Birthday surprise for BF?

blabla89 · February 2014

BF's birthday is coming up on Friday. After wracking my brain to come up with gift ideas I had nothing, so I made him tell me exactly what he wanted. He sent me links to Amazon to buy a weight lifting belt kinda thing and a compression shirt. So I ordered them and - SURPRISE - turns out he had suggested the exact same to his mom and she gave him two of the shirts last weekend. He said he didn't really have use for a third one, I was annoyed about it so he said he would give one back to his mom for her to return.

So anyway, BF already knows exactly what I'm going to give him and we had that little tiff about it, which is kind of a bummer. So, I want to do something or give him something additional as a surprise but I can't think of anything. What have you ladies surprised your SO's with? Any ideas would be great.

KeptInStitches · February 2014

BF keeps a wishlist going on ThinkGeek, which I'm free to pick from at any point. Last year for his birthday I knitted him a dice bag (he plays mostly d20 systems, including D&D and Pathfinder, and d10 systems including Exalted), got him a set of "weird" dice including d3, d5, d7, d16, and d24, and got him a set of dungeon-generating dice for one-off campaigns. I have no idea what I will do to top that.

[Deleted User] · February 2014

Gift certificate to his favorite restaurant
Lingerie (for you to wear...but really for him)
Mixed pack of his favorite beers (our local liquor store will let you mix and match your own 6-pack)
Massage certificate (I know this is traditionally for women, but if he works out a lot he may like a massage - H loves them)
Movie bucket - pack of his favorite candy, popcorn and a new DVD or a theater gift certificate
Auto detail certificate - Most dealerships will get your car looking brand new for $80-$100.

buddysmom80 · February 2014

@allusive007 I love all of your ideas!!!!

I hardly ever surprise FI with gifts because whatever he asks for I'll get him. Last Christmas he wanted an Xbox One and I was able to pre-order it, but I told him that I couldn't get it. So on Christmas morning he was really excited and surprised!

This year for his birthday I might surprise him with a cooking class or something. We're trying to not go crazy for birthdays/holidays this year but that hasn't worked out so far (we're generous to a fault...)

[Deleted User] · February 2014

@Buddysmom80 - I love the cooking class idea. H gave me a couple's cooking class certificate for one of our anniversaries and we used it for a Spanish Tapas class. It was so much fun!

@TwoDimes - The movie buckets are great for all kinds of things. I used them for our white elephant gifts for H's office holiday party. Also great for kids/teens!

Dignity100 · February 2014

Does he collect anything? My FI collects cards - so I know I got him a signed Big Bang Theory card that has a PSA rating (Wil Wheaton) - I was so proud of myself for that one!!

What about TV series? Could you get him his favorite series on DVD?

Tickets to a sporting event (or concert)?

minskat30 · February 2014

My H is practical and buys stuff when he needs it so it is hard to get him gifts he doesn't already have. I've done tickets to a show/concert a few times (Coldplay, Radiohead, Bears). I did tickets to his favorite comedian last time and that involved an out of state trip (but driveable) so I made it into a scavenger hunt of sorts with small gifts (i.e., put a map of where we were sitting with a little thing of whiskey he loves to drink before the show, put a picture of the hotel we were staying at with snacks he loves to eat in the hotel and a picture of the comedian with the big gift of the tickets at the end). Cheesy but I'm cheesy and he knows it.

Otherwise, what about new technology? Does your BF need a new phone? They have some really cool portable and cordless speakers if your BF is into music (that was part of H's last Christmas present).

I'll be following this thread because I'm stumped this year for H for his birthday (in a month). It is also our anniversary so I'd be willing to spend more than normal and double the gift size but I'm out of ideas and have been for months.

Blue & White · February 2014

I like experience trips - for Valentine's day/our one year anniversary of being engaged, I surprised FI with tickets to opening day of spring training, which is THIS WEEKEND! Yay

Should be fun!

[Deleted User] · February 2014

@Blue- Which team for spring training? H and I are flying to Orlando in March for the Braves spring training games against the Red Sox and The Mets.

phira · February 2014

Am I a HORRIBLE person for thinking of a sexual favor? Yes?

blabla89 · February 2014

Thanks ladies, y'all have the best ideas. I have some budget constraints since I'll be spending a lot on his birthday dinner, so I'll probably go with his favorite beer, or maybe a gift certificate for him to go out to his favorite bar with friends (I don't like going there) - plus a sweet treat from our favorite bakery.

