So my Fiancee and I are thinking about eloping. This is a second marriage for both of us and if we did a wedding it would be a very small (less than 20 people) destination wedding where we would upset a lot of our family and friends. Due to that we were thinking of just the two of us going off and eloping and having a post elopement reception/gathering, however a few of my close girlfriends still want to do the whole traditional bridal shower, bachelorette party, etc. even though they know they or anyone will be in attendance for the real ceremony. Since very few places even mention elopement much less technicalities with it, what is the etiquette for elopements and pre/post parties?