her cousin said she absolutely wanted to remain in the wedding but my friend was unsure if she would be able to do anything wedding related, much less attend so close to her due date. She then told me about her alternative choices. I told her not to replace her cousin (for obvious reasons that have been discussed here), and to leave the decision up to her cousin.
Fast forward to today, we were talking about her wedding planning and she said she planned on keeping her cousin in the wedding. But that she really hoped that her cousin would be able to make it, because if not it would totally ruin the look of her wedding. She said she already knew which GM this girl was supposed to walk in with, and if she didn't show up, it would ruin the look because then one girl would have to walk in with 2 GM as a result. Additionally, it would ruin her program because she hates when people are listed in the program, and then it turns out they are not in the wedding after all. Friend N said "Well, she already said yes, so she HAS to be there. I mean she has no choice." Then S said that her cousin still had not purchased her dress, and she was going to purchase it 2 weeks before the wedding, since she doesn't know what size she will be. S then stated that she doesn't even know why this girl would want to be in the wedding since she will probably be "all big and bloated and feel gross." Mind you, S recently had a baby in the fall so I'm not sure why she would make such a comment.
I chose to just listen and not to say anything because when friend S has her mind set on something, that's the end all. She is very stubborn in her ways. At the same time I had not had my afternoon cup of coffee, so I was not in the mood to start any kind of debate. I just found it interesting, how some people view weddings, and their bridal party. Some brides need to put things into perspective and realize that this is a wedding and a marriage, not a play, and the bridal party are people with feelings, and not props in the play.
Interestingly enough - I forgot exactly what detail she made this reference about - but whatever it was she said she heard about in Wedding Wire, so she was going with it. Maybe that explains it.