@Phira - Nope, not horrible, although C and I have chosen to wait. Otherwise that would be my go-to.

[Deleted User] · February 2014

@lalalaurita - I like the idea of a gift certificate to his favorite bar! H and I also waited until we got hitched to get it on... you're not alone! although, I was pretty horrible and bought some lacy "pretty" things before we got married and showed it to him, just to tease him a little.

Blue & White · February 2014

@southernpeach89 We're going to the Orioles this weekend - when are you going to be in Orlando?! Cause @ollie08 and I both live near there and @irishdreamer isn't THAT far away (but a bit further than the whole of us)...plus, FI would totally go to a braves game, haha

[Deleted User] · February 2014

@Blue- We are going to be flying in late Friday night March 21st and I'm not sure where we are staying yet but we will be there for the weekend...I think we fly out Sunday night on the 23rd. I'll have to ask H what hotel we will be at...I think it's the Hilton since we use our points there.

phira · February 2014

Ah, then probably not a good idea!

Ollie08 · February 2014

That's so cool! BF's dad and step mom are in town that week for the Braves Spring Training and we're going to a few games too! We should definitely meet up @Blue&White and @southernpeach89

Blue & White · February 2014

@ollie08 and @southernpeach89 I can't believe we're the only non-braves fans in the world. We would definitely be interested. Keep me posted and then I'll check on tickets

[Deleted User] · February 2014

@Blue- I'm a Braves fan lol.

Ollie08 · February 2014

@Blue&White - lol I'm no Braves fan, but BF and his dad and stepmom are HUGE fans. It's a little ridic. In fact, pretty much all of BF's t-shirts are Braves related or Bears related. I'm just along for the hot dogs and beer!

Blue & White · February 2014

@southernpeach89 that was worded funny - I KNEW you were a braves fan. I meant that we (FI and I) aren't! I'm a Yankees fan, which makes no one like me haha. But FI is an Os fan, so he's more lovable (except when we play each other.) Both of us are from baseball families, though, so we could be watching little league and still enjoying it

@ollie08 I'm way too cheap for hot dogs and beer

Also, Saturday's game is sold out supposedly...boooo

[Deleted User] · February 2014

@Blue- Booo! Look into Sunday and let me know if y'all get tickets! The Braves are an emotional roller coaster! They get my hopes up during the beginning of the season and then they slump. We usually do well with divisional but then we suck once it comes to playoffs : (

Blue & White · February 2014

@southernpeach89 Sunday is a possibility, although it is with the...short squad? like..half the team? So I'm not sure how FI will feel about that, haha. We will see. I'll figure something out

blabla89 · February 2014

TwoDimes said:

lalalaurita said:

Thanks ladies, y'all have the best ideas. I have some budget constraints since I'll be spending a lot on his birthday dinner, so I'll probably go with his favorite beer, or maybe a gift certificate for him to go out to his favorite bar with friends (I don't like going there) - plus a sweet treat from our favorite bakery.

@Phira - Nope, not horrible, although C and I have chosen to wait. Otherwise that would be my go-to.

@lalalaurita - My curiosity is getting the best of me, so I have to ask. First off, no judgement from me on waiting.

But what I'm wondering is, how do you know that a sexual favor would be your go-to birthday gift if you and your SO have chosen to wait? The fact that you commented "otherwise that would be my go-to" makes it seem like that's normally your go-to, as in, you've given sexual favors as gifts before.... does this mean you chose NOT to wait with a previous SO, or am I reading it wrong...?

I'm just curious, either way I have no judgement. And if it's too personal a question, that's fine, just tell me to mind my own beeswax!

That's correct - I never waited with previous SO's and always ended up regretting it. Same for BF. So, we decided we would wait until we're married. I totally don't mean to come across as being holier-than-thou about it (sorry if I did!) because it's not my business what anyone else chooses, but that's what we feel is right for us.

I say it would be my go-to because I can never think of a good surprise gift and I'm terrible at cooking. But there are a few other things I'm good at if ya know what I mean...

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